celticqueens_sub wrote:I think it is all way too prescriptive.... It is my belief that I ejaculate at the whim of my KH. It is my KH I serve not a table of charts!
It has been my experience that target setting can get in the way of the meaning of chastity (for me). If you set a target and fail, that dulls the experience of the relationship benefits I have seen.
I agree that setting to rigid of a schedule can take away some of the mystery, and it is hot to be locked up at someone else's whim. That being said, I can't expect my spouse to share my obsession with chastity at quite the same level I do. I also have some pretty vanilla reasons to try to go on an "orgasm" diet this time around---I am trying to get on some track for better habits. I notice more energy after about 5 days without an orgasm, and I calm down a little 10-14 days in. So that is how I come up with twice a month as a reasonable goal. It is long enough to feel some benefits of marshaling my orgasm, but not so long that I start to feel repressed. Would I oblige if my wife, on a whim, wanted me to orgasm more or less? Absolutely.
