small steps and "chastity lite"

[TwistedMister]

The idea of locking your cock in a cage and tossing the key to your partner, who is then supposed to turn into some sort of playfully evil teasing vixen, is pure fantasy. Our partners have their own fantasies, kinks, needs, and hang ups and we need to respect that.

Not completely...sometimes it just takes them a while to get there

...and sometimes, *their* fantasies and kinks align with yours, their 'hang-ups' decrease and they feel more free to let their needs come first...and then all you can do is hang on, because you start finding out if what you wished for is really what you wanted...

[Curry]

On that note...
She didn't know what a "ruined" orgasm was until this thursday. She is quite intrigued by them at present. Hahaha! It's on now.

[McAndrew]

On that note...
She didn't know what a "ruined" orgasm was until this thursday. She is quite intrigued by them at present. Hahaha! It's on now.

If your wife is not the naturally dominant type then she might ruin a ruined orgasm by taking pity on you at the last moment, especially if you are prone to begging.

The trick is to get her to decide, but not say how a session is going to end, before you start and then never change her mind, no matter what you say.

[carolina cyclist]

On that note...
She didn't know what a "ruined" orgasm was until this thursday. She is quite intrigued by them at present. Hahaha! It's on now.

MrsL didn't know what a ruined orgasm was either until about 4 months ago. She doesn't like that description so she calls them "spoiled" but a rose by any other name....

She has since used them on a couple of instances and quite enjoys my reaction to them.

[Curry]

I can be persuasive (annoying?) and she gives in sometimes, so I don't want to know how or when things will happen so this can be as fun as possible.

[McAndrew]

I can be persuasive (annoying?) and she gives in sometimes, so I don't want to know how or when things will happen so this can be as fun as possible.

We've agreed that my wife will always decide what's going to happen before we start. Sometimes she will say, but mostly not. She will never change her mind and I always have to wait to be told to cum.

One option is that she will want PIV until she has orgasmed and then insists she wants more, until I lose control without permission.
So as a punishment there was two weeks of being plugged (by night) , locked up (by day) and tormented.
Later today I expect my wife will want me to watch her use a vibrator and then I will be given a ' spoiled' orgasm, with added humiliation, which she finds very funny.
This always seems like it's going to be exciting, but is awful afterwards.

Then again she may have decided I'm getting nothing.

I hope this hasn't given your wife any more ideas.

(I realise my posts really are chastity lite, but I hope I'm still on topic.)

[TwistedMister]

...I will be given a ' spoiled' orgasm, with added humiliation, which she finds very funny.
This always seems like it's going to be exciting, but is awful afterwards.

Hmmm, what sort of "added humiliation"?

[McAndrew]

...I will be given a ' spoiled' orgasm, with added humiliation, which she finds very funny.
This always seems like it's going to be exciting, but is awful afterwards.

Hmmm, what sort of "added humiliation"?

This might be too bizarre for this forum

The punishment is that I have to watch her using a vibrator, while I'm standing with my hands secured behind my back and squashed in to tight briefs.
The spoilt orgasm is applied using her vibrator through the briefs.
Then she often treats herself again and sometimes gets me to cum again.

She thinks this is funny because she loves it when I loose control and it's partly revenge for all the times she's walked around with soggy spunk filled knickers.

Like I've said we have tried many a kink, but never seem to get in too deeply. Everything Lite, but lots of lively fun.

[Curry]

Well, we definitely aren't there, but rock on man. Do that stuff.

We did have another small step today, though. We were having a shower. I have to help her because of the surgery and all. I got a little feely while washing her, and she got feely back. She got everything excited, and then asked if I needed some relief, as it has been 3 days. I told her it was up to her, but that we had talked about going 7-10. She said she guessed I needed it, and started stroking. I just went with it and was enjoying it, ready to come. That's when she said "Yeah, just a tease then." and dropped it.

She flashed me a few times on my way out the door for work after that.

I think she's getting into it.

[McAndrew]

Well, we definitely aren't there, but rock on man. Do that stuff.

I might have gone into too much detail there, but that's what you get when writing after an evening at the pub.
However later I will try and write a more helpful post.

That's when she said "Yeah, just a tease then." and dropped it.

Being teased drastically shortens the time scales for denial and chastity play. Being tormented at every opportunity for a few days, is harder than being left alone for a few weeks.

One trick we picked up years ago, that may be worth introducing, is that she must always specifically tell you to cum. If she doesn't then you have to say "Please can I / will you stop".
It seems to cover all eventualities and avoids a long conversation breaking the mood.

She can tell you to cum, but it still could be spoilt.
Or you are reminding her that you are not allowed to cum and you're getting close.
However she might just want you to loose control and be punished.