Girlfriend has me locked for the first time

[Grizzly228]

I don't know if I'm just having a bout of depression or in a rut or something but since being locked up for a complete day my mood as completely changed. I wouldn't say I'm "off-myself" depressed but I feel irritable and repressed. I can't sleep well and don't want to do anything. My mind just focuses on Thursday, the day I may get this blasted thing off of my. I want to power through the emotions as I've read the first week or so is the worst but I feel pretty bummed. Maybe since there's no teasing it's just all denial. That isn't a huge turn on for me and I'm a very anxious person already especially about wearing it in public and to work.

Idk. I'm just not in a good place Emotionally and I don't want to complain too much to my KH because she will probably cave and take it off ASAP as she does care about me more than this "play." Still I'm going to try to work through this and make it all 5 days at least.

[Narcissus]

Just from reading what you've said, it seems to me that a possible problem may be the fact that she took the key, completely taking any control over the device from you. Even if you do not plan to remove it at all, or without her permission, having the control snatched away from you to that extent may be putting you in a place emotionally where you truly feel the situation is completely out of your hands and because this is the first time its happened, it's a hard adjustment for you.

My suggestion is to talk about this issue with her, and possibly ask for a key in case of emergencies. This may help you feel a little less apprehensive toward the situation.

[Grizzly228]

We had agreed to try it over the weekend. And we do not live together and it's hard to see one another during the week right now. So when she said she was taking the key with her and added it on her necklace I was apprehensive but thought "cool this is what I've wanted." I believe I do have a spare key but if i test it and it works I'll be very tempted to use it and I don't want to fail at this.

If her and I lived together and there was some kind of stimuli each day to keep the pleasure Alive i could probably go a long time locked. But this lock and leave scenario has been a departure from what I am used to. I had just got used to tease and denial and now it's all just denial.

[Narcissus]

Rhea and I are in the same exact situation, really. We don't live together. However, we still find things to do on the days when we aren't together. I still suggest that you talk to her, tell her how you feel and what your issue is. I wouldn't suggest pushing her on how specifically to do anything, but tell her the issues so the both of you can find what works for you in the end. I know that it can be a challenge to have a key holder that doesn't live with you all the time, but how you feel toward this is going to rely a lot on the mindset that you have toward it.

[Grizzly228]

Thank you again for your experiences and Input. I am talking to her know via text. She actually texted me saying it doesn't seem like it's enjoyable for me. And it is not. But I don't want to quit after not even three full days. I feel this may be a speed bump to something better. And if I complain she's gonna demand I'm freed and probably won't attempt it again for a long time. It took a year to get her comfortable with the idea of the cage. Maybe this was just a bad week for it. I have a lot going on haven't slept well. Thank you for your concern but maybe this is natural when a bodily urge and feeling that is expected and enjoyed is instantly taken away for a period of time. It feels like I can't use a leg or an arm and have to carry a crutch which inhibits my everyday life. Maybe that's what it is; a personal burden that I have to hide except from a select few.

[Grizzly228]

I'm feeling a little better today though my gf didn't send me any pics or teases like we agreed upon last night. Still have trouble sleeping but can't be sure that's due to denial or the cage. I should be getting out of it tomorrow evening so I'm going to power through these last two work days and try to enjoy the journey. I wanted her to push my limits a bit and it seems like she is doing that. In that regard I'm a lucky guy. Just doesn't feel like it when my urges kick in