A big step for KH

[Chuck]

Hi again all. We've been playing 24/7 for 4 months save for time out for play, cleaning, etc.

All the time I've been reading here and on the few blogs I frequent and come across things I feel I would love for my wife to do or feel. One of the things I enjoy reading about is the Keyholders that place their men back in the device immediately after sex or playtime without their men cumming. I would always get fired up thinking about the physical and emotional struggle of getting back into the device after being right on the edge and still turned on.

Up until last night whenever KH had me out of my device for playtime she always let me sleep unencumbered and stay free most of the next day unless it was Monday. Then I would have to put the device back on after my shower and go to work.

After 2 weeks locked up, only coming out for long enough to switch the cage from the curve to the cb6k I thought when she let me out for playtime that I would be out all night and maybe a full day too. We had some awesome and fun sex. She had a few orgasms and I was brought to the edge several times by hand and mouth. It was fantastic! I hadn't been edged more than once before during each sexual encounter so it was a big turn on for me. That however wasn't the big step I refer to in the title.

As soon as she was done, she said, "Back in the cage".

I was shocked to say the least. I pointed out that I had a difficult time getting it on while flaccid and relaxed and she said, "I want you back in the cage, you'll figure it out". I struggled for quite some time. Lots of lube and a few broken q-tip crowbars later she says, "I can put you outside until you get it on. I'll bet the cold will get you smaller." I eventually got the cage filled with penis and the rest crushed between cage and ring. I presented to her and she placed the lock and for the first time I heard the click of the lock as I was still excited and wanting more. What an emotional rush!

Later when we talked she said that she wanted to do that for a while but thought I wouldn't like it. She finally decided to be more assertive and do what she wanted. She said if I didn't want to do it I know the safe-word.

She said it was a big step for her and I agree. We had a wonderful talk later about it and I have to say that I'm even more excited to see what the future holds for us.

[Atone]

That is great. The best part is that she did something that she wanted to do and you actually talked about it. Once the communication starts it gets easier.

I love being told to lock back up. I usually sit up in the bed watching the news and just be patient. Usually takes about 20 minutes or so.

[Chuck]

That is great. The best part is that she did something that she wanted to do and you actually talked about it. Once the communication starts it gets easier.

I love being told to lock back up. I usually sit up in the bed watching the news and just be patient. Usually takes about 20 minutes or so.

I agree about the communication. We've always had that since day one. After 2 failed marriages I didn't want any surprises so I made it a point to talk about everything including each step we took in the relationship. We have an amazing relationship. That may be why she agreed to male chastity so readily. Up to now though I really do feel like she was doing what I wanted, or at least what she thought I wanted chastity wise. I think the talk we had on my birthday 2 weeks ago really sank in. On my birthday she said we have to talk so I stopped what I was doing and we talked. (I never talk to her while I'm distracted by tasks.) The essence was that she wanted to let me come for my b-day but wasn't sure it was what I wanted since it hadn't been a full 2 months since the last time I orgasmed and thought I wanted to wait longer. I assured her that what I wanted was for her to have full control of that choice just like it's printed in our written rules. I went into more detail even telling her that even if she told me I could cum earlier and then changed her mind at the last minute, I want her to have that power, that control and that choice. Now that she's starting to exercise that and really starting to do what SHE wants, I think the adventure is just beginning.

[danj]

Good posts, Chuck. Exactly how I feel...want my wife to have total control on when I'm out, when I'm in, and when I have an orgasm. And probably like you, hope I'm not allowed to cum very often!

[Chuck]

Good posts, Chuck. Exactly how I feel...want my wife to have total control on when I'm out, when I'm in, and when I have an orgasm. And probably like you, hope I'm not allowed to cum very often!

Thanks, and yes the longer I am without orgasm the more excited and ready to please her I am. Once the big O happens I don't have any interest for a week or two so I'm quite pleased that she has seen fit from early on that long term denial is the way to go. She's only allowed me 2 orgasms in the last 123 days. She of course has had many.

[poor]

In true BDSM porn style I always ask "Please may I cum?" at the point which I feel unable to hold back any longer. Chatelaine usually lets me know when she begins what she wants but this serves as a last chance for her to deny (alas, not happened yet) or for her to not miss seeing the ejaculation, which she clearly enjoys.

[danj]

In true BDSM porn style I always ask "Please may I cum?" at the point which I feel unable to hold back any longer. Chatelaine usually lets me know when she begins what she wants but this serves as a last chance for her to deny (alas, not happened yet) or for her to not miss seeing the ejaculation, which she clearly enjoys.

Yes! I always ask permission before I cum. Even though I don't get to that point unless I know I already have been told I will be cumming. I'm still waiting for her to say "no, you may not" just before the point of no return...she hasn't done that yet.

My wife tends to tell me early in a session if she wants me to cum. Her prerogative, of course.

[rmcingle]

I'm still waiting for her to say "no, you may not" just before the point of no return...she hasn't done that yet.

ditto

I have told my wife, numerous times, that I enjoy it when she makes me please her orally without any release on my side. There have been times when the chastity device was in place when the oral service started and remained in place, but usually we get to one of two places: It isn't working for her and we stop, or it is working for her and then she removes the chastity device and we have intercourse.

I also inform her when I am about to cum, and I would enjoy it if she told me no. Alas, it has never happened.

Ron

[Chuck]

I guess I'm lucky that way. We have a countdown system when I get close to cumming I start counting down so she knows just at what level, or how close I am. Several times during PIV I've reached 3 or 2 and she has pushed me off not letting me cum or just said stop. There have been several times she has finished and I wasn't even close and she stopped it. It's extremely frustrating at the moment but I do my best to not let it show and let her know just how much I love her and appreciate her stopping.

[curiouscat83]

Yes, this round of lockup is the first time I haven't suggested it. Usually, I ask her if she'd like to lock me up again sometime -- and she's usually pretty quick to say, "yes, put it on now!" But last week when she came over, she said I should really lock up that night. That was pretty exciting, to say the least!