Catching the Wave

[fuzzydunlop]

I have been interested in Chastity for about half my life---since in college. The last few years, I notice that I go through these streaks where I essentially "diet" from having orgasms---and feel a real boost in energy and sex drive. Some people may not like feeling very horny---like it is an itch that needs to be scratched. I loooove feeling horny, and will forgo an orgasm to extend that feeling when I feel like I am the right "place". I went on one such streak through most of December, January and early February and have not quite been focused since then. I frequently MB when I am overly stressed out, which has been a lot recently. In other words, I am in quite a rut, as:

My eating habits have been poor
My exercise habits have been poor
My orgasm habits have been poor

What do you do to get out of such a rut? Feeling a little bit of a spark with my spouse has helped me in the past, but I can't completely rely on her to pull me out of it, and we are both drained raising little kids.

Any tips?

[Atone]

What do you do to get out of such a rut? Feeling a little bit of a spark with my spouse has helped me in the past, but I can't completely rely on her to pull me out of it, and we are both drained raising little kids.

Any tips?

dedicate some time to spend with your spouse. Even if you can't get out of the house just pick a night and make it happen. My youngest is almost 6 now so we don't have much trouble any more but back a couple of years ago it was more difficult.

Here a little tip that works for us to free up some time in the evening.

A well rounded dinner for the kids is probably a good idea but really, if they eat well most of the time just give them a peanut butter sandwich and a handful of goldfish.

If you skip giving them a bath one night is the world going to end? In my experience (I also have much older kids) if they are old enough to smell that bad without a bath one night they are old enough to bathe themselves. Send their little (or not so little) buts up to bed.

Even if it is too early at this point for them to go to sleep just keep them separated to keep them quiet (kids are loud to the power of N where N = the number of kids present, you got to keep them isolated from each other). Load them up with books or some other activity and threaten them appropriately to not come bother you. Our rule is unless there is smoke or blood it can wait.

Take this time to prepare a nice dinner for just the two of you. Enjoy dinner and spend some time together just the two of you. If you do this on a week night it can be an amazing way to refresh in the middle of the week.

You may have to do this a few times before you get the kinks worked out (ha) but the kids will learn that they don't always come first (hint - the kids don't always come first) and mom and dad need some time to themselves.

-A

[fuzzydunlop]

Thanks. I figure I got to come up with some way to beat the cycle (not at all unique to me) of: work, work some more, take care of the kids, work some more after that, see if I can orgasm before falling asleep, and repeat the next day.

[Blaeu]

Just wanted to add a few thing that have given me some free time away from my kids.

1. When making dinner, make a lot on purpose so you have leftovers. Leftovers are easy.

2. Netflix. I cannot express how happy I am to have on demand kid shows from Netflix. I'm not saying throw then in front of a TV and leave, but leftovers and netflix? Please.

3. Go get a 99 cent poster board from the drug store and put it on the table with a set of markers. Let them do whatever they want with it. It's new, it's big, and they can draw on it.

I don't know if any will help, but I hope you find time either way. Good luck.