A key holders final task - should I unlock?

[MyKeys]

I am a KH. I always set my last task as a writing task to try and improve as a KH. Here is what I got from my husband last week. My question is have any of you done anything like this? What have you learnt? KH and those of you who are Chaste - or just have a view... all comments welcome.
Thank you x

KH Throughout this assignment you are expected to write verbatim, with every single detail… like you are reliving it!!!! Honesty is Key… without it, things could get worse, or they could get BETTER!!!

KH What was the worst point and why?
Waking up on Saturday 31st, to find an oedema on Bob. I have always really liked the idea of earning some time out, but keeping the back ring in place for ease of relocking. I was very disappointed to find out that by just keeping the ring on, damage may occur. Since then, I have thought a lot about why it happened, and I think it was because I spent most of the night with a very strong erection due to our very intense tease and denial session prior. The erection, in itself would cut off blood supply if it lasted a long enough time. I don’t think this would happen if I had come prior to leaving the cage part off overnight. I have realised that if I am not allowed to come, the cage should be re-secured if sleep should follow immediately after. Lesson learnt!

What was the best point and why?
I enjoy every aspect of this game. I have always told you that tasks are not so important for my enjoyment, but actually the best point was you writing/setting the part one task (and part two come to that!). Knowing that you are working on something and thinking about the game, and particularly me having no idea what is about to happen, is a complete mind blowing and exciting experience in itself! Doing the tasks (Like doing this now!) is quiet incredible, and because of what the tasks are, they ultimately end up being for the greater understanding of this game for both of us! I realised that I do enjoy the tasks aspect of the game much more than I originally thought I would.

What was the best sexual activity? – re-live it! I want every single activity and mind thought!
It was on Friday the 30th. You came down to the kitchen unannounced and unlocked me and kissed Bob! My heart raced as you said “that this was my reward for completing part one”. My heart skipped a beat when you said “BUT it’s temporary!”! I couldn’t wait to get to bed to see what you had planned next, and our cuddles, coupled with Bob’s temporary freedom to get as hard as possible without restriction felt incredible. I was so turned on I thought I would explode there and then. We started to make love and you said “I’m still a little dry”. This excited me even more as I thought that I could go down on you. I was a little apprehensive as sometimes Bob can lose his “enthusiasm” when I’m focused on other things, but because the base ring was still in place, Bob remained as hard as ever. After a couple of minutes of me enjoying my heaven with great anticipation and excitement, you called me for to come upwards. Very quickly, I (and Bob!) was extremely happy filling you completely, and I felt so connected and so close to you, as we always do when we make love. (I needed that so much!!!).
To my utter surprise you randomly interrupted my dazed delirium and ordered me to stop! You, then, without hesitation, actually pushed Bob out. I so wanted/needed to come at this moment and I was quite close too, just seconds away! It is this absolute tease and massive sense of frustration that is ultimately why this event has ended up being my most frustrating, and therefore the best sexual activity so far of this lockup duration. (Not to mention actually spending the night with your smell mixed in my every breath!)

What was the least enjoyable sexual activity? – re-live it! I want every single activity and mind thought!
The least enjoyable sexual activity was not immediately re locking up after my best sexual activity above. I was so turned on, so frustrated and without the lock re-instated, all I could think about was how was I going to stop myself from manually taking over and coming myself. With “your heavenly smell” on my every breath too, it actually crossed my mind that I may not ever need to touch! Although, I did refrain from coming, I couldn’t stop touching myself and arguing in my mind about “Just letting it happen”. This new uncomfortable mind set completely eradicated the previous delicious and tantalisingly heightened teased and frustrated state I was in. I did feel a bit robbed at that time, but since then, I have thought no more about it until now. I have always said to you (and myself!!!), “It is up to you, whilst you hold the key, how I am to feel sexually” and that in itself teases me no end. 

What could you do to make the lock-up more enjoyable?
I am not sure about this – I find the whole experience so very enjoyable that I’m not sure what I could do that would make it any better….
We always talk, it is our greatest gift, but I am always in two minds about talking about it when we are playing, as I don’t want to override or pressure you in anyway. I still feel that I could/should not make any new suggestions (as I do not want to “Top from the bottom”). It is these writing tasks that we tend to recap and go through what each other is thinking and feeling, and that is perfect for me. It is set out in writing and deeply thought about, but I think maybe asking you for some timeout occasionally, to talk about the game openly and about any new ideas or thoughts on both our parts. To be fair though, sometimes I don’t feel this inhibition, and just talk to you about anything and everything to do with the game. Maybe we need to discuss this more and how you feel about it – if you feel that I am taking over in any way when I am talking about it. I actually know how you will respond to this…. “TALK!” Hehe. Maybe I am just worrying about the right time or place to talk about it…. Mmmm, looking forward to hearing what you think here…

What could I do to make the lock-up more enjoyable?
One of the greatest learning curves for me/us with this game is the journey, and us going through it and learning about it together. I have learnt that most of my fantasies in the past are just that, fantasy. I have written about pretty much all of them to you before that I can remember, and every lockup game we play, you add in different elements. There is nothing specific that I could say that you could do that would make it any better; it is beyond my imagination and expectations already. Just keep doing what you are doing – and that alone keeps me seconds away from coming – (Sometimes it is so intense that anymore and I feel like I might just go over!!) It is this balanced equilibrium constant state of teased and denial that makes me feel more alive – 24/7!!!

What did I do well during lock-up?
I think you have really honed into what makes me tick now. You seem to understand and be able to read me so well when I might need a bit of vocal/mental stimulation. The blasé, matter of fact “no mercy” position you take during gameplay is tantalising (I can’t think of a better work for it!). Every time we play – you seem to grow stronger and stronger in this aspect, which really does give me the feeling of “Handing control over to you”. This is of course, the whole point of the game for me! I am also pretty sure now that you are feeling less pressure about having sex/making love in general. I do hope so, as it is another major point of the game as far as I am concerned. You should never feel pressure about anything to do with us, and I hope in some way you do feel less pressure during gameplay and enjoy having orgasms when you feel like it!

What could I improve on to make lock-up more enjoyable?
The only element of this game that I really do struggle with is the feeling of being forgotten. Doing tasks you set eradicates this feeling totally – we are both playing together and talking about it  . But I am also very aware that setting tasks is time consuming and you don’t always have the time. I suppose what I am saying is maybe thinking about longer timed tasks. I have seen, in the forum, a post specifically about this issue, to which a poster suggested a website called “Write for me”. I have looked at it briefly and think it could be an idea worth investigating. It involves you setting a task (writing!) that will take as much or as little time you want it to take – and it reports directly to you apparently. The original posted seemed to like the idea on the forum, and I “think” I do too… (I may regret this suggestion though!!!)
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Tell me about any other thoughts you’ve had that aren’t addressed through the questions above.
I have had some other thoughts during this session (and previous sessions too!). I feel very excited about the prospect of you engaging with other KH’s on the forum (Chastity forums) sharing ideas and techniques. I’m not sure why, as you seem to have a very good idea of what makes me tick now but the idea of you logging on fills me with excitement, much like you setting tasks. I have just realised why whilst typing this, it is the “not knowing what’s coming next….”. A very exciting proposition when coupled with the 100% trust that we have between us.

Another aspect that keeps springing to mind whilst under lock and key is bringing the plugs into our gameplay. Maybe this is just a spinoff from fantasy and not practical in the real-world. I am really not sure if this idea is going to be a punishment, more teasing and therefore enjoyment, or anything else I haven’t thought of, but the idea keeps coming to my mind and I thought I should let you know!

The only other thing is security. I know – if pushed very very (and it would have to be the brink!) of the edge, I could pull out. I have written about this before and it is still prevalent when playing the game for me. I think we need to experiment further with the material you brought (I can’t remember what it is called now!) and see if we can make it work better than we have tried in the past. I cannot think of anything better than having “NO Control”… That really is the whole point!

I can’t think of anything else to add here – But I would like to take this opportunity to “THANKYOU SO VERY MUCH” for what you do, how you do it and how you make me feel. I know it is not easy for you, but you always seem to do it willingly and enthusiastically for me – and I cannot thank you enough for that.

I really am the luckiest man on the planet to have you for my wife –  I love you XXXXX

To complete this assignment, you have to ask me to “write about my experience”. Simple! There is a fail or pass element here, so be careful . Love you xxx
You are nearly OUT!!!!!

[Len51]

Never did this or heard of such a thing but whatever works for you is good. We just talk and certainly do not grade each other on responses, even if it is just a pass/fail grade. On those occasions that I email my wife, I tend to be less formal in my writing. I only write formally when I am writing a magazine article or technical paper.

[TwistedMister]

I don't know what this is about, setting 'tasks', however, this question/answer thing does seem like a decent method for you to get feed-back to use in planning your strategy. We have never done anything like this but if it works for you, then go for it.

I would like to point out one thing: he talks about a case of edema from leaving the ring on without the cage and speculates that it might not have occurred if he had had an orgasm- that speculation is not necessarily correct. My worst case of edema occurred *after* an orgasm, when the ring was left on but the cage was off and I went to sleep. I would suggest that this condition should not be allowed to occur, either re-cage, or remove the ring.

(In my opinion, it is always better if the KH insists on re-caging immediately after she is done 'playing', whether he has had an orgasm or not, unless there is some medical issue that requires otherwise. Training him to accept this as an expected condition adds a subtle but important aspect to his perception of your power as Keyholder, and perhaps to *your* perception of it as well. It can help to eliminate any question of 'authority' and maintain a continuum of control. I think it is especially important *after* he has been allowed an orgasm and his libido may be low- if he is allowed to remain unlocked during this 'low' period he may begin to question his desire to be locked and resist re-locking, insisting on re-locking immediately, before the 'low' sets in completely, can help him to avoid any doubts about it, and may even speed the recovery time and shorten the 'low', causing his libido to begin rising again much sooner than it would otherwise...which is definitely to your advantage.)

[Tame Lion]

Fiction. This is in the wrong forum.

[TwistedMister]

Fiction. This is in the wrong forum.

Eh? What?

What, exactly, are you calling 'fiction'? The OP's post? My experience? My opinion?

I think you're violating Rule #1 here.

[Michele]

Fiction. This is in the wrong forum.

I don't see what is fiction here either? It's fiction that a keyholder would give her sub a writing task? I give mine research and writing assignments sometimes - this works for my long distance subs. It's not necessarily fiction.

[celticqueens_sub]

Fiction. This is in the wrong forum.

An explanation is required. CQ sets tasks of a similar nature for me frequently.

[Len51]

Interesting, chastity with pop quizzes . We are old fashioned. We still talk to each other. Worked for over 40 years so why stop now? I will admit that we do email each other at times but that is mostly because we are passing along a link or excerpt from a web site. For long distance fetish play writing makes sense because the physical is missing and you are left with only words. Many seem satisfied with that. I do not because I need to see, smell, hear and be physically punished to satisfy my fetish needs. Tried online domination but my Mistress turned out to be a guy. However, words can be very powerful to evoke emotions. I use them myself when having sex with a woman and my former Mistress was great with painting a picture and setting a mood using words. However, they were no substitute for the sting of a cane and I needed to feel that so I need the physical all the time. To each their own and who really cares what excites us. I have some things that sexually excite me that would revolt most so I am in no position to judge anyone. I can however, express my preferences.

[MyKeys]

Hello all,
Let me reassure anyone who thinks this is fiction - It isn't. This is a regular task that we do, before every unlock.
Also, for anyone worrying, 'bob' as my husband calls him, is absolutely fine! As he says, 'lesson learnt'

When I met my husband 6 years ago, he introduced this idea to me. I was horrified to hear some of his experiences as to what he did before meeting me - and he was very quickly reassured, I would not be asking him of to do some of those things. For me now, his being in chastity is about him wanting to focus on me and me alone and my orgasms and denying his own.

Over the years we have documented a beautiful journey of our experiences (maybe one day it will go to print). For those who think this is weird to write, I can assure you, we do talk and talk and talk too This just helps us focus on what to talk about after the experience (we like structure in our lives - sad but true) and often time alone is limited as like most people we lead a busy family/work/full time study lives.

Anyway, thanks for all the comments so far... At least I am doing what he has asked of me