Interested on views on the statement below

[Immaterial Penis]

Wearing panties and a chasity cage does not make you less of a man. It just brings your male sex driven ideology into perspective and makes you a better husband. If your wife can accept you being a caged pantyboy and more submissive, she will reap the rewards and understand that you can be a better man for it.

[Mr Pickle]

Honestly. I dont get the panty thing?
If my wife wanted to wear mens boxers or jockstraps im not sure I would appreciate how this improved her or how it would make us better?
Each to their own I say.

I have played the panty scenario in my head and it went like this.

"Can I wear panties. It would make me happy and you would reap the rewards of my happiness".

Answers would be:

"No".

Or

"You're not happy?. I'm a failed wife."?

Or

"No. Thats it. No more kink. Im going to live with my parents".

On the other hand. If C said to me. "Would you wear panties so im happy etc...".

"Ummm.. No. But I will try to find other ways to make you happy".

So it obviously isn't in my doable kink list.

Would it make me less of a man? To me I think it would certainly do that. To 99% of the worlds poulation.. probably also true.
To the small fraction of a percentile for which it works. No.

Still each to his own.

You could of course say the same about eating my own cum? I do that without feeling less of a man.
Or asking C if she would take me with a strapon.. If I'm horny enough that seems like a great idea.

Like any of these kinks. Its your kink. If it works for you then great. If you have to push it then its best to leave it in fantasy land.
No one ever made their wife happy by driving them away with promises of happiness.

[Immaterial Penis]

Thanks for the reply Mr Pickle.
I read it and thought it was an interesting statement and was interested in others views.
I do wear knickers (panties), a] for comfort with a cage on, and b] because they make me feel emasculated and submissive and my wife has bought mine.
I see your reply focuses on the panties element, but what about the cage?
For me, the cage represents all my focus being on my wife's pleasure and being sexually submissive to her, but I don't think it makes me less of a man. There are days when I first was locked that it sort of did, but I'm ok with it now and like the feeling of emasculation in our sex life.
I too would happily eat my own cum if asked to, so as you say, each to their own......

[Mr Pickle]

Yeah thats the funny thing isnt it. The cage.
I don't see it as emasculating at all, and I think wearing it is quite a manly statement to make. Locked for you, in steel. Its a cool bit of kit im wearing.

Maybe it's the submision thing that makes a difference?
I don't feel or consider myself submissive at all, in any way.

Yes I do as I'm told as such, but I always used to eventually.
The difference is No more nagging wife bickering on until I begrudgingly do what she asks.
Instead, a very lovely wife whom i want to do things for, and as a bonus I get teased and to eat pussy an awful lot.

The orgasm denial also not a submision. It was kind of my Idea in the first place and I do benefit by it.
It helped me realise that many of problems stated with my penis. Obviously it has brought a lot of pleasure too and I have earned money from having it. Table dancing, not renting it out. But relationshipwise it needed better management.

There you are. C is my manager

I do find the whole 'who thinks what about this and that' very interesting. I find people very interesting and it fascinates me how differently we see things.

I get the comfort thing. We all want to be comfortable. I wear lycra boxers, sports wear.

[Sam3655]

Yeah not sure on the panties. I am near 60 now so wearing panties over my cage would not make me less manly, just really silly looking. I will confess here in my early twenties I did try cross dressing but it was more of an escapism from an abusive childhood. A chance to be someone else for a couple of hours who had a happy history. I am not gay, nor submissive so in the end it wasn’t something that did anything for me. More like Halloween but more often. I found weightlifting, got bigger and learned to accept my childhood and be happy with who I am. Clothes do not make the man.

As far as the cage, it is more a symbol of my loyalty and commitment that I will give the key to my wife and she takes ownership of my most personal possessions. It has brought us closer and increased our intimacy so no, it isn’t emasculating, but a tool to keep our romance and love strong. Covering it in panties may work for others and bless them if they can pull the look off. I would just look silly.

[atxmtb]

I think it would indicate that the guy has a gay fantasy. Not that that's wrong for the guy. I also think chastity isn't always about submisssion. It's about control and discipline. Yes, related, but submission usually infers weakness. My wife would not be interested in it at all. If I showed up wearing panties, she would not be happy at all. It would completely alter our relationship in a bad way.

[Chastityat60]

I’m thinking there are a hundred ways to do chastity..this thread shows this.. none of my devices came with a rule book.. I do however think that asking questions is perfectly awesome!! We gather info this way,,
As a overall statement, I have learned to appreciate the valuable honest input from those who have gone before me.. they choose to share their successes and failures.. and matured into their own version of chastity..
keep reading., great stuff here!
Personally no to panties. . Serving her is a lifestyle..,
But, If I ask her, she will zip me up into my custom sized , very snug neoprene sleep sacks. Arms in the sleeves of the first one , back zipped, then second over top of that front zipped.. in overnight., and unzips me in the am. She won’t do chastity but will do this for me.. I completely love my wife!!