[Gurscaged) New to this, lets see where it goes

[GursCaged]

Hello,

I have just started down this new experience after seeing it on twitter and thinking 'there's a good idea'

I'm 51 and have been married for 23 years, sex with my wife has not been a common occurrence since my boy was born (now 19) and I have been bad a couple of times and seen a ladies of the night to relieve the tension.

I tend to look at alot of porn and have recently found this is getting more and more since finally getting the twitter app, but that has led me here.

I have realised that I am looking at to much porn and having a fiddle to often.

At the beginning of the year my wife was diagnosed with advanced cancer which has had a been a big downer on our lives as you can imagine.

She is on permanent treatment and at first she thought that when the treatment started working, and extending her life, she would be more of a wife, although grateful, its not quite the way I wanted it to happen, this has not really happened though.

I feel guilty that I want more but I dont want to do the dirty again.

To stop this, I bought my first cage, a metal number from a shop in thetford, unfortunately I rushed into it after seeing it on the web and bought one that had a 40mm hinged ring, this turned out to be a mistake, the ring was tight and caught the skin so I have a cut in the top

Realising my mistake, I decided to go buy a second cage but this time did a little research and went for the cb6000. At the moment I am using the largest ring and it feels comfortable, I can just fit my finger under the ring and the cage feels great although it does need some encouragement to get it on, I saw a plastic bag idea that seems to work well for that.

I have been wearing it during the day only as I have not had the balls to discuss with my wife yet, she is a little narrow minded and I'm not sure she would understand or in her condition, want to understand.

She only see's me naked when we go to bed, so at the moment concealing is easy enough until I grow a pair and discuss, it also gives me a chance to get used and be sure its right for me.

My long term plan at the moment is when the day comes that she passes, I will wear it permanently and find someone to hold the key, I have no intention of finding another woman nor do I want to.

I was surprised how horny it has made me feel, walking around shops, streets etc feeling its there and knowing no one else knows and it has stopped me from playing as I leave the key out of easy reach but I do still sometimes have a crafty shuffle in the shower in the morning.

Going forward I will need to find ways to pleasure myself which could lead to other things, dildo's maybe.

But lets see how things progress.

[GursCaged]

Interesting day today, had a day off work so was working in the garage.

At the end of the day I noticed the it seemed to be moving more than usual, a little investigation and I noticed the ring was quite lose today, so without removing the cage I swapped the ring for the second size down, 47mm, I'm not sure if it feels quite right at the moment but it no longer feels lose.

Didn't think I'd even be considering a smaller ring as it was too tight the other day when I first bought it.

Next thing you know I'll be buying a cb6kS

[WifeIsVanilla]

Next thing you know I'll be buying a cb6kS

Don't be too surprised if that happens. Also a grower, erect at 8", I have had a cb6ks, and the length was OK. But . . . I need a 1 1/2" cage diameter or my urethra gets compressed making urination more difficult.

In any event, the good thing about starting with the cb kit is that you get a chance to experiment with ring sizes and gap sizes to zero in on what size you really need.

[GursCaged]

not a great start to the day, when I took the cage off last night I placed it in my pocket, when I put my jeans on this morning it much have twisted in an odd way and cracked the ring where the post geos through

I have glued but not tried it yet.

Back to the 50mm ring then.

Lesson learnt, put it away properly in its little pouch until I can work up to speaking to the wife and hopefully using it full time.

Speaking to my wife has not happened yet, she has not been well this week so would not be top of her list of importance.

Maybe next week when she hopefully feels better

[GursCaged]

So it would appear I have also now bought a cb6ks, probably a good thing as the one I have has broken rings for the 47mm and the 50mm

Currently using the 45mm ring which is a little tight when I am sitting down but seems fine when I walking around, been expecting to hear this one break as well but the replacement will arrive tomorrow.

need to look at another metal cage again, maybe a holy trainer style metal cage

[GursCaged]

The cb6000s arrived and I put it straight on, wow, quite a different feel, I fill it much better and it is much more comfortable, at least until I start getting hard but that will still stop I'm sure

I had a pension advisor come round today and I suddenly realised that I could not really feel it on me while he told me all about pensions, seemed strange and almost against the reason I wanted one in the first place, we'll se how it goes

[Mr Pickle]

Best of luck.
Trial and error will get you there eventually. It did in my case and miles away from what I started with.
As for approaching the topic with the wife.. Try reading a few journals. It will give a better idea of how to approach and what to expect. This might help with the almost inevitable disappointment, and also show its still worth the effort on your part.
I hope all goes well.

[GursCaged]

Todays update, used the second size down ring, 47mm and the cb6ks, not quite as comfortable using that ring as the 50mm, again, the cage felt spot on

[GursCaged]

Not an interesting update but Second day with the smaller ring on the cb6ks and it feels much better.

[C_indiana]

CB6000 is the best one to start with to learn the correct sizing for your needs!

More importantly, sorry to hear about your wife’s health. Prayers for the both of you as she undergoes her treatments.