"Hello world" thread

[Clearshooter]

Well, I'm a newbie and I have a wife who is not interested. She sees chastity as "unmanly" and like some of the other blogs I've read wants a "strong" man. So not certain what the future holds. I'm older, in my late 50's and sport a nipple and frenum piercings.

I am currently considering a PA as well as a guiche for additional piercings and am looking forward to learning more about long term chastity.

As an aside, it seems our "normal" sexual contact has fallen to around once or maybe twice a week so it seeems to me moving to the next step would not be too difficult for either of us.

[denied_one]

Hello everyone. I am a 34 year old married guy who is lucky enough to be indulged by my Wife with regards to chastity play. She is 30 so we are pretty young and therefore very lucky to be experimenting in this realm of kink very early on! We aren't into longtime chastity at all. We find 3 or 4 days is really enough to work me up to a horny mess. We also participate in chastity I'm cycles. Whenever we get the urge, basically. I hope you all and the forum mods find this "hello world" post acceptable LOL!

[Tom Allen]

She sees chastity as "unmanly" and like some of the other blogs I've read wants a "strong" man.

Ugh. I feel for you.

If she's inclined to read anything online, you might consider sending her my wife's take on it:
Cock Locking

She does it — she enjoys it — because she’s asserting her authority over something that needs to be controlled;

[Clearshooter]

Thanks Tom. In fact, it was your blog that pointed me to Thumper's and gave me the courage to write. I'm not certain where to go at this point. When I first brought it up she was quite adamant and I definitely don't want to whine.

[Tom Allen]

You might look into Sarah Jameson's book. I know her blog comes across like a fad weight loss diet website, but the book is actually pretty decent.

Also, I found another book exceedingly helpful in getting my wife to understand some things - not specifically chastity, just in general.
When Someone You Love is Kinky

[Clearshooter]

Thanks, I'll check it out.

[kpb57]

Hi Clearshooter!

Another one that could be helpful is Pat Califia's "Sensual Magic", that also deals with what to do when a couple discovers that one or both are into kinks.

Have a happy time around here.

K

[james007]

hello world

james ere 23 girlfriend looking to lock me up just trying to get some more information have a cb3000 on where it day times the past 3 days now,.

[celticqueens_sub]

ahh.. Mr Bond... we've been expecting you...

Welcome! couldn't resist. Sorry.

[Edgewood]

Hello Everyone.

I'm new here and I have to give thanks to those who have blogged and written about chastity (Thumper, Sarah Jameson,The Edge of Vanilla, The Key is on My Nipple Ring, Lucy Fairbourne... etc.). You have made it possible for me to understand that a) I'm not weird and b) there is a way to introduce the concept of chastity to your partner. It's not easy, but there is a way. I'm going to tell a short version of my story here.

I bought a CB3000 in late spring and never even gave serious thought to discussing it with my wife. Basically I was going to play with it when she was gone for business or on visits to her family. We've been married for over 15 years and our sex life had ground to a halt. I was giving myself about 200 orgasms a year but only (and I hate to admit this) 4 or 5 of those were with her. After one weekend in the CB I decided that I just had to talk to my wife about it. After her trip we fell into our usual routine and I chickened out.

I was gone on business for three weeks in July and I figured I would get some serious use out of it during that time. My trip though was a bit more demanding than I expected. After the first night on the road I didn't wear it because of lack of sleep. At the end of the trip, self conscious about packing it in my suitcase and worried about getting it home without suffering some kind of major embarrassment at the hands of the TSA, I chucked it in the trash. Some of that was also due to the frustration that I couldn't bring the subject up with my wife.

Back at home things were normal and after a month, out of boredom I purchased a 6000s. My wife flew out for Labor Day weekend and I jumped in right away and was instantly back in the mindset of having to bring it up with her. I prepared a full presentation on the computer. I had sites bookmarked and Fairbourne's book in hand. Just by chance though (and here's where the story could get long if I gave the details) the subject of male sex drive came up in a conversation over lunch one day and I delicately steered it to a place where my wife said, "Is that something that interests you?"

She was understanding. A bit surprised. And she loved me because I had confided something very personal and intimate with her. I had trusted her. I was surprised. And overwhelmed with love for her because she understood. I also felt like for the first time in our marriage we could graphically talk about our sexual desires. ("No. Touch me there instead. Yup. That's it.")

It's not all perfect. As most of you chastity vets can imagine, just about any woman that is understanding enough to accept their husband's kink is not necessarily the dominating type. So it's been a bit slow. She's a bit of a pushover and I've been topping from the bottom for a bit. I'm currently at my longest stretch without orgasm—a meer 11 days.

The other day though she came into the bedroom from an early morning run, slipped her hands under the covers and warmed them up on my balls. I got so worked up that she unlocked me, put some lube on her hands and started stroking me. She then told me I couldn't come and then made me ask her to quit.

Good heavens, this just might work out...