GoddessRhea, yes it is very clear that having very short trimmed hair down there, if not shaved, will save time and make things more comfortable that's for sure. We wear and learn I suppose!! I have only removed it to try another ring and spacer, then to change back and also to dry after my first shower in it. In my mind I will not want to be able to remove it after a shower or at all really if and when my partner comes to the party so to speak. If I hand over the keys I want to be able to hand them over to her and that would be it because its not quite the same mind-frame surrounding it when I know that I have the keys and she doesn't even know about this yet.
Putting it back on after drying is almost a bit funny and would be more annoying if I/we were in a hurry. There is a practice routine to this I suppose. IA couple of time I thought that I had got in ion and locked pretty quickly, then realised that I had one ball still outside the ring. That happened a couple of times and then I found that I was a bit big to readily get the tube back on. After some maneuvering I finally go the whole thing pressed back together and ready for the lock. I think that it is at this point that I want/need someone to take charge and actually do the locking!!
Yes, of course I have been think about how to tell/ask/mention this to my partner and that is not easily done just because we haven't ever talked about this type of kink precisely and its harder too because she would know that I have been investigating and experimenting this on my own. She does know that I have lots of kinks though and has accused me of that over time. She has been less eager to experiment with these. She believes that I masturbate often but she doesn't really understand how often!!! She has said that she doesn't mind if that happens (at times?) while she is away as long as it is her that i am thinking about. She isn't really a big fan of me doing this when she is not away though and she has said that she thinks at times that I prefer my own hand to her body - that's not true but I do not have any self control in that regard.
Of course I just don't know what her reaction will be or how I should get the talk going over this. (I want to because even now just 18.5 hours later I think that I need a keyholder!!)
It would be better and more satisfying and sensual etc if she could be the keyholder but I have already thought of approaching another woman who is an exFWB to act as a keyholder even for short intervals. My head is now racing while I wear this new toy!!!
My Package arrived!!!!!
Re: My Package arrived!!!!!
Update - still testing with different combinations. Now gone back to trying the largest ring again with smallest spacer because the second largest ring was always quite tight underneath and aggravated the ball sack in a less than comfortable way. I think when I earlier tested the largest, that I was not properly in. Firstly making sure that both balls are in is the secret!
Re: My Package arrived!!!!!
As far as telling a partner, there may be no perfect way. My wife and I had purchased a few sex toys over the years, and that's when I became aware of chastity devices.
Occasionally, when snuggled up during sex, and both behind a few drinks, I've initiated conversations on "is there anything sexually you'd like to try." Years before I bought a device, my wife knew I had an interest in such. Last summer, I told her I wanted one for my Birthday.
By a stroke of luck, it arrived on my Birthday when we had a night out planned, including a hotel stay. She was pretty receptive to playing along.
In the light of a normal day, trying to hand over a key wasn't too smooth. I probably needed to be more subtle in some ways that still elude me.
So, much depends on your background with your partner. If things have been very vanilla and she is very conservative, you have a lot of hurdles. If you've had some wild nights, played with a few kinks of other sorts, and have time for some relaxed sexy talk, you may have it much easier. After all, if she has had dildos and vibrators in / on her, your cage is just a toy for your private parts.
So, if you have a way to talk about "I have a new toy," that may be an ice breaker. I wouldn't even push the key, and just expect things to go slow. Maybe you'll hit the jack pot and she take an immediate interest in the key.
I realize that I don't have an interest in every kink there is, and I know my wife doesn't either, and I'm fine with that. You'll have to consider your relationship first in all this, and your desire for your new kink second.
I wish you luck with it.
Occasionally, when snuggled up during sex, and both behind a few drinks, I've initiated conversations on "is there anything sexually you'd like to try." Years before I bought a device, my wife knew I had an interest in such. Last summer, I told her I wanted one for my Birthday.
By a stroke of luck, it arrived on my Birthday when we had a night out planned, including a hotel stay. She was pretty receptive to playing along.
In the light of a normal day, trying to hand over a key wasn't too smooth. I probably needed to be more subtle in some ways that still elude me.
So, much depends on your background with your partner. If things have been very vanilla and she is very conservative, you have a lot of hurdles. If you've had some wild nights, played with a few kinks of other sorts, and have time for some relaxed sexy talk, you may have it much easier. After all, if she has had dildos and vibrators in / on her, your cage is just a toy for your private parts.
So, if you have a way to talk about "I have a new toy," that may be an ice breaker. I wouldn't even push the key, and just expect things to go slow. Maybe you'll hit the jack pot and she take an immediate interest in the key.
I realize that I don't have an interest in every kink there is, and I know my wife doesn't either, and I'm fine with that. You'll have to consider your relationship first in all this, and your desire for your new kink second.
I wish you luck with it.
Re: My Package arrived!!!!!
I am back in locked status after a 48 hour break and have changed to second longest spacer (with largest ring). There is certainly a learning curve for a newbie on this thing that's for sure! Still alone on this at present but will have to take off for a while when my partner is here in a few days. Not ready to tell her yet while on learning but the more I am locked and adapt to that, the more I think about if it was her doing the locking!