I can't take it anymore...but I have to

[RegularJoe]

Well put, Doc. It's certainly not something you'd want to do in an impulsive manner.

The first time I actually watched my wife in the very real throes of sexual passion, her legs wrapped around Murray's waist as he pumped away at her, was devastating and stimulating. I don't know if being wretched and horny are feelings that are meant to accompany one another.

I don't know how this will turn out...and you're right, once done, it can't be undone.

[DocSwitch]

Yes, once done it can not be undone, however you can stop it from compounding and becoming even worse by explaining to your SO that you are now not so sure about it and really need to put the brakes on and sort things out. If you convey to your SO that this appeal is not part of the "sexual submissive" fantasy but a real request because you feel unsure or even hurt and want to stop then they should. You may need to take a step back as a couple, evaluate things, and then really decide if it's wise to go forward. If your SO can not do this, refuses to, or simply brushes it off then IMO that's really not a cool thing to do if you really love someone and care for their well being and I would vocalize that and refuse to continue to play or take part in any of the activities. Consent by all parties involved in ANY power exchange is paramount and it NEEDS to be respected, period.

This is not out of your control, you DO have a say in this.

[RegularJoe]

Actually Doc...I didn't start this thread. I do, however, sincerely appreciate your concern.

LadyBeth is my wife, and this 'arrangement' is entirely consensual. That doesn't mean that the first cuckolding 'sessions' weren't overwhelmingly intense....that was the whole point. When I say that I don't know how this will turn out, I'm not really referring to any worries about our marriage...but rather how long Murray will be available and willing to service her sexual needs. She has always been a very kinky dominant lady.

We talked about this for years....and the chastity thing was a relatively new twist...an element of freely given control. I'm not having second thoughts...my jealousy merely adds spice to my sexual frustration. Just another tease and denial game, albeit a very powerful one. We'll be just fine.

[DocSwitch]

That's what I get for forum posting with sleep deprivation and not reading the whole thread through.
Sorry if I got a little preachy there, my profession breeds a very protective and paternal instinct.

[hot_toddy_dog]

Stumbling on this post and doing the due diligence of reading the read has made me rather unhappy. I don't disapprove of your activities, but they are not for me... could we create a separate forum for cuckold / extra-marital issues? Cuz I really would prefer never to have to read about them again.

No offense, in fact sometimes I have found the idea hot. The reality not. Thus I wish not to trip over it again.

[celticqueens_sub]

[quote]....handle the [possible] consequences before action is taken[.../quote]

possible consequences? All actions have a consequence good or bad, intended or unintended.

Can't remember which Prussian Army dude it was, someone like von Clausewitz maybe, but he said words to the effect "No plan survies first contact with the enemy". In other words, however hard you plan and try to cover all bases, you're gonna miss something...

Good luck

[locknload]

Hot_toddy_dog, with all due respect, nobody MADE you read anything.

[celticqueens_sub]

Just my own two cents here. I am not a fan of cuckolding personally, the idea doesn't arouse me at all. However what I want to add here is that I know I've had other fantasies and many people have fantasies that are exactly that. Fantasy and nothing else. When realized, sometimes you find the idea of the fantasy was way better then it in practice. So when I see statements such as "When I talked about it to him I saw his cock grown hard and I knew it was what he wanted and ok." (Paraphrasing, but just as an example to make the point) Yes, the fantasy is arousing, but the ramifications of the consequences are not taken into account and even if you think they are when it comes to something so powerful to the human psyche such as this you really can not be fully prepared or accurately anticipate how you will feel emotionally about acting on the fantasy. So while arousing I highly advise anyone thinking of this to not judge your partner's ability and desire to carry out based on his reaction to the fantasy. Making any life changing decision in a marriage or long term committed loving relationship should most certainly not ever be based on how aroused one gets when thinking of said action.

With chastity they say "be careful what you wish for" but to some extent there is always an ability for two people to stop playing when it has negative effects on them or the relationship, with cuckolding I imagine that once it's done if it is going to be damaging there is no unringing that bell and the damage will continue to manifest itself in unexpected ways for a long time after.

If you're gonna go through with it, listen to your emotions outside of the sexual ones. If it feels arousing but hurtful at the same time to fantasize about and you feel like there's a chance you won't be able to handle that anger, jealousy, or humiliation then no matter what you said to your partner it's probably best to stop and explain that. No matter how excited or turned on your partner may have been at the prospect if she/he truly loves you and cares for your well being then she/he will be able to let it go without a problem. If you feel prepared for the consequences and believe both you and your relationship are secure and mature enough to handle it, then by all means do it.

Like I said, I've never done it myself and have no wish to but I'm well enough versed with psychology and the things in play here to have a bit of an opinion.

Play safe!

Like!

[RegularJoe]

Stumbling on this post and doing the due diligence of reading the read has made me rather unhappy. I don't disapprove of your activities, but they are not for me... could we create a separate forum for cuckold / extra-marital issues? Cuz I really would prefer never to have to read about them again.

No offense, in fact sometimes I have found the idea hot. The reality not. Thus I wish not to trip over it again.

Yes, I know just what you mean...why only this morning I was reading a post in the gearheads section and somebody brought up urethral inserts....which I would just as soon never have read about again.

[DocSwitch]

....handle the [possible] consequences before action is taken[.../quote]

possible consequences? All actions have a consequence good or bad, intended or unintended.

Can't remember which Prussian Army dude it was, someone like von Clausewitz maybe, but he said words to the effect "No plan survies first contact with the enemy". In other words, however hard you plan and try to cover all bases, you're gonna miss something...

Good luck

One of the people who was in charge of some aspects of the paramilitary training I've received in the past loved that quote and it has stuck with me through life and in medicine thus far as well. It's so very true, plans are great things to have but rarely make it through to completion without alteration or total abandonment for new ones once put into practice as combat, much like life itself, has far too many variables to accurately account for.

Though when it comes to chastity and the other activities discussed in this thread I can't help but think another US Military Motto is 100% appropriate and fitting for all of us and to a certain extent ironic:
Sua Sponte
(Latin Translation: Of Their Own Accord)
Motto of the 1st Battalion, 75th Regiment US Army Rangers