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"Hello world" thread
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Re: "Hello world" thread
Welcome and best of luck....
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Checkout http://keyheld.blogspot.com/ for lots of good blogs with great advice
Re: "Hello world" thread
Hi Edgewood!
It looks like the both of you are doing great.
Let me chime in with some observations of my own, if I may.
I'm not surprised over the effect of your "coming out". Women love to be trusted with the intimate secrets of their men. Reciprocally, she will be more open with her (secret or not) desires.
And you will be topping from the bottom at least for some time. No book by anybody can tell her what's going on in your head, so she (quite desperately) needs your input on what's right and what's wrong. And real trust in it will only come after you've hit a bad spot and been open about it. When she knows deep down inside that she can't hurt you, because you're not too proud or "manly" to call "stop", she will gain trust in herself that she's doing it right.
Don't call 11 days "mere". Let that be told to you from a guy whose longest stretch has been 2 (two) days
And the episode after the morning run clearly was a "sounding you out" from her side. By asking you to call it quits at the height of arousal she wanted to know if you really crave being kept from coming.
One question: has your mutual sex life improved? Does she want and get more from you now?
K
It looks like the both of you are doing great.
Let me chime in with some observations of my own, if I may.
I'm not surprised over the effect of your "coming out". Women love to be trusted with the intimate secrets of their men. Reciprocally, she will be more open with her (secret or not) desires.
And you will be topping from the bottom at least for some time. No book by anybody can tell her what's going on in your head, so she (quite desperately) needs your input on what's right and what's wrong. And real trust in it will only come after you've hit a bad spot and been open about it. When she knows deep down inside that she can't hurt you, because you're not too proud or "manly" to call "stop", she will gain trust in herself that she's doing it right.
Don't call 11 days "mere". Let that be told to you from a guy whose longest stretch has been 2 (two) days
And the episode after the morning run clearly was a "sounding you out" from her side. By asking you to call it quits at the height of arousal she wanted to know if you really crave being kept from coming.
One question: has your mutual sex life improved? Does she want and get more from you now?
K
Currently using: Steelworxx Looker 2
Owns: CB6000, Bon4, Sentinel (Copy), Birdcage (Copy), Lovejail, Gerecke Desire (Titanium)
Owns: CB6000, Bon4, Sentinel (Copy), Birdcage (Copy), Lovejail, Gerecke Desire (Titanium)
Re: "Hello world" thread
K-
The answer to your questions is that yes, there is more activity between us now. It's not as much as I would like yet but then again I've been coming to grips with the fact that I have an above average sex drive (it's the same as it was 15 years ago) and my wife has a below average sex drive. Heaped on top of that is some good-ol Catholic sexual repression on her part.
If I'm totally honest about it though it has more to do with the fact that we are both very busy and I need to do more around the house so she has more free time on her hands. This is not to be confused with how some men get off when doing chores (good for them). I prefer not to do more work (I already do more than half) but if that's what it takes to keep things moving forward then I'm going to step up. I have given her plenty of resources for example and she has yet to find the time to read them. She has assured me that it is not for lack of interest but that she just hasn't had the time. I believe her because I have assured her that I love being kept in chastity. She knows me well enough to know that I will not tire of this.
There are some positive signs. The other day she told me that she had scored a couple of tickets to a local performance where people read stories (both real and fiction) about sexual encounters. She also has started reading a blog from a friend that has an open marriage. Those two things tell me she is coming to grips with expressing her sexuality and with the idea that I am already comfortable doing so.
Six months from now I'd like us to have 3-4 sessions a week where she's working on me, I'm working on her or we are both working on each other. In my mind those sessions qualify as sex so if someone were to ask, I would say the ideal year would be 12-20 orgasms for me, with us having sex about 180 times. That's a far cry form the 200/5 ratio we used to have. Just to put an exclamation point on it, we have had sex more times in November than we had in the first six months of this year. Yes, and it's only November 8th.
One last thing. In a way we have already hit the bad spot you talk about. Early in October when she was super stressed about an upcoming presentation I felt like I was languishing in the CB. So, one morning after I was released for cleaning I just left it off and left it there on the back of my sink. Two weeks later when things calmed down I jumped back in. Turns out that kind of bothered her because we didn't TALK about it and she didn't know why I quit wearing it. I told her I quit because I didn't want to burden her with another responsibility during a stressful time. She understood but we both agreed that we needed to talk about it the next time.
All that said, I sense that we may end up with a chastity story very much like Tom Allen's where after a period of exploration there will be a long break. Then one day I'll get back in and my wife will realize how amazing having control over my orgasms really is.
The answer to your questions is that yes, there is more activity between us now. It's not as much as I would like yet but then again I've been coming to grips with the fact that I have an above average sex drive (it's the same as it was 15 years ago) and my wife has a below average sex drive. Heaped on top of that is some good-ol Catholic sexual repression on her part.
If I'm totally honest about it though it has more to do with the fact that we are both very busy and I need to do more around the house so she has more free time on her hands. This is not to be confused with how some men get off when doing chores (good for them). I prefer not to do more work (I already do more than half) but if that's what it takes to keep things moving forward then I'm going to step up. I have given her plenty of resources for example and she has yet to find the time to read them. She has assured me that it is not for lack of interest but that she just hasn't had the time. I believe her because I have assured her that I love being kept in chastity. She knows me well enough to know that I will not tire of this.
There are some positive signs. The other day she told me that she had scored a couple of tickets to a local performance where people read stories (both real and fiction) about sexual encounters. She also has started reading a blog from a friend that has an open marriage. Those two things tell me she is coming to grips with expressing her sexuality and with the idea that I am already comfortable doing so.
Six months from now I'd like us to have 3-4 sessions a week where she's working on me, I'm working on her or we are both working on each other. In my mind those sessions qualify as sex so if someone were to ask, I would say the ideal year would be 12-20 orgasms for me, with us having sex about 180 times. That's a far cry form the 200/5 ratio we used to have. Just to put an exclamation point on it, we have had sex more times in November than we had in the first six months of this year. Yes, and it's only November 8th.
One last thing. In a way we have already hit the bad spot you talk about. Early in October when she was super stressed about an upcoming presentation I felt like I was languishing in the CB. So, one morning after I was released for cleaning I just left it off and left it there on the back of my sink. Two weeks later when things calmed down I jumped back in. Turns out that kind of bothered her because we didn't TALK about it and she didn't know why I quit wearing it. I told her I quit because I didn't want to burden her with another responsibility during a stressful time. She understood but we both agreed that we needed to talk about it the next time.
All that said, I sense that we may end up with a chastity story very much like Tom Allen's where after a period of exploration there will be a long break. Then one day I'll get back in and my wife will realize how amazing having control over my orgasms really is.
Re: "Hello world" thread
It needs trust from both sides. Her trusting in you to tell her when things are sore or you feel unhappy (like when she is stressed and seems to "forget" that you are locked up), and you trusting in her that she won't simply forget and that a longer lockup time (eg) happens because she wants it.
The ratio you stated is quite close to ours. Just that I went from something like 5 a day (I was bored) to once per day, and having sex as a couple has rocketed up from once or twice a month to daily, also.
Great to hear that you do so well.
Doing the little things to make her load easier can have an astounding effect on her sex drive. Being allowed to come home, take a shower and simply drop dead in front of the TV while someone else does dinner and looks after the kids can work magic. Women simply need more to get into the mood, we men are programmed by nature to go hunting anytime.
One of my discoveries this last year has been that I am quite good at massaging, which helps in making her accept other "attentions" although it may be late and she's tired.
K
The ratio you stated is quite close to ours. Just that I went from something like 5 a day (I was bored) to once per day, and having sex as a couple has rocketed up from once or twice a month to daily, also.
Great to hear that you do so well.
Doing the little things to make her load easier can have an astounding effect on her sex drive. Being allowed to come home, take a shower and simply drop dead in front of the TV while someone else does dinner and looks after the kids can work magic. Women simply need more to get into the mood, we men are programmed by nature to go hunting anytime.
One of my discoveries this last year has been that I am quite good at massaging, which helps in making her accept other "attentions"
although it may be late and she's tired.K
Currently using: Steelworxx Looker 2
Owns: CB6000, Bon4, Sentinel (Copy), Birdcage (Copy), Lovejail, Gerecke Desire (Titanium)
Owns: CB6000, Bon4, Sentinel (Copy), Birdcage (Copy), Lovejail, Gerecke Desire (Titanium)
Re: "Hello world" thread
Hello, I'm relatively new to chastity. I've experimented with it with one girlfriend in the past and I hope to get much more into it in the future. The initial reason I am joining the forums is to ask a couple questions concerning chastity devices.
I'll probably end up creating a separate topic for this elsewhere, but I figure I'll mention my main question here and see if it gets a response:
I've owned a CB-6000 for about half a year, and the Curve model for a few months. Length-wise, I think the CB-6000 is a pretty good fit for me. Unfortunately, after only a few months of very intermittent use (probably only about two weeks of total wear), several cracks began forming in the tube portion. My erection would really strain against it at night, and the cracks quickly grew. Since the tube is rather narrow for me, I decided to order the Curve tube as replacement. The Curve tube has been holding up much better: I've worn it for a few weeks of total use and I don't see any cracks forming yet. Unfortunately, the Curve feels a bit too big in general. I can get erect enough in it that it's basically providing stimulation and I can come without much trouble. I've come by accident this way a couple times during tease sessions. So that's not doing much for me in terms of chastity. I can sure sleep better with the Curve, though. I'd wake up very frequently with pain from the CB-6000...
Any suggestions? The CB-6000 seems too tight for me (or just too fragile) and quickly cracks all along the tube. The Curve is too big for me and allows me to become erect enough to reach orgasm.
I'll probably end up creating a separate topic for this elsewhere, but I figure I'll mention my main question here and see if it gets a response:
I've owned a CB-6000 for about half a year, and the Curve model for a few months. Length-wise, I think the CB-6000 is a pretty good fit for me. Unfortunately, after only a few months of very intermittent use (probably only about two weeks of total wear), several cracks began forming in the tube portion. My erection would really strain against it at night, and the cracks quickly grew. Since the tube is rather narrow for me, I decided to order the Curve tube as replacement. The Curve tube has been holding up much better: I've worn it for a few weeks of total use and I don't see any cracks forming yet. Unfortunately, the Curve feels a bit too big in general. I can get erect enough in it that it's basically providing stimulation and I can come without much trouble. I've come by accident this way a couple times during tease sessions. So that's not doing much for me in terms of chastity. I can sure sleep better with the Curve, though. I'd wake up very frequently with pain from the CB-6000...
Any suggestions? The CB-6000 seems too tight for me (or just too fragile) and quickly cracks all along the tube. The Curve is too big for me and allows me to become erect enough to reach orgasm.
Re: "Hello world" thread
I have the CB-6000S now. It's a genuine unit, bought from a trusted retailer, and I'm having some of the same issues, along with a bitch of a time trying to stay clean inside of it. It's definitely not the best model from a hygenic standpoint.
Honestly, the only way you're going to get what you're looking for is to go custom. I'm picking up the Queen's Keep from Mature Metal in a few weeks and the trade-off for the price is a fully custom-sized unit, with the options I desire. Plus, metal just looks so much sexier. ;->
Honestly, the only way you're going to get what you're looking for is to go custom. I'm picking up the Queen's Keep from Mature Metal in a few weeks and the trade-off for the price is a fully custom-sized unit, with the options I desire. Plus, metal just looks so much sexier. ;->
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Tom Allen
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Re: "Hello world" thread
I have always said that the CB6000 was not as well built as the 3000. I've had similar issues with the "hydraulic pressure" splitting the bottom seam. But then, I've had side splits in the 3k as well. Over the years I've had several replacement tubes; now, the first thing I do is to use a razor knife to split the cage at the sonic-welded seams, and then reglue them with a gel superglue.
The 6k continued to split at the bottom, so I heated a thin piece of plastic into a curve, and then glued the entire thing over a 1/2" wide section of the seam as a patch. I smoothed it over, and it seems fine. The thing is, not everybody has the time, skills, or inclination to do this kind of work - nor should they be expected to.
I like the overall shape, though. I just wish that there were an easy way to make it from stainless tubing.
The 6k continued to split at the bottom, so I heated a thin piece of plastic into a curve, and then glued the entire thing over a 1/2" wide section of the seam as a patch. I smoothed it over, and it seems fine. The thing is, not everybody has the time, skills, or inclination to do this kind of work - nor should they be expected to.
I like the overall shape, though. I just wish that there were an easy way to make it from stainless tubing.
Tom Allen
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whistlersix
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Re: "Hello world" thread
Hello world.
I've been lurking for over a year and thought it was time to say hello and start contributing. I've had a CB3000 for about 4 years now and wore it off and on of my own initiative but I think my wife is finally coming around to the benefits of me being locked up. While she hasn't become a dominant, whip wielding keyholder (yet
), she is starting to open up a bit more to the idea of orgasm control and denial.
I appreciate all the candid and realistic discussions on the board and hope I can bring something to the conversations.
I've been lurking for over a year and thought it was time to say hello and start contributing. I've had a CB3000 for about 4 years now and wore it off and on of my own initiative but I think my wife is finally coming around to the benefits of me being locked up. While she hasn't become a dominant, whip wielding keyholder (yet
), she is starting to open up a bit more to the idea of orgasm control and denial. I appreciate all the candid and realistic discussions on the board and hope I can bring something to the conversations.
Currently Wearing: A271
Re: "Hello world" thread
whistlersix,
Welcome to the forum! It is quite a journey for the spouses. It takes quite a while for them to get the arms around it and fully understand it. It does take years in some cases. We look forward to hearing more on your progress.
Welcome to the forum! It is quite a journey for the spouses. It takes quite a while for them to get the arms around it and fully understand it. It does take years in some cases. We look forward to hearing more on your progress.
Wishful4
Current Device: DhGate A271
Current Device: DhGate A271
Re: "Hello world" thread
Thank you to kris727 and TomAllen for providing quick responses to my question. That is some useful input. Since I stopped wearing the CB6000 cage before it completely split (it developed a couple sharp spots and I put it aside) I will experiment with some superglue and filing.
If I decide to make another purchase, I may look into the custom stainless steel variety. Something like the Jail Bird or Queen's Keep from Mature Metal looks appealing to me: similar shape to the CB6000 I like, but made of something that won't break. I think that would cost me less in the long run than replacing the plastic components each time they break. Only concern is that I better get my measurements right before ordering something custom! So I'd like to wear the CB6000 for a while longer to see where my sizes settle down to.
If I decide to make another purchase, I may look into the custom stainless steel variety. Something like the Jail Bird or Queen's Keep from Mature Metal looks appealing to me: similar shape to the CB6000 I like, but made of something that won't break. I think that would cost me less in the long run than replacing the plastic components each time they break. Only concern is that I better get my measurements right before ordering something custom! So I'd like to wear the CB6000 for a while longer to see where my sizes settle down to.