For the record, I'm new to all this, and Mrs. Wolf is not interested in dominating me, but she really does love to tease me.MrsRindyNaive wrote: Is it an adjustment or hormone thing?
At the moment, she has a lot of guilt about the denial part, but if she ever gets over that, I think I'm in trouble. For now, I mostly get into the device on my own whim, and sometimes she takes the key, sometimes not. Okay, background done, I can tell you first-hand that there are a lot of emotions, and hormones that kick in when you are accustomed to indulging in relief whenever you want, and you then switch to giving control of that to someone else. When I am in chastity, my libido goes up, not down. I fixate on the fact that I am locked up, and it drives me to an even higher level of arousal.
A couple of times, I have driven Mrs. Wolf to the point where she just says: "OMG would you stop, it's all you ever talk about! Here, take the key and go away!". Because she doesn't want to play all the time. And she's watching tv, or reading a book, or working on something, or whatever. But the whole time, regardless of what else I'm doing, every 30 seconds or so, my brain gets an interrupt that says: "Hey. You're locked up. Isn't that hawt?"
I think that if Mr. Wolf was a bit more resolute, things would be easier. This goes to the commentary about treating him like a child. It's not that you should really treat him like he has the intellect of a child... Just that he has the urges of a child, and being firm with him will help. Consistency is key. If he thinks that pestering you will get him what he wants, he'll keep doing it. If he is resigned to the situation, because he knows you're not changing your mind, then it actually becomes _easier_ to deal with. When that little interrupt happens in his brain, it's easier to dismiss it, because there's really nothing he can do about it. This will take time, of course, because he will have to accept his situation, but he can only do that with consistency from you.
As to the other comments about telling him to submit, or you're not going to play anymore, well, that's kind-of the same thing. It's saying: "Look, do you want this, or not?" The key is to set the rules, and stick to them. If you want to set a schedule, it's best if you stick to it, so there's no ambiguity. That's not to say the rules can't change, but they shouldn't change when he's at a peak of arousal. Negotiations are best done with a clear head, not an engorged one.
Communication is critical, of course. Too little, or even too much communication can be bad (refer to Mrs. Wolf's annoyance above).
He may not be able to articulate what he wants, either, so some trial and error is likely required.-Wolf
