Hi everyone!
My name’s Andy, I’m a 40 yo gay male from the UK.
I’ve been interested in chastity for a long time, and took the plunge and bought my first device in 2016. It wasn’t very comfortable (steel, too long, too big a ring) so it took me a while before I had the confidence to buy a better fitting device - also steel - which is much more comfortable to wear and isn’t noticeable under my clothes.
Over the years I’ve tried to wear it in secret from my husband - as he’s pretty vanilla - but never ended up wearing it for more than a few hours.
Recently my husband and I talked more openly about our desires, and I told him my desire for chastity and he’s happy for me to wear my device when I want to. I managed 48 hours last month and am trying again for longer, starting tonight. Also hoping I can get my husband to agree to have my key so I physically cannot take it off myself.
I’ve also bought a Cobra resin device to see if it’s any lighter to wear (but I still feel it’s there) as the steel can feel heavy after a while - it should arrive next week.
Hoping to chat with more like-minded people on here!
"Hello world" thread
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Hello world!
Been into chastity for about 2-3 years but have only been really into it for about the last 6 months. However things really changed in the start of 2025 and I’ve been locked for most of the year, so far ongoing 31 days (how exciting!). I’m also challenging myself to lose weight while locked and so far I have dropped 5lbs, which is sweet! My husband has been super supportive and helping me along the way and love how much he supports me.
Here’s to more days locked and more weight lost!
Cheers
Been into chastity for about 2-3 years but have only been really into it for about the last 6 months. However things really changed in the start of 2025 and I’ve been locked for most of the year, so far ongoing 31 days (how exciting!). I’m also challenging myself to lose weight while locked and so far I have dropped 5lbs, which is sweet! My husband has been super supportive and helping me along the way and love how much he supports me.
Here’s to more days locked and more weight lost!
Cheers
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Hello All! Great to be here! My wife and I have been married a very long time and enjoy an amazing chemistry both in and also out of bed.
I found this forum when searching on why I was getting a nasty rash and edema and discovered that the cage I was trying out was dyed with PPD and I am allergic! I read from multiple members of their experiences and that helped me through the healing process. For that I am thankful!
Anyway. Here’s the current situation. I ceded the power of our sexual relationship to my wife years ago because she has developed some health issues over the years that cause her pain and distraction. It’s not all the time but I felt bad trying to initiate sex only to be told no because she doesn't feel well. Lot's of guilt associated with that too - She's not feeling well and I - the beast - pawing at her for sex... that is going on in my mind.
Then I introduced the cock cage. TADA! Problem solved – so I thought. She literally can hold the key, have 100% control of our sex life. I love, love. love the feel of being locked up. When she wants to make love - whip out the key! When she doesn't she can still tease me with it. – so it seemed like a win-win.
Here’s the catch. She just told me that she doesn’t like the cage for a few reasons – one was that she’s just not “KH material” while I think she’s got some great potential – because in every other aspect in her life she is an absolute control freak! LOL - That's a work in process.
The other reason, and the biggest issue is because when she spoons with me in bed at night she likes to grab and cup my relaxed balls because it makes her feel comfortable. I’m not complaining there of course! She says when I’m wearing the cage my balls are – what are the words she used? Tight, tense, full - like water balloons whatever the opposite of relaxed and hanging there which she likes.
So, as the playful, intrepid innovator I am – and am not one to give up easily – I have to ask the group whether having full feeling, pressure on the testicles is just part of the deal with all cages or if there are certain types of cages that will allow my testicles to be in a more relaxed state when wearing a cage while not allowing them to escape! Thanks!
I found this forum when searching on why I was getting a nasty rash and edema and discovered that the cage I was trying out was dyed with PPD and I am allergic! I read from multiple members of their experiences and that helped me through the healing process. For that I am thankful!
Anyway. Here’s the current situation. I ceded the power of our sexual relationship to my wife years ago because she has developed some health issues over the years that cause her pain and distraction. It’s not all the time but I felt bad trying to initiate sex only to be told no because she doesn't feel well. Lot's of guilt associated with that too - She's not feeling well and I - the beast - pawing at her for sex... that is going on in my mind.
Then I introduced the cock cage. TADA! Problem solved – so I thought. She literally can hold the key, have 100% control of our sex life. I love, love. love the feel of being locked up. When she wants to make love - whip out the key! When she doesn't she can still tease me with it. – so it seemed like a win-win.
Here’s the catch. She just told me that she doesn’t like the cage for a few reasons – one was that she’s just not “KH material” while I think she’s got some great potential – because in every other aspect in her life she is an absolute control freak! LOL - That's a work in process.
The other reason, and the biggest issue is because when she spoons with me in bed at night she likes to grab and cup my relaxed balls because it makes her feel comfortable. I’m not complaining there of course! She says when I’m wearing the cage my balls are – what are the words she used? Tight, tense, full - like water balloons whatever the opposite of relaxed and hanging there which she likes.
So, as the playful, intrepid innovator I am – and am not one to give up easily – I have to ask the group whether having full feeling, pressure on the testicles is just part of the deal with all cages or if there are certain types of cages that will allow my testicles to be in a more relaxed state when wearing a cage while not allowing them to escape! Thanks!
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Hello World!
I've been lurking for.... well a very long time... and registered because I'm interested in a new design being discussed on the devices page
I've been lurking for.... well a very long time... and registered because I'm interested in a new design being discussed on the devices page
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Hello and welcome. Might be good to ask your question in a dedicated thread. But just briefly here… a sit for 5-10 minutes in a hot water bath tub before bed time / cuddle time works for me.
MM Jail Bird 11 months straight until January 5. Now it is locked in HOD S160 small as “requested”. It’s…. Different.
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About cliff-83
I value self-discipline, restraint, and personal growth. On this forum, I seek like-minded individuals to share experiences and insights on chastity and its role in a balanced and mindful life. Respect, openness, and depth are essential to me in every exchange.
My partner, Mistress Interstella and I live in the Netherlands. Mistress Interstella has full control over my orgasms, and chastity is an important part of our relationship. We operate on a trust-based dynamic: I have promised Mistress that she is in control and that I will not give in to temptation. This has created a deep connection and taken our relationship to a new level.
Let me know if you’d like any further refinements!
I value self-discipline, restraint, and personal growth. On this forum, I seek like-minded individuals to share experiences and insights on chastity and its role in a balanced and mindful life. Respect, openness, and depth are essential to me in every exchange.
My partner, Mistress Interstella and I live in the Netherlands. Mistress Interstella has full control over my orgasms, and chastity is an important part of our relationship. We operate on a trust-based dynamic: I have promised Mistress that she is in control and that I will not give in to temptation. This has created a deep connection and taken our relationship to a new level.
Let me know if you’d like any further refinements!
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I’m new to this site and would like to introduce myself. I have been married 40 plus years. I wore chastity in the past and just picked it back up a little over a month ago. Gave my wife the keys. In the past enjoyed watching her with other men while I was locked up. Trying to get her back to that point. I So Enjoyed seeing her with other men and I want to see her again like that while locked up in chastity.
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I haven’t said greetings in quite some time. So greetings to so many recent newbies.
She says ‘it’s cute’ in the nub. 

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Greetings. Newbie here, experienced in chastity lifestyle currently in Red Chili's Sissy cage. Sometimes Mistress allows me to have a break in their (Red Chili) London Tower. Long term member of Chastity Mansion.