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The high temperature today is 8 degrees and CS is not leaving the house. I hit the gym early this morning bringing her back her favorite hot chocolate. At noon I went downstairs asking if she would like some lunch.

Her: I can make my own lunch. What are you making for you?

Me: I was thinking a grilled ham and cheese sandwich.

Her: I could go for one of those.

Me: You know where the kitchen is and you said you can make your own lunch.

She got up and gave me a really nice hug as she drove her knee into my balls twice and calling me a smart ass. Ten minutes later I am bringing her the grilled ham and cheese with a bowl of cream of chicken soup.
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Smart @$$ Indeed lol! :mrgreen:
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For anyone who reads my journal it obvious CS is a lock it and forget it keyholder. Since the beginning of the new year if not for those two knees to the balls, there would be no contact with the caged cock and balls in twenty days. No unlocking, no fondling, no nothing as far as interaction with the boys. When we actually do share some intimacy, she enjoys telling me not to come and my frequent stops make her laugh with glee.

Last night was the College National Championship between Notre Dame and Ohio State. CS loves Notre Dame and though I am a Georgia fan, backed Ohio State for this game. As CS does, a bet was to be made. Now I have told her as Keyholder she can make all the wagers but she let me. My prize if Ohio State won was for each time they scored on a drive would be an unlocking and an edging (not allowed to orgasm till April) and then relocking in the next two weeks. How she accomplishes that is up to her. Ohio State won and scored six times . Whoo Hoo!!!!!

I am hoping this may lead to her playing more with her property over the long haul. But then she has not claimed the four whacks with the paddle last week at bingo or my winnings of giving her two oral orgasms back to back from the Steelers game I won. Still there is hope this will increase her tease factor as she has the denial side down pat.
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Hang in there dude!

How does the "lock it and forget it" 'sit' with you?

I ask cos some guys actually like it, some I guess just deal with it.

My Wife is the opposite, I'm really lucky

Congrats on the win and all the scores for Buckeyes!

We live in NW Indiana but I am not really a ND fan
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The lock it and forget it doesn’t really sit well for a couple of reasons: 1) I really feel CS doesn’t get anywhere near what she could be receiving. I see a glimpse here and there but she could be getting so much more out of chastity. But it is her call and as she has said she will do it her way and it is a journey. For me, while I enjoy the almost daily going down on her, there isn’t much of a dopamine high as there is no intimacy. She walks into my room, hops up onto my bed and just as quickly leaves after climaxing. While guys like you, Mr Pickle and Herb whose wife’s/keyholder interaction and tease and you feel excited just to be with them, I could just go read a book.

I would put denial without teasing as a police stakeout. A whole lot of sitting around waiting for that moment of action.
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Sam3655 wrote: Tue Jan 21, 2025 2:27 pm But it is her call and as she has said she will do it her way and it is a journey.
It absolutely is, and from where you started (I read the whole thing from you giving Her the book on Her e-reader, to Her even giving you the ring back after She read the book) it's absolutely great that She is involved.

She seems to relish Her public control over you, like in the grocery line, having you "sit your butt down, progressed to sit your butt down til She wanted you to push the cart, to now She laughs about it possibly with the clerks *giggle", to the bingo games, down to radio roulette....

Maybe She thinks this is what you want, and how you want it, Sam. Gosh I've been dying to comment on this thing, so glad I can now.

The dynamic between @MrsLockNkey and myself is this way because of very good communication.

I know you have good communication with CS, but like you said maybe communicate for a bit more teasing. I know the seperate bedroom thing may put a damper on that, (maybe not?). But if you aren't asking to be unlocked, or for an "O", communication should be ok and really is paramount for chastity to be successful.

Other than that I will continue to read and love your journey, and hope that CS finds the way on Her journey that leads to a little less "lock it and forget it". She will buddy...hang in there. She will see all that She can have with it
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I have no answers to this?
I think the reason I can be locked is because I'm taken care of, and by that I mean intrested in? I hadnt realised I could be locked for weeks on end and still be happy until I was locked for weeks on end. But as you say. I'm recognised, teased verbally and well I enjoy knowing C enjoys this and not only C hopefully. Endless logging on the forum helps me and hopefully others.

Would I be happy without the teases or messages? I dont think I would? But if for some reason It stopped. Maybe for medical or mental reasons (shit happens) I think I could endure it for quite a while if I knew thing would gett better.

Maybe for you it will get better. Just taking a long time. Would that work for you? A light at the end of the tunnel?
Maybe try to work out if it is inching forward and if not what might help do that?
Me. "I only got 30 seconds, that's not fair". C. "life's not fair, suck it up" :(
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Wow, not sure what to say about your situation. I have had the lock it and forget about it happen for a few days when she’s involved with grandkid stuff. Difference is I m confident it will turn around. Not knowing your full relationship dynamics I have to ask who initiated this arrangement and is it worthwhile?

If its worth it to you then hang in there and you have us here that you can vent to. We’ll be here for whatever we can do to support you.
She says ‘it’s cute’ in the nub. ;)
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Guys, I really appreciate all of what you said. But we all have risked being locked and forgotten when we all willingly signed/gave ownership of our genitals to a keyholder letting that person cage and lock us up. Some keyholders went from vanilla to Spumoni ( like how I worked that in?) and some took our balls and literally ran with em. And for some keyholders it a long road of baby steps. But we agreed to this.

Am I envious of those whose wives tease and use? Absolutely. Do I hate seeing CS not experience the full benefits of chastity? Absolutely. And unfortunately under our agreement I cannot talk about chastity unless she brings it up. Which is why I made the bet I did in the game of an edging session for each time Ohio State scored. To show her the benefits of teasing. I may not be able to bring up Chastity but behavior modification is a two way street. Giving extra attention when given attention. Bringing her favorite hot chocolate home as a special thank you. Upping the attention when attention is given. You know, all the stuff I read you guys doing in your journals and I do read them.

All that said, was just told CS took on a lot more work and tomorrow night she will be gone watching one of the grand kids so no bingo tonight and to move off the two weeks for the six edging sessions to sometime down the road 🥺
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😯 🤦🏾‍♂️

Ok I will continue to enjoy the read! :mrgreen: