The Science Behind MC

[Tom Allen]

MC on introduction? Showing you the device when he picked you up for the 1st date?
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Seriously, Mike? Care to explain yourself?

[Sir Chaste]

Hi Tom! What Dsrv did not mention was that, after we had first met on an alternative social networking site (you know which one!), she and I were e-mailing to each other back and forth for almost one week on that site. Then, she wrote to me on my personal e-mail, and gave me her telephone number. That was followed by a marathon 10-hour telephone call, which did not end until 4:00 a.m. So, Dsrv and I had fully discussed our previous lives and marriages, our expectations of dating, and our joint desire for a committed, monogamous relationship. I had informed Dsrv of my interest in an MC lifestyle, and I had supplied her with links to "Kept for Her," Sarah Jameson, and other relevant reading material. She had previously thought that MC was used only as a CBT and bondage technique, and she expressed to me her complete surprise upon learning that it can be used to enhance a marriage and bring a couple closer together. Our first physical meeting was at a local group event of that same alternative site, and we spent the entire night talking mostly to each other. That was followed the next night by our "First Date," when I proudly presented Dsrv with the package from MM, and she opened it. On the following night, I gave Dsrv her key to my Jail Bird, which she now wears on a long silver chain. Since that beginning, we have spent every available moment together, and when we are physically apart, we talk on the phone for at least two hours per night. So, from it's inception, our relationship will be based upon an MC and FLR model. Dsrv has already embraced the goals of this lifestyle, and has become an enthusiastic, contributing member of the Forums. We are both committed to making our relationship successful, and neither of us wants to repeat the mistakes of the past. As I watch Dsrv become more assertive and more confident in her role as my KH, I am very proud of her, and I strongly believe that our MC relationship will be filled with teasing, with joy and laughter, with excitement, and ultimately, with love.

[TwistedMister]

It is rather strange carrying on a courtship at the same time as learning how to be a KeyHolder, but so far, so good

Is 'courtship' so very much different from MC? I think not, except that MC is the extended version. Women (in general) wear make-up and clothing designed to enhance themselves, to be alluring, even tantalizing (sometimes leaving little to the imagination), displaying their 'assets' to best effect...while men are taught that "No means No". The men must chase (court) in hopes of being told "Yes". Men may look but are forbidden to touch unless the woman explicitly permits it, 'caveman' style bopping with a club and dragging home is most definitely frowned upon. MC merely formalizes it with a device and a key, and extends it.

[Anymouse]

It seems to me that male chastity leads (at least for us) by definition to a never-ending courtship phase that turns my neighours' tummies I am so saccharine-sweet all the time. (And since they know what sort of Romance novels I edit, the two do not parse.)

James, living the chaste life in the Old West.

[kelmag]

Glad it's working for you Dsrv. Perhaps for the first time in your life, and his, male biochemistry will be working in your favor. In my case, I introduced male chastity after a 16+ year purely vanilla marriage as a way of spicing up our sex life. I didn't know it at the time, but the main benefit to my wife was her sudden complete authority over where, how and when we had sex. She would no longer face pressure for sex from me and that has made a huge difference in her quality of life. The fact that she is the center of my attention, much like she was when we first courted, has been icing on the cake. A year and a half after we adopted male chastity, we adopted a Female Led Relationship (Wife Led Marriage). It may have been a backwards way of doing things but it really worked for us. That year and a half period of deciding the where, how and when of our sex life and controlling my orgasm gave her a taste for decision-making and showed her that there would be no carping from me about her decisions. So many of the things we used to argue about because we had "equal power" (meaning nothing got decided until one of us imposed his or her will on the other and that force was never forgotten by the other) got decided by her quickly and easily. None of those things was worth the aggravation we had arguing over them. Once I was able to put my male ego aside, I also realized that her decisions were generally better than mine. They were just generally more sophisticated in balancing factors and attending to our and other people's feelings. We have never been happier.

[forest]

Does anybody have experience with wet dreams and their impact on hormone levels? My wife and I have currently decided to treat wet dreams like an unapproved orgasm (changing release details).

[Caged55]

Glad it's working for you Dsrv. Perhaps for the first time in your life, and his, male biochemistry will be working in your favor. I didn't know it at the time, but the main benefit to my wife was her sudden complete authority over where, how and when we had sex... A year and a half after we adopted male chastity, we adopted a Female Led Relationship (Wife Led Marriage).... So many of the things we used to argue about because we had "equal power" (meaning nothing got decided until one of us imposed his or her will on the other and that force was never forgotten by the other) got decided by her quickly and easily. None of those things was worth the aggravation we had arguing over them. Once I was able to put my male ego aside, I also realized that her decisions were generally better than mine. They were just generally more sophisticated in balancing factors and attending to our and other people's feelings. We have never been happier.

I'm certainly with you on that one, an after reading Kelmag's blog, I understand why I am so comfortable not wanting to orgasm, yet craving release. We entered into a WLM, and then added chastity, but as soon as I relinquished my control, it became smooth and beautiful relationship, without fighting, and arguing... and yes i agree, she makes better decisions in the most part, and hears my opinion (respectfully kneeling at her feet naked) if I feel she is wrong... it works, and chastity just takes th pressure off her completely, while focussing my attention(s) on her.... I love being a chastity husband in a WLM

[Linus]

Kelmag is a member here. There is a lot in that article, was there something in particular that was enlightening to you?

Great article indeed!
That's one of the best articles I have ever read on chastity
On one side I could learn the scientific reasoning & other info on chastity
On the other hand it helped my wife take my chastity far more seriously
Thank you so much @Kelmag!

[Caged55]

... My wife read the kelmag blog, and decided then and there that I will be in chastity permanently with no end date, plus reduced my orgasm "schedule" from once a week to once a month with the condition that I still have to earn my orgasm... in one way I was looking forward to the possibility of cumming this weekend, or maybe sometime duing the week should she deemed I have earned one - now thats out of the window... next orgasm will be over a month away, if I behave appropriately... and actually thats ok, I love her being in control, and the high level of attentiveness I give her...

Although she was keeping me in permanent chastity, the blog made her decide it will never not be even a remote option... I WILL be in chastity, she will hold the key, and thats the way it is until death do us part... and I am ok with this, I love our WLM, and being chaste... for my Madam

[Linus]

... the blog made her decide it will never not be even a remote option... I WILL be in chastity, she will hold the key, and thats the way it is until death do us part...

Same in my case!