"Coming out" in the open

[nebman]

For quite awhile I have thought that all men in a relationship should be caged. It does a lot for the relationship. The bond between mates becomes stronger and more intimate. Chastity has been a very interesting lifestyle to adopt. If it becomes a topic or scene in a movie or in the media, you can get a significant surge will occur.

Literally after writing comments in this thread yesterday, I read a major article in my local conservative daily paper discussing the "Shades of Grey" movie, and a sidebar discussing that sales of certain sex toys skyrocket after being featured in mainstream entertainment. The "Rabbit" vibrator is one of the most famous examples following its being featured in "Sex and the City."

Local adult stores said they have stocked up certain items featured in the movie.

You are very likely correct, if the right treatment of male chastity devices shows up in popular media, sales could go through the roof.

Acceptance of things constantly changes. There was just no evidence that my parents ever had sex toys, my grandparents certainly never. I was born in the mid 1960s, I recall a high school discussion that sex toy parties were starting to mainstream a little bit, my wife was invited to two and attended one toy party before we were married in the early 1990's, one co-worker gave my wife a set of basic cuffs and tie down straps as a wedding present, and I was tied down for the first time by about 1992.

We've since bought a handful of toys: upgraded tie-downs and cuffs, a few vibrators and dildos, and most recently a chastity device. Hey, if we can play between women's legs with sex toys, why not between men's legs?

We are far from wild eyed San Franciscans, we live in a suburb full of PTA attending parents in a conservative Midwestern city. We can drive to an adult store in under 15 minutes and buy a male chastity device. The store is in a decent neighborhood. We can literally walk to Target and buy a vibrator. That, my friends, is mainstreaming of sex toys.

[nebman]

Divorce statistics tend to prove that at least half of married people are not cut out for a lifelong commitment.

This statement is not accurate. The statistics are skewed by people who repeatedly get married and divorced.

Agreed, serial marriers skew the numbers.

And, if 50% of marriages last a lifetime, that is a heck of a lot of marriages. Billions worldwide. That makes long term marriage one of the most prevalent sexual arrangements - fetishes if you will!

[nebman]

Even if the majority of people got sprayed with something from another planet and felt the need for enforced male chastity, it still wouldn't be out in the open. Do you discuss every intimate thing you do with strangers or even friends?

Agreed, there will always be some intimate things that many / probably most people won't be in a hurry to share in a highly public way, especially without the cloak of anonymity.

Things don't seem to go well for people that overshare on Facebook, Twitter, whatever.

[noid51]

Two people Know I'm wearing a cage. My wife and I. That's the way I want it to stay. Except for a great fantasy. Don't think I'd be into the Thursdsy night chastity club meeting down at the coffee house! Of course you all know about me but you all my cyberspace friends.

[Tom Allen]

Many women use sex to control men, maybe we should just accept the obvious, change the paradigm. What do you think if male chastity using a device was openly accepted in society and if the majority of men where in chastity. And women with men in chastity regularly talked about it openly and compared how their men were attending to them (more than they do already). What would it be like walking through the gym locker room and not having to hide our cage? Would you go along with this? Do you think I should place this thought in the Fiction forum?

It's quite common for people - mainly guys - who stumble into chastity to become a bit over-enthusiastic about it, and start imagining that it's the proper route for all relationships.

I hate to be a buzzkill, but it's a kink. It's fascinating, and it can have positive effects on your relationship, but at the end of the day, it's a sexual kink, and it's not going to be interesting to everybody.

[Herchaste]

Maybe since I am fairly new at this, but a Thursday night chastity club meeting down at the coffee house is of interest to me.

Honestly, the excitement or "tease" keeps us in the game. The higher the dopamine levels the more attention she gets.

[Herchaste]

BTW, another reason I would be interested in a weekly coffee chastity club is to talk and share our like interests and the good and bad experiences. The same thing we are doing on this forum, but in person. I'm in the SF Bay Area if anyone is interested.

[TwistedMister]

It won't cure any diseases.

Perhaps not...but it could help prevent the *spreading* of some diseases.

[Caged55]

I wish chastity would be openly discussed as women's vibrators. I was recently forced to come out when last week we were invited to a naked hot-tub evening with a couple we had known for some time.
It was actually a proud event for me, I dont have a problem with people knowing that my KH controls my sexuality and orgasms, and the great sex we have as a result of the added levels of intimacy and sexual focus we share.
Interestingly the vanilla couple was very receptive and we spent most of the evening discussing chastity etc, to point that our hostess wants to have her husband "sized" for a chastity device... I sent him over my sizing rings...

The point I agree with is that chastity, just like vibrators, restraints etc can become mainstream and no longer be seen as a secretive issue between a couple. I hope our vanilla friends explore the wondeful world of chastity. I am confident in my relationship and proud to be locked 24/7 for my KH, and my commitment to our relationship, and therefore comfortable with my sexuality, and hope chastity becomes a mainstream item sooner than later, as I am sure we all can attest the benefits of chastity....