[tongue+groove] From vanilla to spumoni

[Tongue+groove]

A few hours without the cage must feel odd and unsettling perhaps but I'd risk being odd and unsettled, given the chance. No chance though. Been kept without clothes all day today but the steel stays on.
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It does feel odd and like I’m missing something. I’ve been in my typical gstring underwear today, it’s all I am wearing while doing housework. It’s been so long since my penis has moved around rubbing fabric. I am contemplating asking to be relocked it’s a confusing thing.


When I realized what a mess I had made I committed the day to the house. I told her it was my retirement gift to her so that she could get a jump on life. I would rather be outside, there is just so much that needs to be done this time of year. However she is worth every minute that I can give her. So far today I have dusted every knickknack and shelf, cleaned all mirrors, relocated a few pieces of furniture, shook rugs for washing, vacuumed and treated the hard wood. Dusted baseboards and tops of doors and trim, light fixtures, helped unpack boxes from her office and hung out some laundry.

It is such a joy to do this for her. Lunch is over I need to finish a few things and she has offered to help me stake out a new building for my sawmill later today. I just finished milling the lumber for it yesterday.

These are busy days but at least I get to spend them with her. Life with her is oh so good.

[KnownAsHerbert]

It’s been so long since my penis has moved around rubbing fabric. I am contemplating asking to be relocked it’s a confusing thing.

I think I can imagine it being confusing and understand about asking to be relocked.

Not that I'm going to find out.

I know you are completely happy to do all the things that you are doing for her, but it's strange how they can get us to do just about anything they want, isn't it?

Once again, Mr Pickle's cartoons hit the nail on the head. Something like "This key isn't just about sex. It gives me control over everything else as well."

Probably not accurate as I haven't been back to look it up but it was something along those lines. Pretty much spot on I'd say!

[Tongue+groove]

Weather fronts coming through and Mrs. G’s arthritis has her in a lot of pain. I try to help but there’s really nothing anyone can do. I’m still unlocked. Yes the rule is that I shouldn’t have to be told to, but for some reason I’m needy for her to tell me to. I’m feeling a bit lost being free. Is this what it’s like to escape incarceration with nothing to do? Except maybe get back into trouble. But that would involve me taking matters into my own hands. The idea of getting caught is exhilarating, but knowing I had set it up is ultimately being manipulative and topping from the bottom.

Sometimes I think she only does it for me, other times she seems almost cruel about it.

Funny how we want what we don’t have. Herbi appears to want some free time to dangle and feel the sunshine.

Me I want her to be a bit more demanding about my lockups.

Then there’s C_J who seems to get more sex than any of us. And he sounds like he wants less because he only wants to serve.

So many others on here with wishes and desires.

Yes a funny thing it is. I wonder what it would be like to sit around a campfire, smoke rolling, stars shining, chastity fairies twinkling about, a beer or coffee in hand with others discussing this dynamic.

How did I get here and why do I need more of it? Would be the opening topic.

That could be discussed all night with no definite answers.

[Herman]

Sitting around a campfire, with a beer or two, with like minded folks discussing chastity, sounds great to me. How I would love to talk to someone about this lifestyle my wife and I (and all you folks) have discovered.

Herman

[Tongue+groove]

The following is a repost from the “simple why?” Thread. I copied it here for my own future reference.

Interesting timing on this question for me. Due to the last month of events I have come to the conclusion that we have gotten off track with chastity. There has to be balance.

Her last three weeks of transition to retirement and training her replacement completely consumed her. I did nothing to interfere and that may have actually been a mistake. I should have been even more attentive to her. She was always so exhausted and I gave her some space. As a result she got into a lock it and forget about it situation and I ended up in a self locking situation. We lost focus without knowing it.

Fast forward and the last 4 or five days have been a whirlwind of life’s events. Yesterday came to a head with a long stressful day. When we finally get to bed she asked that I rub her back. I so enjoyed doing this for her. Listening to her moans, feeling her stretching. She’s almost asleep and she says “I know your still tense and won’t sleep well, why don’t you relieve yourself.” I must admit it was good idea but I needed her permission.

It felt good to stretch, change my mind set and release all the tension in one wild spurt like I haven’t had in ages. Afterwards She commented that she enjoyed listening to me. That made me horney again. She asked if I needed another round. I said it sounded tempting but that I was in a good place at the moment. I slept great and this morning I am not feeling the dreaded drop. Her comments were so arousing and made more difference than I realized.

So I go back to there has to be balance. Every relationship chastity or not has to have balance, which requires communication. I don’t know that long term lockups work for us. It seems there is a sweet spot, at least for us. I hope we get to set and talk today.

I have been unlocked for several days now. I need her to take back control. I need to feel the drive to take better care of her. I also need her to keep me looking forward to what the future holds. We need to maintain our sweet spot together.

Sorry this was lengthy. The question just hit an odd time for me.

A balanced relationship makes for a good life.

[Tongue+groove]

Waxing? I searched it up and there seems to be several older discussions on it.

Mrs. G waxes my back a few times per year for me. Not sure why but the hair really annoys me, especially in the summer when I go without a shirt most of the time.

I have shaved for years keeping my balls and shaft clean. Since chastity Mrs. G has gained a greater interest in me staying extra smooth. I am considering asking her to wax me so I can avoid the shaving. I’m a little concerned about how hot wax may feel. FWIW a few times years ago I plucked everything and really liked it, but it’s a lot of work.

I welcome your feedback, especially if you’ve been down that road.

Thanks in advance.

[Tongue+groove]

KABOOM!!

She’s her old self again. It seems that she needed a few days of rest after a trying month.

I came into the kitchen to get the breakfast she was making. Only wearing my g-string since my barn clothes are on the back porch. Handing me my plate and she asked if I was getting better.

I myself preach about the lack of communication and now I became a victim of the very thing. In the end I was in an odd head space since the foot incident and she thought I had a physical issue with the cage. When I explained in my own words what C_J had so eloquently said in his post, we realized we had both been a little off kilter.

She stated it was time for her to more demanding and as much as she like seeing my cock out an about, she was tired of it and that I needed to put it away as she wouldn’t be needing it for quite a while anyway. This made mr. Wanky swell with excitement. She said I should eat while it was hot and give him time to shrink down . Then lockup.

After we ate I went to put our plates in the sink. She ran her hand between my thighs, grabbed y ass and started sucking me through my undies, swelled again . Then she laughed and said I’ll wait here while you cage that.

In our bedroom trying to lock up and she shows me a new dress she bought that can only be worn at home. I exclaimed, how can I lockup when you do this. She just laughed and said I was an easy tease.

So I’m locked again in my chrome dome. She said she wanted me comfortable and safe since we would be working cows today. There’s always something that happens when working with cows. One of them has to do something unexpected. But who cares, Mrs. G has me locked again. Now all I have to do is relearn morning wood.

It’s a good life.

[Chosen_Jackal]

I’m happy for you! Another win for mature and honest communication.

[Tongue+groove]

. All self-pleasuring habits seriously and totally eliminated here.

This statement on @KnownAsHerbert got me thinking about the past few days of freedom. Initially there had been some concerns on my part due to my diminished erection size. Seems it took a few days for me to return to normal, but it did.

I also had a few opportunities to self-pleasure but it appears that my mind has been realigned on that one too. There was the one instance where she suggested that I release my tension with a diy. This did greatly help, but I needed her permission without asking for it. And she provided no assistance.

Finally it looks like we are evolving to a place where my only full orgasms come from me, and only at her discretion. I find this interesting because we started this as a way of helping me to control my diy activities. And now that’s how she chooses to let me finish on the rare occasion that I get to.

It’s been said that every keyholder operates differently. I’m still trying to figure mine out.

Makes for a mysterious life. But it’s a good one.

[Chosen_Jackal]

Finally it looks like we are evolving to a place where my only full orgasms come from me, and only at her discretion. I find this interesting because we started this as a way of helping me to control my diy activities. And now that’s how she chooses to let me finish on the rare occasion that I get to.

How does this make you feel?
It’s my fear that Red will go down this path. Call me selfish, but when she makes me go a month or more without an orgasm I really really hope that she’s the one who gives me one. I would feel “cheated” if she made me do it myself. That said, if she did go down that route I would do as she told me. I wouldn’t like it, but she’s in charge.