Ruined Orgasms: Then And Now

[michaelnmelissa]

It's funny how your perspective can change.

There have been times in the past when my orgasm was ruined unintentionally. It would happen when I'd be trying to last longer while making love. Sometimes it worked and sometimes it didn't. I'd stop moving, but I'd feel myself release anyway.

It was incredibly frustrating in a bad way. Yes, I wanted to last longer for her, true, but I wanted to orgasm too. Since it was a ruined one I was able to keep going for her, but I can remember thinking how disappointed I was.

Now I crave even a ruined one. I feel thankful when allowed one. I am happy for even that much. I've even asked for a ruined one over a full one just so I could not slip backward into a post orgasm flat time.

Amazing how the very same thing can look so different when viewed from another angle, isn't it?

Michael

[davidphd1866]

Mike,

Your point is fantastically made. This statement supports Locked and ChastisedRob's comments about Reality Setting In. (forgive the odd use of proper nouns)

In my case, I used to be angry and upset if I made love to my wife and I didn't cum. I would have felt like I "wasted" my effort to make her orgasm if I didn't. NOW, I consider it a treat if I am allowed to give her oral sex. (and my orgasms provided by her are going to almost be a thing of the past entirely)

David

[fuzzydunlop]

Has anyone else ever had a ruined orgasm while in a CD using a Hitachi? It is completely odd. You get no direct physical stimulation other than the vibration and feel completely unsure you can climax until you do. It takes the edge off "needing" release with none of the normal physical pleasure. The pro is that you can stay in chastity the whole time. The con is that it is technically a way of defeating the device. I've only done this once or twice.