Chastity bubble, and its pop

[fuzzydunlop]

Judging from blogging and posting patterns, I am not alone in that I can be in a surreal chastity frenzy one week, and then flat and hung over post orgasm. My wife and I have been on 3 good long term denial streaks this year, but the latest one came to an end (so I thought) after unexpected intercourse last weekend. I thought it was going to be two more weeks, but we had some of the best sex of the year.

Last night, I was feeling very amped up, anxious, and not particularly sexy, and I used a little self abuse to take the edge off, figuring 3 orgasm free days right after sex was a pretty good record. Today, I was surprised to find that the wife expected me to abstain another two weeks, notwithstanding the furlough on Sunday. Sometimes, she hams it up on these things to appease me, but I think she is actually irritated. I feel like a dunce. We are still working this out. I will have to figure out how to reinflate the bubble.

[poor]

A bunch of flowers with a card saying 'Sorry' is always a good place to start. Take it from a man who is on first name terms with his local florist.

[jnuts]

I've found that if Belle doesn't give me a couple days off and goes right back into some T&D, I'm usually ok in a couple of days.

[danj]

I've found that if Belle doesn't give me a couple days off and goes right back into some T&D, I'm usually ok in a couple of days.

Yes. My wife used to often give me a break after a cycle. Lately, that hasn't been the case. It has taken some adjusting on my part. Having an orgasm and going right into another cycle without additional release can be tough. For me it's like only one orgasm doesn't relieve all the pressure, so I struggle the first few days.

I do think its better this way. I do prefer her having 24/7 control, so glad she's been more strict.

[wishful4]

Though we are still experimenting, we find that the quicker I go back into my device, the faster my recovery from the post-orgasmic low. If I remain free, it lasts 5-7 days. If I go back into the device, I am back to normal in 2-3 days.This is of great concern to my spouse/KH. She does not like the post-orgasmic low at all. I thought of telling her about the ruined orgasm, but I'm concerned that if she becomes very proficient at it, I may never get another full blown orgasm from her.

[danj]

While I haven't figured it all out, I am somewhat different post orgasm if I only climax once as opposed to twice (or more) within a day or so. If I'm only allowed that one orgasm, I might be sated for 12 hours, maybe even less. So, by the next day I'm horny and starting to follow my wife around again.

If she lets me cum twice, then I feel more of a let down. I don't totally understand it, and think it also is impacted on how long I was denied, lately 6 days has been pretty average. Short cycles, but that's her call. Since she hasn't been allowing me multiple orgasms in the same day, I feel like I'm constantly worked up. It still takes some days to get to Nirvana, but not long. My wife has been an amazing keyholder lately.

[fuzzydunlop]

I guess the most surprising thing to me is that I could see it in her eyes that she was annoyed---she's not one to hide feelings. When I am doing chastity, I can get insecure that she is only appeasing me, and not all that interested. We have flirted with chastity a lot of the 15 years we have known each other, but the last 2-3 years, she seems to be more into how "compliant" I get after about a week. We mostly use the honor system, but own a CB-6000, and I am thinking about encouraging her to use it more to keep my mind more in the right sub place.