Confronting a friend about my problem

[inneedofchange]

Hello people. I'm 100% new to this forum. anyway, I'v had a problem for over two years now. I'm obsessed with masturbating to the point where it has been effecting my life. I'm unemployed now and looking for work. I'v come to the conclusion the my addiction is interfering with my motivation to do things. if I refrain from masturbating two days or so I have a lot more energy and motivation I can only see this is a problem. I thought of a chastity device, but released what's the point of wearing one if I have the key? I have a female friend in college about 100 miles from where I live, she's also single (if that matters). We never talked about anything sexual, but i feel I can trust her with anything. Why question is what might be the risk of explaining my situation to her and asking that she hold the key? Do people do this?

[Tom Allen]

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[Whizbang]

Hello people. I'm 100% new to this forum. anyway, I'v had a problem for over two years now. I'm obsessed with masturbating to the point where it has been effecting my life. I'm unemployed now and looking for work. I'v come to the conclusion the my addiction is interfering with my motivation to do things. if I refrain from masturbating two days or so I have a lot more energy and motivation I can only see this is a problem. I thought of a chastity device, but released what's the point of wearing one if I have the key? I have a female friend in college about 100 miles from where I live, she's also single (if that matters). We never talked about anything sexual, but i feel I can trust her with anything. Why question is what might be the risk of explaining my situation to her and asking that she hold the key? Do people do this?

I think your main risk is just a little embarrassment.

Some people do wear chastity devices strictly as a way to reduce / eliminate masturbation. There are locking services, key safes, online key holders, and people who practice self-locking. One technique people use is to freeze their keys into a block of ice--that makes the key available at relatively short notice if you have an emergency, but makes it hard to casually unlock.

Many of the folks here seem to be involved in chastity play as a way of enhancing their relationships and not solely for the masturbation denial part.

My only other caveat would be that, if you do choose to go with a device, give your body time to adjust. It can take some weeks or more to get acclimated and to get your sizing right. That device might feel fine when you put it on, but the next morning at 5AM, or 3 days after, you might find yourself dealing with some real and unneeded pain. If that happens, you won't want your key 100 miles away.

[mistress is god]

The fantasy is to try and get somebody of the opposite sex to hold the key. But this is fantasy as what you are asking is for them to be somehow sexually engaged with you. Even if this is as simple as holding the key to you chastity. Unless you feel your relationship with her is of a sexual nature I would suggest that you have a look at one of the web sites that have key holding services.

My favourite is keysafe (www.mykeysafe.com)

[Anymouse]

And as noted elsewhere on these forums:

After you lock it up, you can freeze in water the key if you are alone. (Your freezer becomes your keyholder.)

You really have to want that key to get it out of the ice. It makes you think twice about it.

Of course, no number of chastity belts, devices, plans, or even ice will deter you if you truly want to masturbate.

Chastity devices as prevention to masturbation has been used in the past. Especially on teens, though nowadays that is unlawful. Masturbation is a natural function of just about every mammal.

Chastity is not usually found in nature; for us it is a lifestyle. Chastity is something we want because, counter-intuitively, it increases intimacy between our significant other(s).

As a method to prevent masturbation, if you want it to work. It is like diet centres. They work because you want them to work. So does eating better and exercising more. That's the trick. You have to want to do something first, or you will have poor results. (It is much easier to give up a chastity device.)

- James, on the High Plains.

[celticqueens_sub]

spot on in my view anymouse