Describe your type of chastity

[gilesenglish]

We have three kinky tracks to our relationship. Chastity is one of them and seems to run independently of the other two (formal slavery in the bedroom + domestic FLR)

[TwistedMister]

We are the type of chastity where I would love to be the full blown wife lead dom/sub cuckold relationship with her forcing me in bondage and lingerie and making me serve her at all times, and having friends that knew and even participated. I know that is a typical fantasy, but I think I could really live that life.

But, what we really are is me in chastity because I masturbate way too much so I convinced my wife that it is better for both of us if I lock my penis away and she holds the key. I try to "serve" her as much as she allows and pick up as much of the housework as she allows, and in return I get released once every week or two to have sex with her that she doesn't enjoy.

What part of the sex does she not enjoy? And why?

Would it be better for you and her if she *didn't* let you have sex with her, but perhaps instructed you to masturbate or get yourself off some other way?

I sickly do enjoy the fact that I can't please her with my penis, I just wish she would tease and taunt me about it more.

Is it just *your* penis that doesn't/can't please her, or is it *any* penis?

Perhaps you should talk to her about teasing and taunting you more- maybe during a directed masturbation session where she *doesn't* let you have sex with her, instead teasing/taunting you about how you have to get *yourself* off because she doesn't enjoy sex with you/your penis so she isn't going to let you have sex with her.

If it is just *your* penis that doesn't/can't please her, but another might, she could incorporate *that* idea as well into the directed masturbation session, including in the teasing/taunting the idea that she *might* enjoy sex with another instead of yours.

You won't know, and she won't know, if this will work for [both of] you unless you try it. Even if you think you could handle the 'cuckold' thing, it might not be a good idea to actually suggest that she go ahead and fuck someone else, some women are touchy about that sort of thing. Instead, limit your discussion to the idea of teasing and taunting you about it- this is a far 'safer' and less threatening method of exploring this concept.

The two of you might find that you both enjoy this (in your own ways) but that it is something that is better left as merely a fantasy, maybe restricting you to pleasuring her orally (if she likes that), telling you that your cock can't satisfy her and taunting you with the same theme while she directs you to masturbate for her. On the other hand, you and she might find that she is interested in exploring the idea further, if she is comfortable with teasing you about it...but you need to let her get her own mind wrapped around the idea and let her come to her own conclusions about it- if you try to force the idea of really doing it on her it could very well have the complete opposite effect and cause her to reject it out of hand and shut down completely on it.

[Tom Allen]

We have three kinky tracks to our relationship. Chastity is one of them and seems to run independently of the other two (formal slavery in the bedroom + domestic FLR)

Yeah, we're sort of like that around here.

The chastity thing is fun for us, but we seem to go for long periods of me being locked up, and then taking a break for a while... but not always. And then we have a more-or-less agreement that I will only come with her permission... but that's not a (ahem) hard and fast rule all the time.

We don't have an FLR, except possibly in the bedroom... but not quite, because I'm free to aggressively pursue (just not free to orgasm).

We're talking about trying something different, like adding some domestic discipline, or a regular "review and maintenance" night, but there's been too much family stuff going to to take it beyond the discussion stages.

The idea is that we just want to change things enough to keep it interesting.

[FreakManVA]

I would describe ours as greenhorn chastity that hasn't completed a maiden voyage yet LOL
But seriously, we're into some various kinks but we are also kind of feeling like we embrace things in our own way & not the norm per say.
I think sometimes there's too much of a focus on labels D/s or mistress/slave for instance. Perhaps the word "Submission" presents such a strong visual for some people that they're sure it doesn't apply to them.
A lot of our life we're just a M/F couple, we share & do practically everything together. If we could find jobs in the same building for the same employer we would, & we'd probably meet up for lunch every day too but we're in different fields of work.
Sexually yes she likes to top & I'm pretty submissive. I do a share of housework but in my opinion, she does more than me and she could & should get me to do more. In my pre chastity self I'll admit I've picked a few things around the house that I would mind the least doing & left her the rest.
With that being said, she for the most part doesn't want me in HER kitchen cooking stuff, she prefers to have total control there, perhaps an occasional break would suit her at which point I trust she will make sure I'm in there doing some work for her. Some BDSM opinions would say if she cooks dinner every night, makes breakfast everyday & cleans the kitchen than she's not dominant & I'm not submissive, to those types I will never agree. She maintains control of HER kitchen because she's dominant about that & doesn't want me in there making a mess, changing her systems or re organizing things. Kitchen = her domain & just for the record, that arrangement has nothing to do with my skills in the kitchen. I can & do easily please her with an awesome meal when the time is right & I'm expected to. She's dominant about keeping the kitchen to herself & I'm submissive in allowing her to have that. Believe me I've been likened to a mild case of OCD so I would totally & thoroughly enjoy emptying her cabinets & drawers sometimes & reorganize everything to suit my liking.
Just like chastity is intended to derive mutual pleasure D/s is as well. If she wants me in the kitchen I will certainly go there & do what she wishes I do. If cooking the meals independent of my help or input is what gives her pleasure than that's OK too.
We cancelled our fetlife account over a few different issues one of which is the absolute minded people that have these "it's got to be this way or you're not really dom" or "if you don't do these things you're not really sub" attitudes.
Insisting that everyone approach the subject exactly the same way in a rigidly orthodox fashion is not what any of this is about, does kind of sound like some religions though LOL