Those who practice male chastity secretly from their wives...
...how do you do it?
Do you only do it when she is out of town? out for the night? etc.
My wife has not asked me to where the device for months, but this last weekend she was out for like 8 hours so I decided to self lock and watch alot of porn and it was fun and I unlocked before she got home.
I am wondering if any do this more frequently and your stories.
Those who practice male chastity secretly from their wives
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Locked Driver
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fortunatehusbandp4
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Re: Those who practice male chastity secretly from their wiv
The day I bought my HT2 the guy in the shop mentioned that someone had been in desperately looking for a replacement key for theirs. The guy was practicing chastity without his wife's knowledge and had lost the key, apparently something like 1:20 HT2 keys are alike so he had to open the packaging on a number of them to find the correct key.
Talk about an oh sh*t moment
Talk about an oh sh*t moment
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WifeIsVanilla
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Well, my story is not a happy one, but not too sad either.
My wife has always known I had a kinky (B&D) side. She used to indulge me occasionally but less and less as the years went by and she became more and more vanilla and not at all over the last few years.
I have been fascinated by chastity devices since I first saw them on the internet. About 3 years ago, I took the plunge and ordered a CB-X device. I LOVED it, but only used it when she was not in the house.
Finally, not wanting risk her finding out by accident, be startled / shocked and then having to explain things to her under those very uncomfortable circumstances, I decided that it was better to tell her under more controlled conditions. After my explanation, she said she understood why I would like such a device but that she wanted no part of it. She didn’t want to be involved in any way or even see it.
I later wrote a fairly long email explaining about effect of chastity on the endorphin levels and the rest of the science behind male chastity including how couples play with the devices, ending with hopes that she would agree to play but letting her know that even if she didn’t, as an only child, I was not unaccustomed to playing alone, so she should not be surprised if from time to time I seemed more modest than usual, avoiding being seen naked, that it meant that I was wearing “the toy” and was merely respecting her wishes not to see it.
That has been the status quo for about 2 ½ years now except that I have upgraded devices. I now have a MM Jail Bird and a MM Watchful Mistress. I am wearing one of them much of the time, from 8 hours to 2 weeks at a time. If you add up all of the hours of wearing time over the last 12 months, they total over 3,900, the equivalent of about 160 days.
I am sorry I could not tell a story with a happier ending. It certainly would be MUCH more fun if my wife would play, but I love how the devices feel and keeping track of my total wearing time, top 30 longest stretches, etc adds a little fun.
My wife has always known I had a kinky (B&D) side. She used to indulge me occasionally but less and less as the years went by and she became more and more vanilla and not at all over the last few years.
I have been fascinated by chastity devices since I first saw them on the internet. About 3 years ago, I took the plunge and ordered a CB-X device. I LOVED it, but only used it when she was not in the house.
Finally, not wanting risk her finding out by accident, be startled / shocked and then having to explain things to her under those very uncomfortable circumstances, I decided that it was better to tell her under more controlled conditions. After my explanation, she said she understood why I would like such a device but that she wanted no part of it. She didn’t want to be involved in any way or even see it.
I later wrote a fairly long email explaining about effect of chastity on the endorphin levels and the rest of the science behind male chastity including how couples play with the devices, ending with hopes that she would agree to play but letting her know that even if she didn’t, as an only child, I was not unaccustomed to playing alone, so she should not be surprised if from time to time I seemed more modest than usual, avoiding being seen naked, that it meant that I was wearing “the toy” and was merely respecting her wishes not to see it.
That has been the status quo for about 2 ½ years now except that I have upgraded devices. I now have a MM Jail Bird and a MM Watchful Mistress. I am wearing one of them much of the time, from 8 hours to 2 weeks at a time. If you add up all of the hours of wearing time over the last 12 months, they total over 3,900, the equivalent of about 160 days.
I am sorry I could not tell a story with a happier ending. It certainly would be MUCH more fun if my wife would play, but I love how the devices feel and keeping track of my total wearing time, top 30 longest stretches, etc adds a little fun.
Last edited by WifeIsVanilla on Sun Aug 16, 2015 6:10 am, edited 1 time in total.
Past Devices: Curve & CB 6000s. Both broke, were repaired; then broke beyond repair. I threw the dreaded Spiked Chamber away.
Current Devices: MM Jail Bird, Cobra, MM Watchful Mistress, Holy Trainer v3, and a new Curve.
Current Devices: MM Jail Bird, Cobra, MM Watchful Mistress, Holy Trainer v3, and a new Curve.
Re: Those who practice male chastity secretly from their wiv
Wow, reading your post is like looking in the mirror.
I won't get into details but if you're curious you might want to read my "Journey" thread.
I felt (feel) the same way as you, trying to be discrete around my wife as possible but am working hard to get around that. I started a thread called "Feeling awkward/embarassed around wife" on that very subject.
For the record, my wife emailed me a note stating that it turns her off and she doesn't care if I wear it but she doesn't want to know about it, see it, feel it, etc... after I sent her a long email explaining things. While that was the case, she has seen it in the bathroom when I'm showering, and has even asked me if I put it away afterwards so the kids wouldn't see it. At one point I left it in the bathroom (big oops) and she found it and put it away where I keep it.
I'm not going to say she's use to it now, but we are farther along than we were...by far. I feel she is more accepting now, but isn't interested in being a keyholder yet (if ever).
I won't get into details but if you're curious you might want to read my "Journey" thread.
I felt (feel) the same way as you, trying to be discrete around my wife as possible but am working hard to get around that. I started a thread called "Feeling awkward/embarassed around wife" on that very subject.
For the record, my wife emailed me a note stating that it turns her off and she doesn't care if I wear it but she doesn't want to know about it, see it, feel it, etc... after I sent her a long email explaining things. While that was the case, she has seen it in the bathroom when I'm showering, and has even asked me if I put it away afterwards so the kids wouldn't see it. At one point I left it in the bathroom (big oops) and she found it and put it away where I keep it.
I'm not going to say she's use to it now, but we are farther along than we were...by far. I feel she is more accepting now, but isn't interested in being a keyholder yet (if ever).
Last orgasm: October 20, 2016. Masturbated while locked. 
Last PIV: been a while
Device used: CB6000s, Holy Trainer V2 (part time) Black Short and Clear Standard.
Currently locked part time in a Clear Holy Trainer V2 Standard, 40mm ring.
Last PIV: been a while
Device used: CB6000s, Holy Trainer V2 (part time) Black Short and Clear Standard.
Currently locked part time in a Clear Holy Trainer V2 Standard, 40mm ring.
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WifeIsVanilla
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Re: Those who practice male chastity secretly from their wiv
Alas . . .
Past Devices: Curve & CB 6000s. Both broke, were repaired; then broke beyond repair. I threw the dreaded Spiked Chamber away.
Current Devices: MM Jail Bird, Cobra, MM Watchful Mistress, Holy Trainer v3, and a new Curve.
Current Devices: MM Jail Bird, Cobra, MM Watchful Mistress, Holy Trainer v3, and a new Curve.
Re: Those who practice male chastity secretly from their wiv
Sorry for the long post but...
For about 7 years or so I had secretly placed myself in chastity using a CB-3000, when I would go out of town or when my wife would the device was on. When I was wearing the cage in self chastity I would use a locking timer, that was my key holder.
A couple times I showed her the CB-3000 and offered her the keys. The first time she was shocked and did not want anything to do with chastity. She did not want to hurt me and was not sure why I would want to have "that" on my dick. I was not wearing the belt at the time, as I had wanted to talk through how chastity would be a benefit to us. Her refusal was a let down for me, but looking back, her idea even about sex then was, it was something we did but not "play time". So back into self chastity I would go for a couple more years.
Then on her birthday I offered her the keys as a present and was wearing the device. She held the cage in her hands looked at me, took the keys and unlocked me. She told me again that she did not want to hurt me and does not understand. So the device was put away. I stayed away from using it for about a year. And over the last couple years her sex drive has been ratcheting up. She is more focused on the pleasure of sex for her. She has been going to the gym and focused on how she looks. Our vanilla sex has been getting better, but she was starting to make comment that I was finishing too early or I was not ready for sex when she wanted it. This is a complete turn around from her over the last couple years.
So with this turn around, I started focusing on her pleasure more. Licking at the Y, has become a part of our sex routine, I make sure she gets what she wants and I do not focus on my needs. A few times after her orgasms we would just cuddle and I would not penetrate her unless she grabbed my cock and pulled me to her. I have stopped looking at our sexual intercourse being about me getting off. Heck I could do that in the shower afterward. But the focus had to be her.
Recently, like in the last month I have been back to self chastity, to keep me from wanking and build up some cum, as that was another issue she had with me. I was not cumming enough. So when she was at work on Saturday mornings like she is now, I would be in the device, looking at tumblr and video's until just before she comes home.
Two weeks ago I decided to do something a little different. I put the keys to the cb-3000 in a pocket in her purse. I was now locked in until she came home with no way out. When she got home I did not say anything, or do anything out of the norm. She did not know the cage was on until she put her hand on my crotch as we got ready for bed. When she found the device, she told me to take it off, and I told her that I can't... "You have the keys." She looks at me funny. I said you have them in your purse. She shook her head and said "Fine, keep it on." We went to bed and we had sex at the Y. She did not even say or do anything about my needs. In the morning, she did not go for the keys. She started asking about how it felt and why I did this. I told her all the reasons you guys already know.
She asked how long I was going to be in "that"? I said Only you can let me out. Then I said the wrong thing. "You have the keys, you can let me out ~~anytime~~. (anytime) bad choice of words. She grabbed the keys and opened the lock. Then she said. "If you want to be in chastity, the next time you are in that I am going to keep it locked for a year."
A few hours later we started talking about chastity again. She said she wished she had someone to talk to about this other than me. She wanted me to show her other devices. So we looked at the HT v2, and I told her I would like to get that. She smiled and said she still does not understand it, because it must hurt. A week went by we did not talk about it much, but she would occassionally grab my crotch. Tuesday I ordered the HT V2. I was hoping to get the package before she did. She intercepted it and asked me what was in the box? Is that one of the "things"? I simply said yes.
This morning before she went to work I put the H2 on and went to put the keys in her purse as I did a couple weeks ago. But as I was getting coffee, she came out and grabbed my crotch, and felt the hard cage around my dick. She shook her head and said, "where are the keys?" I handed them to her, she took them and went to living room. I have no idea where the keys are now. Or for that matter, how long I will now be in the HT v2. We sat on the couch drinking coffee and acted normal, she did not say a word about the device before she left to work. So for at least 8 hours I will be locked in chastity controlled by wife as my Key Holder.
For me right now, self chastity over several years has turned into my now having a key holder, that might just grow into this... I will see what happens in 8 - 10 hours...
For about 7 years or so I had secretly placed myself in chastity using a CB-3000, when I would go out of town or when my wife would the device was on. When I was wearing the cage in self chastity I would use a locking timer, that was my key holder.
A couple times I showed her the CB-3000 and offered her the keys. The first time she was shocked and did not want anything to do with chastity. She did not want to hurt me and was not sure why I would want to have "that" on my dick. I was not wearing the belt at the time, as I had wanted to talk through how chastity would be a benefit to us. Her refusal was a let down for me, but looking back, her idea even about sex then was, it was something we did but not "play time". So back into self chastity I would go for a couple more years.
Then on her birthday I offered her the keys as a present and was wearing the device. She held the cage in her hands looked at me, took the keys and unlocked me. She told me again that she did not want to hurt me and does not understand. So the device was put away. I stayed away from using it for about a year. And over the last couple years her sex drive has been ratcheting up. She is more focused on the pleasure of sex for her. She has been going to the gym and focused on how she looks. Our vanilla sex has been getting better, but she was starting to make comment that I was finishing too early or I was not ready for sex when she wanted it. This is a complete turn around from her over the last couple years.
So with this turn around, I started focusing on her pleasure more. Licking at the Y, has become a part of our sex routine, I make sure she gets what she wants and I do not focus on my needs. A few times after her orgasms we would just cuddle and I would not penetrate her unless she grabbed my cock and pulled me to her. I have stopped looking at our sexual intercourse being about me getting off. Heck I could do that in the shower afterward. But the focus had to be her.
Recently, like in the last month I have been back to self chastity, to keep me from wanking and build up some cum, as that was another issue she had with me. I was not cumming enough. So when she was at work on Saturday mornings like she is now, I would be in the device, looking at tumblr and video's until just before she comes home.
Two weeks ago I decided to do something a little different. I put the keys to the cb-3000 in a pocket in her purse. I was now locked in until she came home with no way out. When she got home I did not say anything, or do anything out of the norm. She did not know the cage was on until she put her hand on my crotch as we got ready for bed. When she found the device, she told me to take it off, and I told her that I can't... "You have the keys." She looks at me funny. I said you have them in your purse. She shook her head and said "Fine, keep it on." We went to bed and we had sex at the Y. She did not even say or do anything about my needs. In the morning, she did not go for the keys. She started asking about how it felt and why I did this. I told her all the reasons you guys already know.
She asked how long I was going to be in "that"? I said Only you can let me out. Then I said the wrong thing. "You have the keys, you can let me out ~~anytime~~. (anytime) bad choice of words. She grabbed the keys and opened the lock. Then she said. "If you want to be in chastity, the next time you are in that I am going to keep it locked for a year."
A few hours later we started talking about chastity again. She said she wished she had someone to talk to about this other than me. She wanted me to show her other devices. So we looked at the HT v2, and I told her I would like to get that. She smiled and said she still does not understand it, because it must hurt. A week went by we did not talk about it much, but she would occassionally grab my crotch. Tuesday I ordered the HT V2. I was hoping to get the package before she did. She intercepted it and asked me what was in the box? Is that one of the "things"? I simply said yes.
This morning before she went to work I put the H2 on and went to put the keys in her purse as I did a couple weeks ago. But as I was getting coffee, she came out and grabbed my crotch, and felt the hard cage around my dick. She shook her head and said, "where are the keys?" I handed them to her, she took them and went to living room. I have no idea where the keys are now. Or for that matter, how long I will now be in the HT v2. We sat on the couch drinking coffee and acted normal, she did not say a word about the device before she left to work. So for at least 8 hours I will be locked in chastity controlled by wife as my Key Holder.
For me right now, self chastity over several years has turned into my now having a key holder, that might just grow into this... I will see what happens in 8 - 10 hours...
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locked4her55
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Re: Those who practice male chastity secretly from their wiv
YEAJBStok wrote:For me right now, self chastity over several years has turned into my now having a key holder, that might just grow into this... I will see what happens in 8 - 10 hours...
Honestly happy for you. It's no fun sharing this journey with someone who isn't in it with you.
Hope it continues and remember, this is pretty much consuming you right now but it's not necessarily for her. Don't overload her with conversation about chastity. Instead, just make her one of the luckiest women on earth.
Happily secured since 4/2010 
Have worn CB3000, CB6000s, MM Jail Bird & Watchful Mistress,
DHgate A271 & 273, DHgate Full Stainless Steel Belt & DHgate HT nub
Currently wearing A273
Have worn CB3000, CB6000s, MM Jail Bird & Watchful Mistress,
DHgate A271 & 273, DHgate Full Stainless Steel Belt & DHgate HT nub
Currently wearing A273
Re: Those who practice male chastity secretly from their wiv
I've got to hand it to you on that one. What a great buzz that must have been. Gonna have to try that Monday.JBStok wrote:I put the keys to the cb-3000 in a pocket in her purse. I was now locked in until she came home with no way out.
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Thanks. It is on my mind, though I will say that is not consuming me as much as it has in the past.Hope it continues and remember, this is pretty much consuming you right now but it's not necessarily for her. Don't overload her with conversation about chastity. Instead, just make her one of the luckiest women on earth.
So today is also the the first day in the HT v2. I must say, I like this device much more than the CB-3000. I mowed the lawn, went to the bank, washed the dishes, did some activities around the house and barely noticed it was on. With the CB-3000 I would have been extremely conscious of it being attached to me.
My wife came home for lunch. We ate together and she told me I was very good today, she might unlock me tonight. My jaw must have hit the table. She also made a comment she does not understand it completely, but this is a positive move.
You are correct about not over loading her, I am acting normal with her, I am not going to say anything unless she does. She has been home for sometime now and we are both acting as we always do, though she just made a comment that at least tonight she will be able to get some sleep with out me 'bothering' her. Yeah that is her way of saying she is not in the mood.
For guys wearing the a chastity device by self - locking, I hope you are able to make progress with your wives. And I hope that mine will accept the key and do what she thinks will make us both happier in our marriage.
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any progress at this point is good progress. Doesnt sound like your wife is going to be persuaded by words, you will have to do that by deeds. lol. Good luck!
By the way, I did self chastity for a year before telling my wife. It wasnt that hard as we rarely had sex. I honestly didnt worry about her touching or grabbing my crotch. When I did finally tell her she was very interested and a little upset I didnt tell her in the beginning as she said she wanted to be involved in new things from the start. Though thats easier said then done with her being so vanilla. I though for sure she would freak out on me when I told her.
By the way, I did self chastity for a year before telling my wife. It wasnt that hard as we rarely had sex. I honestly didnt worry about her touching or grabbing my crotch. When I did finally tell her she was very interested and a little upset I didnt tell her in the beginning as she said she wanted to be involved in new things from the start. Though thats easier said then done with her being so vanilla. I though for sure she would freak out on me when I told her.