So tell me forum...

[elwoodinchastity]

Why do you deserve to cum?

[jnuts]

I don't.

[Tom Allen]

Who said anything about "deserving"? That's not how we play.

[Belle]

Who said anything about "deserving"? That's not how we play.

Ditto. I am a keyholder, not a Domme.

[Tom Allen]

I answered quickly form my phone last night, so instead of appearing to be too curt, I just want to clarify.

For many of us, denial is not a punishment, nor is it a reward to be earned. While I'm not going to get into the new-agey, quasi-religious meanderings that some men profess, I do want to make it clear that I enjoy the constant feeling of arousal that denial gives me, especially when it's combined with the emotional connect from Mrs. Edge actively playing along. .Yes, I may *want* an orgasm, but it's not the same as wanting one because I can't have it. It's an enjoyable game between the two of us, and I don't feel punished, nor does Mrs. Edge feel like she's punishing me.

Obviously, other people may play this out differently in their private lives, and that's okay. The mistake is in assuming that *everybody* follows the same (or similar) scripts.

[elwoodinchastity]

I answered quickly form my phone last night, so instead of appearing to be too curt, I just want to clarify.

For many of us, denial is not a punishment, nor is it a reward to be earned. While I'm not going to get into the new-agey, quasi-religious meanderings that some men profess, I do want to make it clear that I enjoy the constant feeling of arousal that denial gives me, especially when it's combined with the emotional connect from Mrs. Edge actively playing along. .Yes, I may *want* an orgasm, but it's not the same as wanting one because I can't have it. It's an enjoyable game between the two of us, and I don't feel punished, nor does Mrs. Edge feel like she's punishing me.

Obviously, other people may play this out differently in their private lives, and that's okay. The mistake is in assuming that *everybody* follows the same (or similar) scripts.

I debated about explaining the genesis of this question and opted to be vague with the hope of soliciting a variety of responses. It had not occured to me that it would be interpreted as specific only to d/s relationships. I apologize if the post seemed troll-ish or simply a misguided request for titillating responses. Nor was it my intent to imply the nature of anyone else's relationship.

The context is this: when my wife and I are playing, she will frequently ask me why I deserve to cum. In our case, it's not within the dynamic of a D/S relationship. I think she's just curious as to how creative I can be with my answer, and I nearly always find myself twiterpated and at a loss for words when she asks. "Because I'm tremendously horny and really want to" doesn't cut it. Hence the question for the group.

Perhaps a better question would have been, "Existentially speaking, why do *I* deserve to cum?"

[Tom Allen]

The context is this: when my wife and I are playing, she will frequently ask me why I deserve to cum. In our case, it's not within the dynamic of a D/S relationship. I think she's just curious as to how creative I can be with my answer, and I nearly always find myself twiterpated and at a loss for words when she asks. "Because I'm tremendously horny and really want to" doesn't cut it. Hence the question for the group.

I don't see any difference here. She's asking you why you "deserve" an orgasm because in your roleplay script, she has the power to grant or deny, and she apparently grants based on some kind of merit. It's not specifically d/s, but the principle is the same: orgasm - for you - is a reward. And that's cool.

My point - which is still relevant - is that not all of us perceive this the same way. For me, orgasm is not a reward; it's enjoyable, and and fun, and I sometimes want more, but I sometimes don't. I enjoy the play, and my wife enjoys my arousal as a result of the play.

Perhaps a better question would have been, "Existentially speaking, why do *I* deserve to cum?"

How cold anybody else possibly answer that for you?

[elwoodinchastity]

How cold anybody else possibly answer that for you?

Perhaps someone else in the community could answer it for themselves, someone whose roleplay dynamic is similar to my own or for whom the question resonates. Shared experience can take the conversation from there.

[kpb57]

It's rather not a question of "deserving", but "is it right for me/him/us right now".

K

[Atone]

It's rather not a question of "deserving", but "is it right for me/him/us right now".

K

I like this answer.

-A