Questions from/for Keyholders

[keyhldr]

No rules, really. Just suggestions . . .
My best suggestion is to remember that with his cock locked up, you can do what you want to get him hot - just a few minutes (or even seconds) of it, and then walk away. The whole point of male chastity (IMNSHO) is TEASE and DENIAL. So tease him. Often. Use your imagination. A pair of shoes that he likes? Wear them. A sexy outfit, ditto. Touch him where he likes to be touched (nipples, balls, etc.). Talk dirty to him. Dry humping. Everything and anything you can think of that gets him hot. Flirt. Do what you want, but DON'T LET HIM OUT! It will drive him mad, and that's exactly what he wants. I personally find it very freeing to be able to tease the hell out of my hubby without the pressure of feeling like, "If I start something, I need to be prepared to finish it." That's the beauty of it, there is no finishing required. I can play for seconds, minutes, or hours, it's all up to me. Oh, and remember, part of teasing him can be allowing him to play with your nipples, sucking on your breasts, eating your pussy, etc. Whatever turns YOU on. If you want penetrative sex, have him use a dildo. Tell him things like, "Don't you wish that were your cock inside of me?" while he does it. Just have fun. Get in touch with your inner cocktease!

[Dev]

Any one know of a site that sells jewelry that holds keys? With a 5 month and a 16 month old, having a key around my neck would mean I would be strangled several times a day. (And no, we did not plan them that close. Just got into chastity too late. )

I saw a picture of someone who wore her key on an anklet. You know where mine is. Or just hiding it somewhere in the house. The point is, jnuts should not have any access to the key and has to ask you for it/where it is.

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[Dev]

Get in touch with your inner cocktease!

Great advice! This is something I have been working on. I think women are socialized to not be cockteases...I mean, when you are a certain age, that's a pretty bad insult.

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[likes2blocked]

Get in touch with your inner cocktease!

Great advice! This is something I have been working on. I think women are socialized to not be cockteases...I mean, when you are a certain age, that's a pretty bad insult.

Not really - it is more something dumb macho guys say when they don't get what they want. The thing that's relevant here is that it seriously stimulates our pursuit triggers, and there's a strong message that she is sexually interested in _you_. All of that's a good thing, especially for men like those who post here.

A cocktease is also a woman who is (barring violence) in control of the sexual aspect of the relationship, and that's certainly fun from my POV.

[Dev]

Not really - it is more something dumb macho guys say when they don't get what they want.

If you are 18, 19 or 20 and interested in that dumb macho guy but not quite ready to tumble into bed with him but that's what he wants and you are not putting out...getting called a cocktease, either to your face or behind your back is a pretty hurtful insult. It can also take the wind out of your sails pretty quick and put the kibosh on any future romance or relationship. That's why I said women are socialized to not act this way. When you are in your 40s and with a loving partner and willing to push the boundaries to keep the relationship vibrant and exciting then yes, finding that inner cocktease is a great thing to do -- and being in charge is great, too. But I think we all cart around a lot of old baggage (I know I do) and it is hard to sometimes to get rid of that stuff. On the other hand, it gets easier with each passing year and that's a great thing.

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[likes2blocked]

If you are 18, 19 or 20 and interested in that dumb macho guy but not quite ready to tumble into bed with him but that's what he wants and you are not putting out...getting called a cocktease, either to your face or behind your back is a pretty hurtful insult.

Well sure, but when I look back on that, what I see is an insensitive, selfish asshole who wasn't respecting you or your choices about what to do with your body. Anyone who would do such a thing, unless very seriously provoked, doesn't really deserve the gift of any woman's body. Insults from people who are clearly jerks aren't something to worry about.

It can also take the wind out of your sails pretty quick and put the kibosh on any future romance or relationship. That's why I said women are socialized to not act this way.

Of course you are, and I think that's highly destructive. I'm sure you didn't see it this way at the time, but he just put up a huge sign "I'm an asshole, and might even be an abusive asshole" - better for you to stay away. I don't know how many times I've seen a relationship where she'd put his needs ahead of hers, and eventually she grows up or simply wakes up and is tired of that, and things explode.

That's one of the more interesting phenomena among people doing this - putting her wants and needs ahead of his, at least sexually, leads to a much happier relationship.

When you are in your 40s and with a loving partner and willing to push the boundaries to keep the relationship vibrant and exciting then yes, finding that inner cocktease is a great thing to do -- and being in charge is great, too.

Exactly.

But I think we all cart around a lot of old baggage (I know I do) and it is hard to sometimes to get rid of that stuff. On the other hand, it gets easier with each passing year and that's a great thing.

Sure - I always find it interesting to watch movies from different eras to see what they considered 'normal'. You're about 5 years older than I am, and got a stronger dose of that traditional 50's to early 60's imprinting.

Back to the thread, getting to exercise that inner cocktease is something keyhldr finds to be a _lot_ of fun, given that she's got a strong streak of it to start with, and can now safely do that, _and_ I love it. And her.

[Belle]

Decided I am going to go a little different with the visible key thing. I am going to get a sterling silver "symbolic" key to wear around my neck. This way I can wear it all the time, and avoid questions from family. He knows what it means, and will see it constantly. The actual key will remain hidden, and may make an appearance on a chain if we go out, or may not. This way he will never know if I have the key and therefore the potential to unlock him.
Something like this....
http://www.amazon.com/Tiffany-Inspired- ... B003RZGH3O

Also thinking about getting a key tattoo, which I am sure I will be doing in the near future.

[likes2blocked]

Decided I am going to go a little different with the visible key thing. I am going to get a sterling silver "symbolic" key to wear around my neck.

That's a pretty piece of jewelry. We do the same thing with her key and heart-shaped locket - I know exactly what it means, and it makes me shiver.

[Atone]

I am going to get a sterling silver "symbolic" key to wear around my neck.

We tried this idea but so far it hasn't worked out. My wife found a 'key' online so I ordered it for her. Why do they put all the measurements in mm's? I can't think in metric and I was even subject to the 'forced' conversion to metric (here in the US) a few years back. That obviously failed. OK, maybe that was a few decades back, well in to the last millennium even. Darn I feel old. Anyway, back to the subject. The key is absolutely beautiful. It is also enormous, probably close to 2". Nothing subtle about that. The one you linked to is 38mm, how big is that? About 1 1/2" I think. Does that include the connection point? How about the other little ring? They don't make it easy to buy something like this online. I think it was easier to figure out the sizing on my jailbird.

I haven't even seen her wear it. I did think about it this weekend though because she was off on girls weekend at a resort and spa. I wish I had thought of it earlier so I could have tried to convince her to wear it, at least for a while.

-A

[Dev]

A, you just needed to read a little further down on the page. It says:

This is a classic Tiffany & Co inspired piece. This sterling silver oval key necklace defines elegance. The pendant measures 1.5" in length and 5/8" in width. An adjustable 16-18" silver rolo chain is included.

Belle, you said the other day that with two little children, you couldn't wear a necklace because you'd be constantly strangled. So I am wondering how this one would work? Do you intend to wear it only when you go out, not all the time?

I wish they'd make pretty keys for locks, like they did in the old days. I certainly would like something nicer than this ordinary silver-colored thing hanging off my chain right now.

My husband doesn't seem to be all that interested in or wound up by the key. I wonder if I took it off and hid it completely if that would get more of a rise out of him. He was actually complaining the other day that sometimes he feels like he gets too much metal in his mouth when he's trying for a right-sided suckling. I hinted around last night that I might have a solution to that problem, soon. (He doesn't know about the WM that is on order.)

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