Keyholder doesn't want to orgasm often

[jgalt]

Okay, so you guys with keyholders that like to ride your face 3 times a day, please don't take this opportunity to 'rub it in'. My keyholder/wife likes to cum about once a week from PIV and if I give oral, it's a few minutes to get her warmed up. I'm really good at it, she knows it, she enjoys it, but really just wants PIV. We have sex 2-3 times a week (she let's me cum ever month or three), but she only wants to cum once per week. I think it's weird. She's the only orgasm outlet so what I want is to build a little fort under the covers and camp out between her legs for a few weeks. I know she's the boss, but I wanted to see if anyone is in the same camp. Ladies, do you not want to cum sometimes?

[Subinmemphis]

Wow. Can't help ya there. Mine wants anywhere from 2 to 6 orgasms a day.

[Shepherdsflock]

I'm in that boat. My wife really doesn't care if she cums. I think it's weird. She enjoys it a lot when she does, but she never really wants to.

[HandyRandy]

I'm in the same boat except that we are on the honor system so she's not technically the KH. She says that if she comes more than once or twice a week it's not as special and more of a "chore" (said that just last night). I have been allowed the last two Saturdays and had a great T&D two nights ago. I could do those every day! On a positive note, regarding her taking over, she allowed me to PIV last time but with no coming and she told me to pull out. That was a first!

[wolf513]

I'm thinking a lot about this issue myself. Mrs. Wolf isn't my KH at the moment, and I don't honestly know if we will get to that stage. That said, she's just not as interested in sex as I am. She really enjoys an orgasm, but she just doesn't think about it that much. There are times when we go more than a month without her even missing it. On the other hand, I am thinking about it oh... Every 5 seconds or so.

What I've been learning is that, in Mrs. Wolf's case, it's all about what's going on in her mind. If she's thinking about her todo list, where the kids need to be, what's going on with her job, whatever, she's not interested in anything to do with sex. Most importantly, there's very little I can do about it. I can't take care of most of the things that her mind considers more important than sex. And if I start obsessing about it, and getting overbearing, it just turns her off, because it adds stress.

Actually, that's probably the main reason that chastity play isn't likely to work for us right now. She's just not that into it partly because she's just too preoccupied with other things.

Not sure if any of that applies to your situation, but I thought I'd share.

[TwistedMister]

What I've been learning is that, in Mrs. Wolf's case, it's all about what's going on in her mind. If she's thinking about her todo list, where the kids need to be, what's going on with her job, whatever, she's not interested in anything to do with sex. Most importantly, there's very little I can do about it. I can't take care of most of the things that her mind considers more important than sex. And if I start obsessing about it, and getting overbearing, it just turns her off, because it adds stress.

Actually, that's probably the main reason that chastity play isn't likely to work for us right now. She's just not that into it partly because she's just too preoccupied with other things.

I've heard that taking some of the stress away, in various ways, can improve that situation considerably.

[wolf513]

I've heard that taking some of the stress away, in various ways, can improve that situation considerably.

Indeed... But you can't get to that point, if the stress relief adds more stress, first.

It's totally different for her. And of course, I don't make it any easier. I think that the most common thing she says when we are intimate is: "shut up". It requires superhuman willpower on my part to suppress the bullet train in my head. Oh, yeah, the second most common thing she says to me is: "you think too much".

[grubber]

It's pretty easy to get rid of a lot of her stress if you really try.

I always acted the macho type back in the days when sex was basically non-existent. She did all the household chores while I did my "manly" things that I wanted to do. Her plate was always full.

Upon discovering chastity things changed rather rapidly over time. At first she wanted nothing to do with it but slowly saw how it could work for her. She could enjoy sex whenever she wanted without any pressure from me so that relieved some stress. I started doing more of the household chores and now do most of them which relieved a lot of stress and freed up a lot of her time. I am also very attentive to her all her needs and concerns which reduces her stress even more. She loves knowing that I am not doing all I am doing for her just to get sex from her.

She likes her orgasms when she wants them. Maybe once a week, maybe twice a week, sometimes longer, but we have all kinds of intimate moments that are quite frankly, pretty friggin hot. It's a whole lot better than the old days when there was nothing. It isn't always about the orgasm for a lot of women either.

[wolf513]

It's pretty easy to get rid of a lot of her stress if you really try.

Well, that's a pretty bold statement, for not knowing what's stressing her out.

Most often, it's things I can't help with. The stress she feels is most often internal. I try to help a great deal, but there's only so much I can do. I am not a psychologist.

And, also, often it comes down to this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg

[grubber]

It's pretty easy to get rid of a lot of her stress if you really try.

Well, that's a pretty bold statement, for not knowing what's stressing her out.

Sorry guy, just trying to help.
Stress does come in many different forms. Just didn't see that one coming like the video.