Keyholder doesn't want to orgasm often

[LockedUp24]

My wife is the same she only needs an O maybe once or twice a month.
Oral is about the same per month.
PIV sex is even rarer.
Toy sex is very rare these days

Kinda disappointing as oral sex probably the only sexual release we chaste get to do.
And Toy sex is the closest we get to PIV sex.

[peter_rabbit]

I also want more orgasms for her than she does. I gently encourage her and don't push though. Pushing makes it seem that she's performing for me. That doesn't fit our dynamic. While my fantasy is to make her cum multiple times a day, the reality is different.

We are intimate every day though. We snuggle and play in bed, but we don't focus on orgasms. The body contact is what I crave the most. It makes her happy, and seem to work.

She now leads all sexual activity and we've never been happier.

[knighterrant]

I think this is a very common level of sex drive and libido for women in mid-life. That's pretty typical of my KH too, you are far from alone. She accepts that I am always thinking about sex, I'm always horny it goes without saying. What increases our intimacy is when we do things that are romantic for her, like cooking dinner together, having a relaxing cup of coffee or wine, etc. So, I can influence it and then she both wants more orgasms and I get more attention too.

[Betterthansmith]

What grubber and knighterrant said all rings true here.

It can take time and I won't be the first person here to say patience is key! What has happened in the last 3 years since introducing the cage is that we've both become more aware of what makes the other one tick. Sometimes what you want isn't what she wants. If you give her what she wants then if you're lucky she might give you what you want...

[budgie]

My wife likes an orgasm about once a week too. Fortunately its oral she likes which I love giving her. She went through a spell of wanting to get to the edge but not cum. I could hardly object as we do enough teasing and denial on me! Since male chastity redefined "sex" for us, all forms of physical contact feel more intimate,

[jgalt]

If you give her what she wants then if you're lucky she might give you what you want...

But my original post is: I want to give her more orgasms! Your advice then would be...if you give her more orgasms, the she might let me give her more orgasms...? I know you were really answering someone else and you are right, but I couldn't help pointing out the little circle we just made.

[LockedUp24]

Unfortunately you cannot force her to have more orgasms.

[jgalt]

Fortunately she can force me to have more orgasms...she just usually doesn't.