I have just finished 3 months with only two ruined orgasms. My wife keeps pushing for no orgasms at all but when she sees me having problems enduring it, she will give me an orgasm as long as my chastity time was at least a week longer than last time. She has slowly but surely got me used to longer and longer periods of strict chastity. Along the way, my wife had rediscovered the joy of playing with my penis and using her vibrator less and my tongue more. Chastity is perfect for me because I like intimacy and long sensuous foreplay. It is my wife who always hurries to orgasm, not me. I always have had my orgasm after hers.
For those who are still trying to get into chastity, I say keep trying but do not force feed your wife. Do it in stages. That is what worked for me. I tried to dump chastity. a FLR and D/s on my wife all at once. She was overwhelmed and did not want to become my Mistress or lead our marriage and thought not having orgasms was not real sex. With a little teasing and denial play first, she saw the effects it had on me and her. Once she was hooked on T&D I introduced the idea of a chastity device so that she did not always have to be focused on making sure that I did not cum. Now she rarely lets me out of my Holy Trainer and was the one who pushed me to order a custom device.
We work together to eliminate as many of my pleasurable orgasms as we can. We both do not like how I get after I have one. I can only do this because I know that my wife will give me an orgasm if she senses it is causing me problems. For instance, a lot of stress at work. I do not have to worry about being forced to go longer than I can bear. She is my safety net and has never failed me in BDSM and now, chastity so I let her push my limits free from worry.
I see that this website attracts a lot of guys interested in chastity and most are like me and others who are into chastity. We all seem to have wives that were reluctant to try it. We each changed their minds using different methods. Just want to say that it is possible to take a no and turn it into a yes if you find the right approach. That approach is not dumping a contract on her and expecting her to turn from the sweet submissive girl you married into a whip wielding dominatrix who wants the strong man she married to become he slave to step all over. Baby steps and showing her the positive effects of chastity on you and your marriage, are the way to go. I went weeks on the honor system before I even mentioned a chastity device. It took months for my wife to not feel guilty if she did not make me cum every time we had sex. She still calls it fake sex but she has almost lost all feelings of guilt and is being more assertive and not afraid to whip my butt when I displease her.
