Girlfriend has me locked for the first time

[Grizzly228]

I've used chastity cages before almost always alone. My girlfriend has been using tease and denial on me on and off for the last year. But today is the first day she's wanted to use a cage on me. We agreed to try it for "the weekend" but when she left she took the key. And she seemed to enjoy having the key, even adding it to her necklace.

For the first time I do not have control of the key and I'm locked until at least Wednesday or Thursday. Any advice for first time lock ups (and 11 days without an orgasm I may add)? I'm trying to act like its no big deal but I can't stop thinking about it.

[Look02]

Nice! When your partner starts to enjoy having the key, something changes. Being locked get's "out of hand" the first time. Enjoy your ride!

I would take care that you're always well lubed (and probably take some good lube with you, just in case somethings pinching). When the times being locked get longer, hygiene gets more important. Always keep the skin dry (use a hair dryer - but without the heater switched on). I do use an antiseptic spray regulary.

[Dukestoy]

Hi Grizzly, and congratulations (I think!) on beginning giving over control to your GF. I'm not too far ahead if you: locked in for a week at a time with my Better Half keeping the key on a chain around her neck. There are two aspects for me:
1) the actual wearing of the device, and getting used to how it feels
2) the knowledge that I no longer have any control over my sexuality.
Can I ask what the longest period of time is that you've been locked in, before this?

[Grizzly228]

The longest was 5 days but by day five I was freaking out. I am trying not to freak out since my gf is involved but it's a mind freak for sure.

[Dukestoy]

So you know that, physically at least, you can survive for that long. What day did she lock you up?

[Grizzly228]

I locked myself Saturday night and slept with it on. And gave her the key after giving her wake up oral. She teased me mercilessly all morning until around noon then took it off for some more teasing. When I was about to pass out or cry or cum or all three, the told me to take a shower and we had to start our day. I put it on after the shower and it's been on since. Other than that reason session it's been since Saturday night. And probably won't come off until Thursday night. But she will probably lock me right back up after whatever plans she has for me. I'm expecting to cum sometime this upcoming weekend but nowadays it's hard to tell. She's liking it more and more and extending denial periods with less releases. After my last "streak" ending with a dud due to too many ruined orgasms in a short time, she wants this one to be a doozy. And I can tell it will be already.

[Grizzly228]

Also it's had an almost counterintuitive effect. I figured I'd be super horny and leaking everywhere after 12 days of teasing but not really. I don't want to say the change has made me feel submissive but the fact that I know I can't touch it or that it won't be given any good sensations for a few days has sort of made me a tad irritated and there's less incentive I guess. Normally when I am denial I am teased everyday either by my gf or myself. Now I can't get any positive sensation and it's actually taken my libido down. Mentally I still want to orgasm. A lot. I want sex. A lot. But the sense of urgency has been replaced by a sense of reluctant acceptance. Seems odd but maybe not to some of you who've done this longer.

[GoddessRhea]

Narcissus has mentioned that if he's not teased in some form, rather that be physical or mental, his libido also drops some. Like you he still wants to have sex and orgasm, but he doesn't feel as worked up.

Honestly, you may want to at least mention this to your girlfriend, because she may not want your libido dropping, and she may be disappointed to find out you're not as horny as she thought you were. Do your best to not sound pushy, or like you're trying to force her into anything. Also try not to guilt her, you don't want her feeling bad.

I don't know if you live together or not, but if you don't live together, you could suggest sexy pictures, and text messages if she's up for that. It's not a physical tease, but it will be something to work your appetite up some.

[Grizzly228]

Those are great ideas. And actually I was just texting her about it. She said it's an upside so I'm focused more on my job and not waking up horny like usual and wasting time masterbating. I have poor sleep habits when I'm anxious or horny. But that's more a tease thing than a cage thing. She's offered to take it off if it's a problem but it's too soon. I want to try to adjust and see where it goes.

I've suggested sexy pics and teased and I get an occasional sext message but no pics. She's a little leery of pics getting out which I can respect. But it would make my situation more exciting. I tried looking at tumblr and tried to get worked up but it's hard knowing I can't even stroke or get hard fully. It's a mental tease more than physical and I love the physical tease. Lol

[FrillyFrenchMaid]

Also the longer you go on this first session, will set a precedent and you may be expected to go at least that long again next time you get locked up. Have fun with that!