First Impressions and few questions

[Al79]

These are my first impressions about wearing the cb after the first days.. i divided it in 2 parts: phisical and emotional

Phisically i see the cb is more comfortable than i thought: actually i'm wearing it from sunday and i have been realised one night (monday); no big problems, i can sleep all night (even if i wake up at 6 a.m.) during the day i don't really feel also becouse i'm using a lot of baby oil wich helps a lot (problably my best friend now).. in my opinion it's pretty sure, i don't think i could easily get it off, anyway i didn't try ...

the emotional part is the most important one: i'm feeling some changing in my being.. knowing that i gave my wife the key make me feel in her power, not only in a sexual meaning, i mean that during the day i feel the device and it makes me remember that i gave her the property and it make me think how she is important for me and how i have to please her just for being her ( i told her this feeling and she answered that i'm crazy (lol) but she likes the way i'm feeling all this).. now the biggest desire is to kiss all her body in order to give her pleasure.. i still have to understand all tihs but i have to say that i like it
she said a thing that i liked and made me think: she finds me now a real man becouse i'm giving her the proof that she can trust me and that she is the most important thing in my life (anyway it's going to be a race between her and the new arrival).. so i think my next threads will be about what make a man a real man..

one more thing: i noticed that these days i feel i have more energies, problably becouse i spend less energies in "worthless" things

i have two questions:
she feels that i'm more compliant about her and her needs and she is beginning to give me orders, wich i execute in a fast way: is she starting to feel the power on me? is she starting to feel my mistress?

sometimes she is caressing my body a few and let me go (my back and other parts that she knows are very sensible for me), i dont know if she is doing it and stopping becouse she doesn't want to make me feel frustrated or these are the first toughts about tease and denial or both things.. what do you think and in your opinion how should i act in order to increase the tease and denial part?
thanks to everybody for the time passed reading my diary and for the help..

[rmcingle]

in my opinion it's pretty sure, i don't think i could easily get it off, anyway i didn't try ...

My best suggestion to you: don't try! It may be secure, and all the trying won't succeed. But if you do find a way it may well ruin what you have. You can learn something, but you can't unlearn it.

now the biggest desire is to kiss all her body in order to give her pleasure.. i still have to understand all tihs but i have to say that i like it

If you have only been locked up for a couple of days then things may change. But they may not! I amthe same way, when I am locked up I want to kiss, hold, cuddle, etc. Perhaps to a greater degree at first, but even after years of being locked up I was the same way. At first my wife thought it was an attempt to get let out of the chastity device, but after a while, when we had established that the chances of getting let out were very slim, she accepted it as just my loving attention.

one more thing: i noticed that these days i feel i have more energies, problably becouse i spend less energies in "worthless" things

What I noticed is that there was a "cycle" that I go through. When I am allowed to have an orgasm I have a short (way too short) period of relief. In as little as a day I am back to being as horny as ever, and then it increases until about the third day. After that the intense desire starts to dissipate for another week. After about 10 days I am at peace and comfortable. I have gone as long as 59 days without an orgasm at the end of that time I would have been OK with going even longer.

If my wife wants to use my arousal and need to get something she wants, she should barter on the third day of denial. After that, her currency is devalued....

she feels that i'm more compliant about her and her needs and she is beginning to give me orders, wich i execute in a fast way: is she starting to feel the power on me? is she starting to feel my mistress?

If this has only been going on a few days then it may just be that she is testing the limits. How this plays out in the future will depend on how she really feels about all this and if her needs are actually being met.

One important thing that you must realize is that she may not be enjoying this like you are. Many submissives make the mistake of believing that the Dominant would be happy having a slave to order around. That is often NOT the case. Being the dominant means having responsibility. Responsibility means pressure. If all she wants is to relax at home then having to play the role of a responsible Dominant can be exactly what she DOESN"T want.

If you are content with just the chastity control then don't push for more. If she takes the lead, let her, but don't push it. Be attentive, be quick to do her bidding, but don't ask her to do more.

sometimes she is caressing my body a few and let me go (my back and other parts that she knows are very sensible for me), i dont know if she is doing it and stopping becouse she doesn't want to make me feel frustrated or these are the first toughts about tease and denial or both things.. what do you think and in your opinion how should i act in order to increase the tease and denial part?

Go slow, don't rush things.

Consider this from her point of view. If she isn't kinky herself then she probably doesn't really understand that denial and teasing and frustration and even pain can be sexually satisfying to you. You can tell her all you want, she can read about it, but if she doesn't feel it herself she just won't relate.

That doesn't mean that she won't accept it, eventually.

Right now she is struggling with conflicting thoughts. On one hand she has a spouse that is telling her that this all OK. On the other hand she has years of learning from society what is considered to be proper and appropriate. In a "normal" relationship it would be wrong to sexually tease and then not deliver. She can't just erase all that and reprogram her mind.

Give her time. Be patient.

Good luck!

Ron