Curious to see where people are on this. Very curious to hear if any couples on the board have the same response from both members.
Also, how did the role change over time? For me, I know it started as solo play until I got the nerve up to ask my wife to be my KH, then it was occasional spice, and now it defines our sex life (but not our entire relationship, don't think it ever will either, but that's us, you may be different).
What Role does Chastity play in your life?
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Re: What Role does Chastity play in your life?
It’s hard to cast a vote, because we fall somewhere between the third and fourth option.
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It is difficult as began to spice up sex life then became the sex life. Now seeing signs of it taking little pieces of control and public humiliation. It’s kind of on a path towards number four.
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We were a #4 before we even knew what chastity was. Because I have "a thing" She says for "Female Authority", we have led a basic FLR since 2002.
So the control She enjoys in our real life outside of the bedroom, in conjunction with the chastity cage, we are a #4
So the control She enjoys in our real life outside of the bedroom, in conjunction with the chastity cage, we are a #4
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For medical reasons our sex life had pretty much fizzled out. Now she's embraced the fun of taking control and caging me our sex life and intimacy is very much back, although very different to how it was 15 years ago when it was all about PIV sex.
Its not limited to the bedroom as i wear a cage most of the time at home, am denied all the time and she controls me when and wherever she feels like it.
Edit.
I guess that means we fit between the last two, although I voted for 3.
Its not limited to the bedroom as i wear a cage most of the time at home, am denied all the time and she controls me when and wherever she feels like it.
Edit.
I guess that means we fit between the last two, although I voted for 3.
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We are an alternate 2. It’s actually not directly sexual for us, but it is emotionally satisfying for me in a few ways to be in chastity with her controlling the release.
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There needs to be a further option, fitting between the last two.
Something like "Chastity and the control it gives the KH defines our sex life and most of our relationship beyond the bedroom."
Something like that anyway. Then I think we could select it as our vote.
Something like "Chastity and the control it gives the KH defines our sex life and most of our relationship beyond the bedroom."
Something like that anyway. Then I think we could select it as our vote.
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Yeah.
My version is "Miss C controls what she wants to control".
My version is "Miss C controls what she wants to control".
Me. "I only got 30 seconds, that's not fair". C. "life's not fair, suck it up" 

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Re: What Role does Chastity play in your life?
I have to agree with Sam in that we started this last summer as a way to spice things up. But since Valentine's Day, wife has really gotten into her newfound control and has said that there is no way she is willing to give this up so we are at #3 as it only extends to our sex life. She says she now has two husbands she can choose between, but in the bedroom it is mostly the chastity cage husband she prefers.