The "rest" of Male Chastity

[Jimi123]

I've been spending so much time with the mechanics of trying to get fit into the curve and such that I've ignored the non "mechanics" of this that have worked so well.

First there is the site on Anglefire
http://www.angelfire.com/id2/Hawaii/MaleCh.html

Then I found this link on
http://www.keptforher.com/why-chastity.html

and the suggestions on this link from kept for her that is just genius...
http://www.keptforher.com/romance.html

Many of the tips on how to be the ideal husband and so forth are pretty Vanilla and none of this includes dressing up like a maid or giving up doing couples sex or eating from the dog's disk.

Making the wife "Happy" by whatever means is spelled out and when I did a personal inventory of my own actions... Well I wasn't wanking to porn but the rest of it I was getting low marks. Making an effort to help more in the and around the house has been a good thing. Taking more care of the kids ditto. Asking "can I help you" DUH! The simple "Equate your happiness with her own?" Pretty easy to grasp and works.

The Kept for her site has a lot of excellent basic ideas for being a better husband. And I appreciate that these include concepts that are pretty mainstream. What embarrasses me is that as I started doing them I was suddenly this new guy that my wife really liked and was into!

Sex -To quote the first link.
" Just because he’s prevented from achieving sexual relief doesn’t mean that you are! This it he perfect opportunity for him to perfect his tongue technique. Multiple times daily if you wish it! He’ll be very happy to do so as keeping you happy sexually will not only feel like an accomplishment for him, but also serve to ensure his own sexual relief when the time comes.

Make him ask politely to be allowed to give you oral sex, or a massage, or that foot rub. Tease him. The voracious sexual energy you’ll generate in him by doing so can be channeled into pleasing you. Use your imagination."

This seems to have solved the issue of initiating sex. When I'm asking her regularly if I can give her oral sex, a massage or a foot rub" its never left in doubt. The simple idea that I ask (often and in a polite way) and accept no without being a "dick" about it make life a lot better.

The Focus on her helps me as well. She always was the "gatekeeper" for sex regardless if I was accepting that or not. But we were getting lazy about it and it really was all just being phoned in.

Looking into male chastity does tend to refocus things on her *A plus! Iron out many basics.

[Mayhew]

That angelfire site was one of the first I ever found.

Good times....

[Jimi123]

I've often wondered if the Therapist (from the first link) who is said to have written this is for real? I tried Googling her out of curiosity but???

[poor]

One aspect that I've only seen mentioned once (Lori's IIRC) is how it changes the way we behave as men. I would never put myself in a position where I could get into a fight when I'm shackled. I don't drink out of the house nor flirt with women at work. I'm also more obedient towards all the smaller social laws and I even drive more carefully.

I figure that it's a fear of discovery thing but I'd probably just front it out if I was found out; I just wouldn't need the hassle (particulary the gossip at work). I have no access to the key and have no way out if anything happens so prudence steers my ship.

[Tom Allen]

One aspect that I've only seen mentioned once (Lori's IIRC) is how it changes the way we behave as men. [...] I don't drink out of the house nor flirt with women at work.

Heh - I flirt even more!