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The start of 2025 feels like starting a new paragraph, if not a new chapter to me.

With Herbi out at work I've found myself thinking about where we've come from, where we are, and where we're going next.
I feel, after 9 months of this chastity trial, that we have moved from “beginners” to “intermediates”.
I haven't spoken to Herbi to see if he would agree with that yet, but we will discuss it.

We are settled, I feel, with 4 good and suitable cages to choose from.
All of them work. None causes a problem of any kind.
And I like them all, each in its own way.

I think it's a good time to take stock. New year. Average reset to zero.
What do I want to do?

Herbi has got very good at not asking about cages or changes, and he doesn't complain when he's frustrated either. He knows the consequences and they are staying in place.
Any behavioural issues will be dealt with using anything from my selection of consequences.
Longer denial, or the paddle, stick or cane, removing access to his phone or computer. If I had a naughty cage then a change into that could be a potential punishment, but I think they're all pretty equal and I'm not really looking to buy any further cages.

Over the next year, I'm not going to focus on numbers or averages but instead I will just keep to a simple theme: Once a month is more than enough.
Experience has shown that Herbi can go 12 weeks without an orgasm, just unlocking for hygiene reasons.
If he can do that once, he can do it again.
I'm not saying that 12 weeks will become standard, but let's just say that there won't be as many occasions where he gets to come over the next year. Some calendar months will be orgasm free as they were last year. We're starting with one of those months now as it happens.
He won't be unlocked during January.

I'm also not going to change cages as frequently either.
He is always ready for a change, after just 2 days sometimes, but that's not going to happen unless I specifically want it to.
He will be getting used to longer between changes. The big cage that he's in now is particularly easy to keep clean and suitable for longer periods. I think we might have a period of 2-4 weeks between changes from now on but I'm going to go with what feels right rather than pure numbers.

Perhaps the move from beginner to intermediate is more one of attitude than physical change.
Longer periods between changes and fewer orgasms is the intended result.
I hope Herbi is happy with what he has now got because he's not in much of a position to negotiate and I'm not taking any nonsense.
And just to be clear, I am very happy with where we're heading.

It's been useful to take a little time to think things over and writing them down here has solidified my ideas for me.
Yes, it's been a worthwhile exercise.
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Wow.
On a break at work and this was the first thing I read. Twice.

Suddenly I see where that "extra week in the big one" has come from. Everything's falling into place under Miss Emmie's grand plan.

Oh wow.
Hang on a minute... . This is FLR! We've been living a FLR!
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KHEmmi wrote: Tue Jan 07, 2025 7:20 am The start of 2025 feels like starting a new paragraph, if not a new chapter to me.

I feel, after 9 months of this chastity trial, that we have moved from “beginners” to “intermediates”.
I haven't spoken to Herbi to see if he would agree with that yet, but we will discuss it.


Herbi has got very good at not asking about cages or changes, and he doesn't complain when he's frustrated either. He knows the consequences and they are staying in place.
Any behavioural issues will be dealt with using anything from my selection of consequences.
Longer denial, or the paddle, stick or cane, removing access to his phone or computer. If I had a naughty cage then a change into that could be a potential punishment, but I think they're all pretty equal and I'm not really looking to buy any further cages.

Over the next year, I'm not going to focus on numbers or averages but instead I will just keep to a simple theme: Once a month is more than enough.
Experience has shown that Herbi can go 12 weeks without an orgasm, just unlocking for hygiene reasons.
If he can do that once, he can do it again.
I'm not saying that 12 weeks will become standard, but let's just say that there won't be as many occasions where he gets to come over the next year. Some calendar months will be orgasm free as they were last year. We're starting with one of those months now as it happens.
He won't be unlocked during January.


Perhaps the move from beginner to intermediate is more one of attitude than physical change.
Longer periods between changes and fewer orgasms is the intended result.
I hope Herbi is happy with what he has now got because he's not in much of a position to negotiate and I'm not taking any nonsense.
And just to be clear, I am very happy with where we're heading.
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denied_one wrote: Tue Jan 07, 2025 9:05 am @MrsLockNkey 👀❤️
Huh??
What????
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Not sure if its a new kind of spam?
If not @denied_one
you can just click on the heart to indicate your approval or like rather than pasting the whole lot again.
Or use the @name with a comment if you want to get there attention.
Or having read the following. Make a link page for youself. You can put it in your journey and add to it.
Sorry to jump on your thread @KHEmmi
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KHEmmi wrote: Tue Jan 07, 2025 9:08 am
denied_one wrote: Tue Jan 07, 2025 9:05 am @MrsLockNkey 👀❤️
Huh??
What????
I mentioned my Wife/KH here in the quoted text, because it is very much something they would benefit us for Her to read - my apologies, I am not real clear as to the nuances of tagging or quoting here in this particular space of the Internet.

Thank you so much for your typed journey.
You and Herbi both
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The most important thing is that both are satisfied with chastity. And it doesn't matter many orgasms, between orgasms, ruined orgasms or no orgasm at all
Nor how many cages do you use and how many do you have?
But that you grow into it together to the satisfaction of both partners.
As a chasity person, you can want or desire many things, such as what your partner (key holder) does or does not do.
But the reality is different than expected.
As a man you can only go along with it if they want it to work for both.
As a result, you learn a lot from each other in terms of emotional, physical and body contact.
Lock permanently in inverted cage with ballspliter under the kilt :mrgreen:
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waki86 wrote: Tue Jan 07, 2025 9:41 am The most important thing is that both are satisfied with chastity. And it doesn't matter many orgasms, between orgasms, ruined orgasms or no orgasm at all
Nor how many cages do you use and how many do you have?
But that you grow into it together to the satisfaction of both partners.
As a chasity person, you can want or desire many things, such as what your partner (key holder) does or does not do.
But the reality is different than expected.
As a man you can only go along with it if they want it to work for both.
As a result, you learn a lot from each other in terms of emotional, physical and body contact.
Thanks waki!
2025 is going to see a change. A step up.
Herbi has already commented that the reality of chastity is different to what he anticipated. I hope it's in a good way!
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Any way is the right way even if it turns out later that it may not have been so.
Together you will learn something new to continue growing.
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I've just noticed that it's five weeks today until Valentine's Day!
There! That's not too far away, is it?
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