She has figured out the advantages

[sls01234]

It took my wife about a year to get in to the advantages but she is into it now. once she hears the click of the lock she is a different girl.

[belocked]

The problem with this discussion (as I see it), is that there seems to be an undercurrent of "There is only one 'right' way to do this."

It isn't true. What is right for one isn't necessarily right for another. There are some for whom some level of 'game' is appropriate and comfortable. For others, even 'topping from the bottom' may be an appropriate and satisfying experience for both partners. Then there are the 'purists', for whom only total control is acceptable.

The fact is that there is a scale, a range of positions and methods which vary depending on experience, comfort, personal preference, attitude, and even compromise. There is no 'one size fits all'.

Of course every couple has to do it their way. I was just saying that my wife won't continue if it's just a game, and I don't want to have to top from the bottom continually. We talk lots and I expect a slow build up until she decides when she's ready. I don't know how long it will take, and I don't know what to expect when it happens, but either we go at her pace or it will all fizzle out.

[Linus]

Till a couple of years back, my wife always felt that I had an affair. Her suspicion built to such a level that we were about to break-up. There was no way I could prove my loyalty towards her. Till that time I knew nothing about chastity.
When I read about male chastity on the internet, I knew this is the only way I could convince her. So on one weekend outing I introduced this subject to her. It took her some time to get convinced that by keeping me locked 24x7, it is practically impossible for me to have an affair. Then she instantly accepted the idea.
Then we ordered the steel cage & she locked me the very day it arrived. It took me a few weeks to get used to staying locked 24x7. Till this time, none of us had ever thought that it would add up to the excitement in our sexual life.
For the first few months, she would release me only for shaving, and that too in her presence. Gradually all her suspicion melted down, our relations improved, and we started having sex which we realized was far more intense as all my energy was stored for her. Simultaneously, I was transformed from a stubborn husband to a submissive, caring husband. She more than welcomed this change.
Today, we are much closer to each other than we were before. She enjoys me taking care of her in all aspects. Once a week she thanks chastity lifestyle for saving our marriage.

[Tame Lion]

I know this won't be popular here, but I believe that games represent a way to top from the bottom. It's a way to influence how your chastity will work. I am sure that the way to success is to let your partner discover her own games. Trust her to incorporate chastity into your lives.

The problem with this discussion (as I see it), is that there seems to be an undercurrent of "There is only one 'right' way to do this."

It isn't true. What is right for one isn't necessarily right for another. There are some for whom some level of 'game' is appropriate and comfortable. For others, even 'topping from the bottom' may be an appropriate and satisfying experience for both partners. Then there are the 'purists', for whom only total control is acceptable.

The fact is that there is a scale, a range of positions and methods which vary depending on experience, comfort, personal preference, attitude, and even compromise. There is no 'one size fits all'.

Like pretty much everything in life, variation is infinite. My point is that you have scenarios in mind in the beginning. But they are your fantasies not hers. In many cases we men are supercharged to live out our sexual dreams. If I am to surrender, then I, by definition, must surrender how the chastity will play out. I got her to lock me up. The rest is up to her. She has the key. Let her keep it.