This thing....tease and denial....
It is wild how fast it can move and how it can change a person.
In 13 months I went from cumming daily to cumming MONTHLY....and being OK with it!
[denied_one] No Idea What To Call This...
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Re: [denied_one] No Idea What To Call This...
Well I finally got into the right head space
for this thing.
I realized that giving my Wife this gift of my sexuality in a correct way means that I can't do it and be mad about it, or sulk about it. Or try to control it or do it any way less then Her way only. That doesn't make Her want the gift, sadly.
That's not how you give someone a gift. I know that.
Unfortunately, those are the characteristics that I have exhibited during our time of tease and denial. I have been pretty selfish about it and head strong and stubborn. I am totally sorry @MrsLockNkey for the head space that I stayed in for so long.
I am beyond lucky to have a Wife who not only participates in this whole thing and likes to keep me totally teased whenever possible, but has also GROWN as a strict KH

I feel so much better and able to enjoy this journey much more humbly, deeply, and lovingly with my Wife
I realized that giving my Wife this gift of my sexuality in a correct way means that I can't do it and be mad about it, or sulk about it. Or try to control it or do it any way less then Her way only. That doesn't make Her want the gift, sadly.
That's not how you give someone a gift. I know that.
Unfortunately, those are the characteristics that I have exhibited during our time of tease and denial. I have been pretty selfish about it and head strong and stubborn. I am totally sorry @MrsLockNkey for the head space that I stayed in for so long.
I am beyond lucky to have a Wife who not only participates in this whole thing and likes to keep me totally teased whenever possible, but has also GROWN as a strict KH
I feel so much better and able to enjoy this journey much more humbly, deeply, and lovingly with my Wife
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I think you’re touching on something important here. I’ve also found that it gets better when we let go of control and let our key holders run the ship the way they want to.
But it’s also important to remember that they’re not mind readers, so it’s important to regularly communicate our needs and expectations so they can keep this in mind and hopefully implement them in a way that works for them.
I’m glad to read that you’re finding more and more joy and satisfaction in this lifestyle!
But it’s also important to remember that they’re not mind readers, so it’s important to regularly communicate our needs and expectations so they can keep this in mind and hopefully implement them in a way that works for them.
I’m glad to read that you’re finding more and more joy and satisfaction in this lifestyle!
I’m locked and kept by Redraven, my life partner, soulmate and loving key holder. When life is hard, she’s keeps me feeling loved.
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Took PTO today.
Hanging with @MrsLockNkey, She is ready for more coffee
We are sitting next to one another
She thrusts Her coffee mug at me
"Refill"
I'm in heaven!
Hanging with @MrsLockNkey, She is ready for more coffee
We are sitting next to one another
She thrusts Her coffee mug at me
"Refill"
I'm in heaven!
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Quick pic "Hello"
She is in an appointment with one of the teens and I am one happy chastised hubby
She is in an appointment with one of the teens and I am one happy chastised hubby
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I'm soo horny.... shit! : 

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My Wife walked around with a cross look on Her face very often for a long time.
Often, I would ask "what's wrong?"
I would constantly get this answer "nothing"
Fast forward....to now
I can't even remember the last time I had to ask Her "what's wrong?"
Often, I would ask "what's wrong?"
I would constantly get this answer "nothing"
Fast forward....to now
I can't even remember the last time I had to ask Her "what's wrong?"
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Ugh. "Aunt Flo" has arrived 

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Re: [denied_one] No Idea What To Call This...
This does not feel fun at all.
This feels like
smoking cessation "work"
Ouch
This feels like
Ouch