[Chosen_Jackal] Pinch me, is this really happening?

[Tongue+groove]

. then make the orgasm as underwhelming as possible.

This is interesting. You may be on the verge of a diy finishing show. But only after you have given her all she wants.

Or she may have other ideas that have yet to be explored.

Yes interesting indeed.

[KnownAsHerbert]

I find it extremely fascinating how my body seems to go through phases of various ways to deal with the denial. This past week has been mostly quiet and relatively easy to deal with, but the weeks before was hell.
I felt like I was physically buzzing with horniness and it was actually hard to concentrate on tasks at work at times.
Now it feels like I’ve entered a phase of resignation (except for the nighties) and that’s oddly comforting.

I know exactly what you mean.
Sometimes can't concentrate on anything because of in-cage distractions.
Other times, as if it's died in there.

I find both extremes frustrating in totally opposite ways.

One thing that is pretty consistent and that's the night-time / early morning woodies.

[Tongue+groove]

. Other times, as if it's died in there.

Very well put. Some time back I realized I had some room in my 2 cm chrome dome. I stopped to examine thinking it had shrunk to nothing. Thankfully it was due to some physical exertion and all returned to normal.

[Chosen_Jackal]

It’s funny how many similar experiences we have, but also how different they can be.

I was really buying into the “smaller is better” mindset but I’ve found that I’m most comfortable in a cage that’s 60-70mm in total.
I’ve found that it’s important that it’s snug around my shaft. So a little longer but tighter is my preference.
It’s like my cock isn’t there anymore except when it tries to get hard.

[KnownAsHerbert]

It’s funny how many similar experiences we have, but also how different they can be.

I was really buying into the “smaller is better” mindset but I’ve found that I’m most comfortable in a cage that’s 60-70mm in total.
I’ve found that it’s important that it’s snug around my shaft. So a little longer but tighter is my preference.
It’s like my cock isn’t there anymore except when it tries to get hard.

I get what you mean.
I'm coming to the conclusion that a better phrase is “too small is better than too big”.

Most websites will recommend “too big” and for most of us, that seems to spell disaster. When we “go smaller” we have more success.

Taken too far the other way and, in my experience at least, it becomes less practical, more inconvenient, harder to keep clean. Such is the 2cm steel that I'm wearing today. They still do their job, but the cons start to stack up against the pros.

It's taken 14 months to discover that somewhere in between is about right for me. The 38mm is shorter than my relaxed penis so I end up squashed in, but not overly squashed. The Cobra Nub is similar. Room to live even if not room to grow. There's actually not much difference between the Cobra Nub and the 38mm steel, except that the I feel a lot more with the steel so it's far more frustrating to wear. Both can be worn almost indefinitely.

[Tongue+groove]

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.   too small is better than too big”.

Oh this is good, very good.

[Chosen_Jackal]

We’re one week out from Reds surgery and whilst she’s recovering remarkably well she hasn’t felt very "sexual" this past week.
The week before the surgery was that week of the month for her donuts been a while since we’ve been truly intimate.

That changed last night. She was feeling better and I was instructed to help her get her little sleeping pill as she likes to call them.
We didn’t do anything particularly fancy, but that’s not the point. We got to be close and I had the honor of being allowed to play an instrumental role in helping her have her first orgasm in well over a week.

We fell asleep in each other’s arms and now everything feels right in the world again.

[KHEmmi]

We’re one week out from Reds surgery and whilst she’s recovering remarkably well she hasn’t felt very "sexual" this past week.
The week before the surgery was that week of the month for her donuts been a while since we’ve been truly intimate.

That changed last night. She was feeling better and I was instructed to help her get her little sleeping pill as she likes to call them.
We didn’t do anything particularly fancy, but that’s not the point. We got to be close and I had the honor of being allowed to play an instrumental role in helping her have her first orgasm in well over a week.

We fell asleep in each other’s arms and now everything feels right in the world again.

Great post and glad to see that things are going well.

Not sure about the bit about the donuts but otherwise, lovely to read!

[Chosen_Jackal]

That’s what I get when I type on my phone

[Chosen_Jackal]

It just struck me how normal it’s all become now. Being locked. Not having access to a part of my body I used to touch constantly throughout the day.

It’s true what they say that denial is at its worst around the three weeks mark, and now that I’ve passed a month it’s becoming bearable again.
Even last night as I was serving Red it felt like the most natural thing in the world to keep my penis out of the equation.

And I feel constantly drawn towards her on an emotional level.
We’re closer than ever and it’s easier to suppress the willful rebellious side of me.
I’m probably what they call a switch in the BDSM world, so it’s not 100% natural for me to be submissive all the time, but prolonged denial seems to work wonders on keeping me focused on serving her.
Not that there’s not room for improvement, but it’s definitely a powerful part of the toolbox.