Spanking

[Lucard]

noid51, your idea of guiding her hand is a horrible idea. That's topping from the bottom.

Remember, first of all this has to be fun for her. So you must appreciate whatever kind of spanking she decides on. This will give give her freedom to do this at her speed. At some other time when you are communicating, you could tell her that she is very far from your limits and that you want her to know that she can push you much harder when she is ready. And a safeword is a good idea, that way she will know that she isn't hurting you.

Concerning spanking, this is the mother of all FLR spanking sites. Go read it all and show it to your wife.
http://auntkaysdwc.com/

[TwistedMister]

noid51, your idea of guiding her hand is a horrible idea. That's topping from the bottom.

It's not necessarily a bad idea. Mrs. Twisted has sometimes noted that she needs for me to "teach" her about some things. Although it might not be the way *you* want to do it, that doesn't mean that it's 'wrong' for someone else to do it that way. Each couple needs to do what's 'right' for them, and that doesn't mean that anyone who doesn't do it the way *you* think it should be done is 'wrong'.

Personally, ass-spanking/whipping/caning just doesn't do anything for me. Generalized pain doesn't have any attraction for me, I've had (and have) [more than] enough of that in my life. For me to get anything out of it, pain needs to be more directly sexualized, which means my cock and (to a lesser extent) balls. That works out well for Mrs. Twisted and me, since she has discovered that she quite enjoys slapping/spanking my cock and that it makes her 'wet' doing it. She hasn't even come close to reaching my limit/tolerance, so that means that she needs a little more guidance.

On the other hand, she needs to temper her enthusiasm slightly when it comes to my balls, and use just a bit more caution in how she handles them...a few nights ago she inadvertently did something that had me roaring and cross-eyed. Usually, she is extremely fearful and concerned about 'hurting' me, and gets a certain look of terror and contrition and apologizes profusely if she thinks she has *really* hurt me...but this time, she burst out laughing, uproariously. While it is possible that this could be explained by a noted psychological phenomenon whereby a person has the exact opposite reaction to a particular stimulus than what would 'normally' be expected (such as laughter when informed of the death of a loved one, or crying in the face of *good* news), on this occasion, no apology followed...and I have to wonder if a turning-point has been reached.

[noid51]

"Guilty as charged". This past Sunday I was released for the first time since fathers day and my what fun!! On my stomach and rubbing my cock as instructed, she began to slap my ass with her hand. This time I simply said "harder" after each swat. I know that's topping again but it worked as she increased the force of her swats. I know she still is worried about how hard she's hitting me but but we are progressing. She's only home on the weekends so it would be wonderful to look in the mirror a couple of days later and have something to remind me of her!

[slave d]

MsM had me order new paddles for Her collection (yes She's really getting into FLR and corporal punishment and discipline now) from thepaddleguy in USA (you can find him on eBay or fetlife, not to be confused with thepaddleman, i also have an email for him is anybody wants to PM me). He made the paddles (the larger to my specific design) out of red oak and i completed them with lettering etc. Cost for the two including freight to NZ (freight cost more than the items) was under US$40 which was probably less than i could have made them for myself. MsM has yet to use either of them but tonight is "playnight" so anything may happen.





The large one is 470mm long and the shorter 300mm

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[McAndrew]

Well before getting into orgasm denial, my wife was always loved applying pain to my arse. Which is a shame because I don't really like it.

I find the anticipation and putting yourself in a submissive situation is very exciting and but the actual spanking less so. Whereas my wife isn't interested in the build up and taunting, she just wants to whack.

So we have come to a compromise, because this time she's asking me to understand something she enjoys.

Having read a blog by somebody describing themselves as a 'lazy dominatrix' my wife just tells me to get ready and I have to do it myself. So I have to get myself tied by the wrists to the end of the bed and a paddle ready. Then she makes me wait, occasionally taunting, until she's ready.
She's allowed to average five whacks. Normally followed by her needing her vibrator.

(Because we are nudists and so don't want to mark, we use a paddle.)

[knighterrant]

noid51

Proceed with caution, there are a lot of resources which can lead to you getting a serious ass whipping. The recommendation on sending her to DWC is a good one. Sounds like you are not really asking for punishment spankings, but just a more hearty sexual type of spanking. The problem is, that for it to really work she has to decide.

Slave d, nice paddles. If you haven't been spanked with a Lexan paddle, put it on the Christmas list. It pack a hell of a sting, and doesn't mark as much as wood.