How deep does the rabbit hole go?

[Chosen_Jackal]

As someone pretty new to this lifestyle it’s easy to get a bit overwhelmed when doing online research.
A quick internet search for the word chastity and FLR gives an astonishing amount of results that is and isn’t helpful.
First of all I’m extremely happy that I stumbled upon this message board because it showed me that male chastity can be a variety of things.
I need to preface my next sentence with saying that I respect anyone who lives true to themselves, but it’s an overwhelming amount of sissification content online and that has never interested me.
That’s why I’m so glad I discovered this place.

But as miss Redraven and I continue on our path of discovery into this fantastic new lifestyle it’s hard not to get the impression that if you stick with it long enough, certain patterns emerge.
Like cuckoldry or permanent denial for example.
I realize of course that far from everyone partakes in these activities even after practicing male chastity for a number of years, but it’s easy to get the impression that the path inevitably leads to doing more and more "extreme” activities.
Miss Reddaven and I have already crossed lines I’d never thought we’d cross, but I feel a mix of dread and curiosity about following this path down the rabbit hole.

I guess I’m curious to hear from people with a lot more experience than us about their thoughts about this? Are you happy staying monogamous, or is the allure of cuckoldry or non monogamy as common as it seems? Is it inevitable to feel drawn to being permanently locked if you live this way long enough?
A fear I have is that Miss Redraven will suddenly see me as something less than I am now one day. And at the same time I feel a longing for her to degrade me.

I’m not "chickening out", but it’s dawning on me that this is an extreme lifestyle no matter how you look at it. I’m loving it so far, and like I said, I have mixed feelings about what the future holds.
I’m curious about hearing others thoughts on these things.

[denied_one]

Dude...feel the butterflies

Embrace the butterflies

I wore the chastity cage every night to bed for 60 days in 2024 (Jan-Feb),that coupled with a 90 day orgasm less stretch for me (April-June) totally changed my mindset on ejaculating and totally eliminated my solo masturbation habit


I didn't realize these things would happen

[Chosen_Jackal]

Oh don’t get me wrong, I’m enjoying every second of this so far. I guess my post is more of a question about the sliding scale of what we’re getting into. I’m wondering how many people find themselves doing things they thought they’d never be okay with, and if that scale keeps expanding.

[denied_one]

Oh don’t get me wrong, I’m enjoying every second of this so far. I guess my post is more of a question about the sliding scale of what we’re getting into. I’m wondering how many people find themselves doing things they thought they’d never be okay with, and if that scale keeps expanding.

I never ever thought I'd stop masturbating. Ever. The court is still out on if I'm "okay" with it

Never thought about doing my wife with a strap on dildo..I am ok with that

Never thought about getting my balls hit with a stun gun...that is still scary stuff ngl

[Tom Allen]

There is no chastity police. You won't have to do anything you don't want to.

IMO, the lockup get longer because 1) as you find alternate ways to be intimate, intercourse just isn't as important, and b) as you get older, your frequency tends to fall off anyhow.

Mrs Edge and I jumped into "permanent" pretty quickly, but that's only because it was appealing to the both of us, on different levels.

Neither of us have any desire for anything else that one often associates with this. I would like a little more kinky stuff, but she is more into just being treated like a queen. We make it work.

Foxing, my using a strapon for he came up because she prefers intercourse. It was not a progression, just a preference. Likewise, any other kink that you might bring into the bedroom is not part of some sliding scale; it's just a preference.

[Chosen_Jackal]

Thanks for the wise words Tom. I’ve read your blog and you and Mrs Edge seem to have something special going on.

I’m glad we decided to give this lifestyle a go after we’ve turned 40 (we’ll miss Redraven isn’t quite 40 yet) and not in our twenties for example.
We’ve tried quite a few different things over the years and we’re both more secure in ourselves and our relationship.
I know we’ll be okay no matter what we do as long as we communicate honestly, but that doesn’t mean there’s things we want to try that seems exciting and scary at the same time.

[Tom Allen]

It would not be exciting if it were not a bit scary.

[CT_locked]

The rabbit hole only goes as deep as you want it to. I agree that if you read what’s online it sure seems like it ends up with cuckoldry and sissification, but remember, the people who post online are not a “representative sample” of the chastity enjoying population. Much of it is fantasy, either written in fantasy or for the fantasy of the reader. I’m not at all saying there aren’t many couples who end up there, I just don’t believe the majority do. Many are probably like me. I am occasionally in chastity, for one to several weeks at a time, but there is no sissification, cuckoldry, fem-dom or any other kink or lifestyle associated with it. It’s just something we enjoy occasionally. Sounds like where you and your KH are going and as mentioned above, there is no wrong way to it as long as you both agree.

[lockedforfun]

Cuck and sissy stuff is not at all inevitable with chastity. In fact, I'd say it makes more sense to think of the causality going the other direction, with cuck/sissy kinks leading to chastity more so than chastity leading to cuck/sissy. If a man already enjoys the idea of feminization, it makes sense for him to be drawn to the idea of locking up the male member. Likewise, if cuck is someone's kink, using chastity to turbocharge the kink makes perfect sense. But the opposite direction isn't so automatic. Someone with no desire to wear silk panties isn't going to suddenly want to because they have a cock cage on.

Of course, one of the great things about chastity is that it tends to heighten intimacy and amp up horniness, and horny guys will do things their non-horny selves would never do! Turns out that locking it up does not stop the little head from thinking for the big head....

Have fun, do things you and your wife enjoy, don't bother with things you don't. A chastity cage is a tool for your relationship to use, not the other way around! Love and play with each other however it makes sense.

[Spaceman]

We've been playing aeound with various stuff for many years and chastity on and off for over 12, somewhat more so in the last couple. Neither of us are slightly interested in sissy or Cuck stuff but thats just us. Others are and that's fine for them, others would run a mile at the thought of a cage, whatever floats your boat

Of course chastiity doesn't even have to involve a cage, right now im unlocked on her instruction, but nothing else has changed and heaven help me if I cum.

Therss a mass of fantasy stuff out there, most of which is just that, I dont go there as Im more interested in real life, which is why I'm on this forum, which is a great place for genuine people living the life for real.