Rituals & Etiquette

[poor]

In the 'Devices' forum a thread has developed from a member displaying a plaque he made to hold their CD when it's not in use. The thread has developed into an examination of the routines and processes that are used by couples that lock cock.

http://chastityforums.com/viewtopic.php?f=3&t=13365

I've started this thread because we've just got a new device with a cock-ring option that stifles erections or makes them uncomfortable which is a kind of halfway house that has introduced another level of play.

Chatelaine is also far more pro-active and we are finding that what we've done in the past doesn't always feel right for where we are now. Our method of locking up is becoming more ritualised and there is an eqituette when her device is being worn that is now expected.

To me, this is the nuts and bolts of MC and I'd love to hear how others go from one state to the other and the codes you follow when locked.

[poor]

To give an example; when we started we used an everyday padlock that locked when it closed. Chatelaine could instruct me to lock up via text or phone and I never needed access to a key (we've never used an emergency key once the fit has been sorted).

Then I inverted the lock and changed it to a sculpted lock with no edges for comfort and a much more discrete profile that needed to be locked shut which meant that we had to alter how we played when apart. Neither of us felt that my having a key was appropriate so locking up became as close as unlocking but less spontaneous than before.

[danj]

My wife tends to be more casual, and less about rituals. There are still certain rules that have been established, though I think I was the driving force on most, at least at the beginning. Early on I told her I would never remove the device (except for an urgent problem/emergency) without her express permission. Every so often she'll feel me, and say "oh, you're still locked?", and I'll remind her that I never remove it without her permission. Heck, my emergency key has been securely wrapped in the same tape for about 2 months! She seems to forget that she carries the key we use to lock & unlock!

Another etiquette that has been established is I'm no longer allowed to ask to stroke "her" cock when I'm unlocked unless we are playing together at that moment. I know some chaste men stroke like madmen when unlocked, but avoid orgasm. I used to ask to do this often when I was unlocked...no more (her rule). Now, all my pleasure is derived directly from her. All masturbation is verboten unless I'm on a full chastity break. These have been happening every so often, maybe a day...maybe a few days, though the frequency and duration has been dropping...and to be honest, I hope they continue to happen less and less. My preference is her having total control of my penis. I don't want to feel any control over it.

[poor]

Here's a couple of other examples; one poster described how what type of base ring was used meant he had a good idea if he'd be locked for hours or days.

Another one for you dice throwers; do you throw before or after you are locked? If you consider it the dynamics of the two are quite different.

[TwistedMister]

Here's a couple of other examples; one poster described how what type of base ring was used meant he had a good idea if he'd be locked for hours or days.

Another one for you dice throwers; do you throw before or after you are locked? If you consider it the dynamics of the two are quite different.

We are (or *were*?) using a system of drawing playing cards, the drawing of cards would occur *after* being locked. The method I devised gives a numerical value which determines the number of months; aces, deuces and jokers are wild so the minimum time is 3 months. Two cards are drawn, I draw them but don't get to look at them. Wild cards are used as a multiplier, she can take either the higher or the lower value of the cards drawn, or add them together, or multiply the value of the other card if the wild card is drawn...or, she can just make up a number. This method allows for chance *and* a certain amount of control depending on her state of mind at the time. Since I don't see the cards before she announces the time, I don't know if the number of months that she said is *really* what the cards say- I can challenge the number, but if I *do* challenge the number (at which point I will see the cards), and it turns out that the time she said *is* what is indicated by the cards, then that number is multiplied.

The last time we did this she went for the maximum number possible, which surprised me (the second surprise, the 1st was that she spontaneously decided to initiate the Game, without any suggestion or prompting from me).

However, last night, after she fell asleep she was talking (yes, in her sleep, something she does quite often) about needing to get a waterproof lock for using in the swimming pool...which will not be usable for some months yet- in excess of the 'scheduled' end date. The rules of our Game *do* permit her to extend the period for various reasons...she seems to be enjoying this quite a lot.

[Atone]

she was talking (yes, in her sleep, something she does quite often) about needing to get a waterproof lock for using in the swimming pool...

Don't worry, the lock will stay locked just fine if it gets wet

I have spent plenty of time in the pool and the ocean with no troubles at all using a standard brass master lock. When I am done in the ocean I rinse it off real well with tap water, usually when I rinse myself off. I also use a couple of drops of light gun oil (for real guns, not the silicone sex lube) occasionally.

[TwistedMister]

Don't worry, the lock will stay locked just fine if it gets wet

LOL, I know...but I guess she doesn't? I wonder if she thinks I take precautions to keep it dry in the shower?

I have spent plenty of time in the pool and the ocean with no troubles at all using a standard brass master lock. When I am done in the ocean I rinse it off real well with tap water, usually when I rinse myself off. I also use a couple of drops of light gun oil (for real guns, not the silicone sex lube) occasionally.

I've been using this lock for years, and I don't think I've ever oiled it. But, I've plenty of *real* gun oil handy if it needs it. I'm not getting in the ocean any further north than Key West so I don't think I'll have to worry about salt-water corrosion...at least not until the economy gets a whole lot better...or Al Gore sends a few boatloads of that 'global warming' that he used to blather on about.

[poor]

Chatelaine decided that I am to be shackled for the duration of her periods. She specified that regardless of whatever else I had planned in my life (and whatever reasons I came up with to be free) that I would not be unlocked until her monthly visitor has left.

The Dual Cock Ring has proved to be a very effective device and I'm not getting let out for work anymore (which means that one day I will be busted as having random metal detector searches are part of my contract). I'd say I'm 50% shackled of which 90% is ringed and 10% Full Metal Jacket.

As I'm now enjoying routinely being shackled in excess of a week at a time, penalties have increased to monthly (although I've not managed to incur one in a year of MC).

Still no emergency key or safeword.

[if53]

Poor, Does the thought of getting caught give you any kind of thrill at all? It doesn't sound as though your at all worried about getting caught, Would the metal detector going off result in a strip search or would you get away with explaining the situation? (This must be high on a lot of peoples fantasy list! lol). I also wounder if your other half gets a kick out of knowing you may get caught?
I do understand that it's all about the KH's desires and being locked ect ect, but there are a lot of people who get a thrill in it's self from a bit of risk.

[poor]

No, it's not a thrill in the slightest.

The rate is about 2 per year. So IF I'm at work that shift AND I'm shackled (it could happen tomorrow or might not happen for 5 years). Either way I can't do anything about it - could be embarrassing to say the least.