Wow! I appreciate all the support. For the record i do know that i will eventualy find someone who i just perfectly fit with, maybe tomorow, maybe next week, maybe next year! However i cant help but feel excited and impatient of something so new and exciting. I know i should slow down and savor the experience, but by god its to damn exciting!
poor wrote:By all means call me deluded but consider this:
Let's suppose Deathrage gets his Steelheart and wears it every moment that his work allows. He's cool and comfortable(after at least a few weeks) with it and by chance he meets a young freuline at the PX.
By the way poor you are to damn smart . You figured me out. I thought i was being ambiguous enough, but i guess it was a matter of time, and it shouldn't suprize me with everything that i have posted on this forum that you figured me out
It took me years to figure out this was my kink and then years to turn the woman I loved (and grew a family with) onto it - or a least accept it into our life together - and was often punctuated by heartache, regret and guilt.
poor is the man whose pleasures depend on the permission of another
wishful4 wrote:
In a perfect world, CQ would happen to have a sister that is looking for a chaste male to live happily ever after with and you could be on the next train
If only I thought my sister would have listened....
deathrage wrote:Wow! I appreciate all the support. For the record i do know that i will eventualy find someone who i just perfectly fit with, maybe tomorow, maybe next week, maybe next year! However i cant help but feel excited and impatient of something so new and exciting. I know i should slow down and savor the experience, but by god its to damn exciting!
poor wrote:By all means call me deluded but consider this:
Let's suppose Deathrage gets his Steelheart and wears it every moment that his work allows. He's cool and comfortable(after at least a few weeks) with it and by chance he meets a young freuline at the PX.
By the way poor you are to damn smart . You figured me out. I thought i was being ambiguous enough, but i guess it was a matter of time, and it shouldn't suprize me with everything that i have posted on this forum that you figured me out
deathrage wrote:i would always need access to a "emergency key" for release durring certain "situations" and from what i understand some KH don't like this and they feel it may be abused.
So my shout on this is an emergecny key should always be available to you. Real life gets in the way of the fantasy...
I can only speak from my own experiences. CQ insists that I carry a key, I am responsible for it and must produce it for inspection when asked. (She has never asked). I honestly think that any sane, rational KH would have no issue with this. I wouldn't want a KH that wouldn't agree to this sensible real world pre caution.
This comes down to finding the right KH. Not easy at all..
I can't believe I got so lucky to meet and marry CQ. Many have said on here that it is finding the relationship first and then things might develop on the lines you hope for. This sound advice too but I agree with the statement from poor, this could work to your advantage. In fact I was going to post along those lines before I caught up with the rather more eloquent way he had put it to the way I was going to.
You will get good sound and real world advice here. Another key thing, filter the utter crap out from the wank fodder of nubile 19 year old "Mistresses and KH locking your cock up as it is worthless" They don't exist. If the do... don't tell me!!
Owned and loved by Celtic Queen. Her perception is my reality.
celticqueens_sub wrote:Many have said on here that it is finding the relationship first and then things might develop on the lines you hope for. This sound advice too but I agree with the statement from poor, this could work to your advantage. In fact I was going to post along those lines before I caught up with the rather more eloquent way he had put it to the way I was going to.
Now that I think about it, it occurs to me that in *all* of my romantic/sexual relationships with women (not that I've had that many) I might as well have been 'locked up' in the beginning- I was never the one to initiate actual sex, often going home with a severe case of 'blue balls' (never proceeding beyond kissing/necking/ear-nibbling) until *they* became so frustrated they said [something along the lines of] "Damn it, you're going to fuck me tonight or else."
04/07/19 "And then I 'punished' you by making you lick my pussy after I let my other 'boy' fuck me." --Mrs. Twisted
deathrage wrote:
You will get good sound and real world advice here. Another key thing, filter the utter crap out from the wank fodder of nubile 19 year old "Mistresses and KH locking your cock up as it is worthless" They don't exist. If the do... don't tell me!!
Call me stupid if you want (ill own up to it) im not exactly tracking what you are trying to say here so if you want to clarify it would be much appreciated. It might also be beucase i have been out with "the boys" so to speak and am a little drunk from Gluwhein and Feuerzangenbowle (if you know what that is you have tasted heaven and perfection, there is no way to describe it...just perfection). To be honest i am not one of those people who is "suave" or "sexy" outright. unfortunatly im one of those people that can easy get put in the friend zone. The point im trying to make is that it is hard to meet people outside of work and not feel weird, let alone find a relationship that can evolve to the point of chastity. Unfortunately my last relationship left me quite scared in many different ways, I dont really know what to say other than it sucks
I figured I'd chime in with my limited experience in this department. I'm rather young at 25 years old. I came to the general femdom and pegging fetishes before developing an interest in chastity. I have experimented with femdom activities in two relationships, and the second of those two included chastity. Those two women are the only two women to whom I have ever broached the topic, and they both willingly explored the idea.
So, in my two person sample size, I have found women to be very open to the idea of experimenting with femdom and chastity. They both enjoyed the concepts. One was pretty good at it and took control rather naturally. The other woman would only ever do exactly what I suggested she should do, so that was less exciting. Both relationships ended for reasons unrelated to our sexual escapades, and I am currently single.
My last relationship has turned me off of "relationships" for the time being, so I expect to be single for a while. I do, however, still have some female friends that probably wouldn't mind if I slept over. I have kept my sexually deviant interests a secret from these girls, but I am considering changing that. I actually think that at this point in my life -- where I am very interested in exploring my sexual fetishes but strongly averse to getting mired in another going-nowhere relationship -- my best plan may be to initiate some fetish play in a friends with benefits situation.
As many have suggested, it can take a ton of time and effort to develop a relationship and introduce chastity play into it. Asking a female friend with benefits to be my key-holder would certainly allow me to explore the fetish more quickly. In the long run, I'd say finding a relationship with a girl I love is way more important than getting to experiment with my fetishes, but a few months of the latter wouldn't be half bad.
I expect to be making this decision in a few weeks. If I go the ballsy route of asking a friend to become my keyholder, I'll give an update on how it goes. I have a specific person in mind who I think will be open to the idea.
deathrage wrote:
You will get good sound and real world advice here. Another key thing, filter the utter crap out from the wank fodder of nubile 19 year old "Mistresses and KH locking your cock up as it is worthless" They don't exist. If the do... don't tell me!!
Call me stupid if you want (ill own up to it) im not exactly tracking what you are trying to say here so if you want to clarify it would be much appreciated. It might also be beucase i have been out with "the boys" so to speak and am a little drunk from Gluwhein and Feuerzangenbowle (if you know what that is you have tasted heaven and perfection, there is no way to describe it...just perfection). To be honest i am not one of those people who is "suave" or "sexy" outright. unfortunatly im one of those people that can easy get put in the friend zone. The point im trying to make is that it is hard to meet people outside of work and not feel weird, let alone find a relationship that can evolve to the point of chastity. Unfortunately my last relationship left me quite scared in many different ways, I dont really know what to say other than it sucks
What my hub is saying is that there is a lot of mis-information out there on the internet that is far from reality so don't read the rubbish and think that's how a chaste relationship is going to be. Don't worry about being "suave" or "sexy" - just be yourself. I imagine it is difficult to meet people out of work given what you do but at the risk of sounding too maternal, you have years ahead of you and a whole ton of mistakes to make yet . Dont let one relationship scare you off!!
its kinda funny if you look at how this thread has evolved from the original subject, to giving out relationship advice. Its not that i dont appreciate the advice, i just think its funny.
. You figured me out. I thought i was being ambiguous enough, but i guess it was a matter of time, and it shouldn't suprize me with everything that i have posted on this forum that you figured me out
. Dont let one relationship scare you off!!