I did it a different way. I started with teasing and denial. Just asked to be denied the next time we had sex so that my orgasm would be intensified. I mentioned some things about Tantric sex and how it increases intimacy but mostly just to try it once to see how much stronger my orgasm would be. When I finally had my orgasm, I amped it up a little bit more than it actually was. Told my wife it was great and then if we can try two orgasm denials just to see how that made my orgasm feel.
In the meantime I would mention of much more intimately it made me feel and that the sexual energy was making me more energetic and thinking about her all the time. My focus had shifted from my sexual pleasure to hers. I also said that when she orgasmed it made me feel that I also had one and it was a good feeling. So we went on like this. Subtly I only thanked her for denying me but never when she made me orgasm. I adjusted my behavior to be a little bit nicer when denied. Positive reinforcement methods.
My wife began to enjoy the extra attention and consideration I was giving her. I kept asking her to extend my denial period and just focus on her own orgasms. She grew to like it and I made sure she saw how well it affected me. We were on the honor system so when I suggested a three week denial period and my wife was eager to try it, I told her that I would need help going that long and showed her a CB6000 online and told her that is is what other wives are using to control their husband's masturbation and to deny them longer. She said if I wanted it to buy it. I bought it and I spent a few weeks adjusting it and getting used to it. Since I was putting it on and taking it off often, I held my own keys. When I wore it for sex my wife called it fake sex since there was not only a lack of an orgasm by me but also a lack of an erection. I amped up my outward behavior to show my wife the positive effects of orgasm denial. I never called it chastity. It was alway a long used method by women to keep guys interested and focused on them.
Things progressed and I was being denied for a month and my wife finally got into keyholding but found it too much work. We used games and rules which my wife felt took the control away from her and put it into the game and rules we had. Like most chastity contracts it was a user manual written by me which basically was if I do this, you do that. That locked her into doing things she may not have been in the mood to do and gave me control over her actions. If I wanted to be paddled I knew what to do. So we dropped all that stuff and only had one rule, she made all the rules, did not have to tell me what they were and could change them without prior notice. In other words, she did as she liked and that worked out well.
We are in year 5 of 24/7 lockup up and this year I will have only two orgasms, assuming I get the second in October which is iffy now since she wants me to wait until New Year's Eve all of a sudden but it could just be a ploy to surprise me on our anniversary. I really do not care at this point. I am used to wearing my Jailbird all the time like I do my wedding band. It is a part of me by now and no big deal.
I personally do not think the best approach is to go at your wife with a hunk of metal or plastic hanging off of your penis. I guess it depends on what you are aroused by. Most guys fantasize about being locked and get aroused by that so they buy a device and think they can wear it 24/7 and it will magically turn them into a submissive and their wife into a Dominatrix. This approach tends to scare the wife or KH away. They may think you are a pervert, freak or just do not want to have sex with them anymore. My wife started to think that I was not attracted to her until she saw how much more attracted to her I was after denial.
This is my advice. Baby steps. Get her used to teasing and denial first as it does not include some alien looking medieval contraption hanging off your pecker. Worse yet is if you show up wearing a device and tell her that it is all for her benefit and then list all those things you read online. I do not know about anyone else but being locked up did not make me submissive or my wife dominant. We did not form a FLR. I am still in charge of the marriage. Our chastity sex game is about control over orgasms and only in our bedroom. Of course since I am locked up all the time it does spill over into the rest of our life but it does not change our non sexual lives. My wife refuses to use sex as currency to reward me or punish me so it really does not affect my denial periods but naturally if she is pissed off at me from the day before she is not going to be in the mood for sex today. Other than that, we still have sex once a week like clockwork no matter what. We know how sex releases Oxytocin which emotionally bonds us together so we make sure we keep having sex when most couples our age do not. My wife's friends remark on how well I treat her but it is not chastity that does it, it is something I have always done because we have always had steady sex.
So you have two methods. The first is to jump out at her with a hunk of plastic handing off your penis trying to explain it is all for her and it turns you on. The other is to gradually slip into chastity play using no devices and the simple expedient of introducing teasing and denial to see how it intensifies your orgasm. When I thought a girl how to be sexually dominant over me, I did not hand her a whip and tell her to go at it. I started off simply with just a fun spanking. Then a blindfold. From there it lead to tying me up and ultimately whipping me until I was bleeding. It took a long time to get to that stage, but the point is that you do it gradually so that each step does not seem to be a big leap from the last. Glad it worked out for you. My wife and I are in our mid sixties and chastity has replaced 45 years of BDSM play in our sex lives. When we moved away from our girlfriend (also my Mistress) of 30 years, we needed a new fetish and Chastity appealed to my sexual masochist side but without the pain that my old body cannot take. I already live in pain from medical conditions so I did not need more.
For those of you trying to get your wives or girlfriends into chastity, I suggest the method I used. It takes longer but it has a very good chance of succeeding. Those who focus too much on the device tend to get bored with it as soon as the initial excitement wears off. That is why chastity is not as big a fetish as most others. If you read about someone who buys a device and then starts wearing it 24/7, I would wonder how they did that since it does take awhile to get used to wearing it 24/7 without developing painful skin conditions. Keep in mind that about 60% of what you read online is not factual or greatly exaggerated. I have seen them come and go just as quickly as they came over the last 5 years. They come in like gangbusters claiming that they got their device and have been wearing it 24/7 for months and that their KH went from submissive wife to cruel dominant keyholder in a few days. Guys seem to think why wouldn't someone want to have a slave or obedient spouse? Why wouldn't they want to have sexual pleasure only for themselves? Real life is not like that so baby steps is the way to go. Just my opinion as a fetishist who has convinced both my wife and several girlfriends to dominate me over the last 47 years. I know what works, for me at least and how to do it. Heck, I convinced my wife to share me with her best friend for 30 years of our marriage and even let her live with us. Having a Machiavellian personality as diagnosed by a Psychologist, helps in both my sexual and non sexual areas of life. It is simply a matter of figuring out what motivates people and then using that information to guide them to do was you wish them to do. They get benefited too but maybe not as much as I do.
