Time without orgasm

[ian 1976]

five months.. am told at six months i’ll have a cage free hour and be allowed to orgasm twice by my own hand and then back in the cage until december 28th.. another 6 months.. we have found that one orgasm leaves me irritable so am allowed two. Seems to help with the ‘reset’. pussy free for 11 years so no piv orgasms since 2013 when second child conceived.

[Steve2059]

Time since last full penile orgasm, approximately four and a half years.
Time since last ruin (proper ruin, not just taking one's hand away a second before spurting), three months.
Time since last anal orgasm, three weeks.

[Sam3655]

Longest was 175 days as the wife likes to hand out punishment months. She is also not into hand jobs so no edging. No milking.

Just started a two month no orgasm period which I would bet good money goes into a third month at least

[Naughtyinchastity]

Today marks a month since my last orgasm and it is my longest period.

In establishing the rules with KH who also deals with my discipline I agreed to monthly exemptions for achieving orgasm. On the day I returned the key, when I was self-locking I did not have an orgasm for 2 weeks, however when I returned the keys it was irrelevant and the countdown to exemption for achieving orgasm started again.

So if I do not break the rules of my being in chastity, I will be able to achieve orgasm in 2 weeks, which gives 1.5 months without relief.
I hope I will last these 2 weeks, because Locktober is near and after it is No Nut November and Denial December, and recently I got a message that my participation in these games is mandatory...

[Wifesplaything]

I went over 5 years previously without being allowed sex with my Wife, around 2 years ago I came out of chastity due to it no longer being required because aside from being unable to maintain an erection it also caused me great pain to pull my foreskin back because it had tightened over the years. My Wife continued to see her boyfriends whilst I gradually got back to normal with the aide of Cialis. My Wife asked me to go back into chastity for her last month and so this time around it’s 34 days so far

[Sam3655]

My longest has been 178 days and this go around I am at 70 days. If no orgasm in the next eight days then I have another ninety coming as she has already said we are doing Locktober, No-vember and Denial December.

[Wifesplaything]

Mine is 6 months, my birthday is in June so my Wife gives me a hj as a birthday present and as a Christmas present. She has a regular boyfriend who I’ve never met btw and she stays there every other weekend so has no need for my dick although I regularly bring her off with my tongue. It took about 18 months to get to the 6 month interval stage. First it was a week then up to 2 weeks then a month etc. It was actually harder at the beginning going from a week to 2 weeks because it was so new, going from 3 months to 6 months was relatively easy.

[Linus333]

I’m new to this and I’m currently just restricting myself with self discipline and control, the main for myself currently is I’ve stopped self gratification ( masturbation) which for myself I consider being in chastity although I understand most wouldn’t but I’ve got to start somewhere . So for myself at the moment if my partner doesn’t let me cum I don’t cum which I’ve only done twice in the past 30 days .

[Betterthansmith]

152 days for all points. Only because of distance, illness, etc etc. Typically she keeps it locked unless she wants to use it. If anything (to me) thats more submissive / subservient - she absolutely has control and does what she wants with what she wants when she wants....

But of course each to their own!

[atxmtb]

Going on five months now. It's an interesting story. Although, of course, I love the feeling of an O, it is extremely short-lived. Five seconds if I'm lucky. Then it's 2-3 days minimum of not being interested in sex, at least to the level I was before I came. Often, my wife would want a follow-up, and whether it's a head thing or more physical, I just couldn't perform and didn't really want to either. That wasn't new, either. It's been pretty much my entire life, although the duration of this down was getting longer. And it's more than just sexual. I'd be less motivated for a lot of things. Riding my bike, cooking a big meal, and playing the piano. I guess you could say it was a form of depression following an orgasm that lasted for 2 or more days. I never really thought about it. It was the way it was. But it wasn't good for me, for sure, but I didn't know any better. You can bet it interfered with my relationships. At one point, I went on SSRIs and stayed on them for a number of years. They helped with the mood, but they didn't really change the sex. I'd still lose interest after an O. Then I tried HRT. That was good stuff. It would make me horny as could be. As I say, trees in the backyard looked interesting to me. That helped but there was still a bit of a drop although it didn't last as long. There's a downside to testosterone supplements though. Although they don't 'cause' prostate cancer, they do feed it if it were to start. I had ended up with a prostate infection and saw a Urologist. My numbers were way high and he talked me into stopping HRT. His message was essentially, live with the up and down. It's who you are. I didn't want to take the SSRIs for ever. I'm generally not a depressed kind of guy. So I stopped taking them. And that's how I kept things for a bit. And things were ok. I lived with it.

Not one to leave things alone, I talked with my wife about chastity. We would fool around usually about once a week. I'd jerk off about once or twice a week in between. That may seem contradictory, and it was a bit. I knew orgasms made me a bit less interested, but still, jerking off felt good. But if orgasms left me down and a bit less interested, if I stopped that, I could focus more on my wife. So, about a year ago, I got myself a cage and had my wife hold the key. She thought it was silly, but played along. Some guys do chastity and wear a cage out of a BDSM thing. Sure there's a bit of that in the back of my mind, but it wasn't about that at all. I was looking for something that removed a distraction and let me focus. My wife knew that orgasms got me down a little so sometimes we'd skip PIV and she'd let me just do oral on her. And that is how we were for most of the year. As I started this post, that was till about 5 months ago when I took the plunge. It dawned on me that orgasms weren't all they were chalked up to be. Sure they felt good, but it became clearer that they were a source of a problem for me. My wife wasn't really on board. I kind of understood why she wasn't. She likes sex and worried that I would be less interested if it didn't lead to my own orgasm. She thought what I was thinking about was a bit extreme.

I had an idea of something to try. I like to drink wine. I have no problem drinking a bottle of wine 3 or more days a week. I like the taste, I like the buzz. My wife didn't like that. We'd even argue about it. She wanted me to stop drinking wine. This is for years actually. She'd probably have put it on the list of things she wished I didn't do. So one day I said, "Let's try something. Let's tie wine to my orgasm. I'll not drink wine as long as I can keep from having an orgasm". I assured her that I would still want to have sex and that I'd make sure she enjoyed herself as much as she always did. If it impacted her fun in any way negative, we'd stop. I don't know if that was a smart move on my part or not. It didn't take much thinking on her part to agree. She thought it was weird. She saw it a bit as a lose/lose to me but it was a win for her. So it began.

And here we are. no wine, and no orgasms for 5 months. We do PIV usually about twice a week and oral about 3 or four times. She's getting more sex and more orgasms that she ever had. I'm always horny, always attentive, always interested. When we have sex, we'll stop after she's cum. She likes the top and simply rides till she's cum, then she'll get off. It takes some discipline on my part not to change my mind and say, "Oh, just this once, let's keep going till I cum". Instead, the thinking is, "Ok, we can stop, but let's do this again later".

What we've found is there's basically no downside other than the strong temptation to experience the orgasm. But sex is still as enjoyable as always for both of us. It still feels great for me (and her). I just don't get the cherry. I never experience the drop. We have more sex. Sure, sometimes I get tempted to stroke one out and for those times, I'll self lock. My wife's initial hesitation completely disappeared. She embraces this now. To her, sex is better, more frequent, AND I'm not drinking wine. When we started this, I expected after a month or so she'd buy me a bottle of wine and say, let's get you off. Yeah, no. She prefers how things have changed and as far as she's concerned, it's permanent.

I can't say for sure whether it is permanent. But after 5 months, I can't see what it would take to decide to have an orgasm again. Would some event, like a birthday, or anniversary serve as an excuse to go "all the way". I can't see that. I'm afraid that if I did cum, I'd instantly become disappointed. It would turn some special day into a not so special day. The way I see it now, if I cum again, it would be more of an accident than planned. I have enough restraint, that I don't see an accident happening.

I do have questions though. Like, the thought of permanent, forever, never again, seems unrealistic yet I can't think of some reason to have one. So, how does it end. It feels like the Eagles Hotel California. "You can check-out any time you want, but you can never leave". It's a bit of a trap. A good trap, yet more of a one-way path. Is this really the end of Os? The answer, realistically, is probably. We've stumbled on something that works. Things are better than ever so why revert? Hmmm.