What we sacrifice.

[Chosen_Jackal]

I thought it could be interesting to hear what others thought of this. I was thinking about the things we sacrifice for this lifestyle when we choose chastity.
It’s easy to see what those of us who are in chastity give up, but it’s worth talking about what our key holders give up as well, so I hope some of you chime in and give your thoughts.

I’m sure we all think it’s worth it ultimately, but let’s talk about some of the sacrifices we make.

I have some thoughts of my own, but I’d like to hear from others before I bring them up.

[KHEmmi]

Ooo, is it me first?

It is a good question and interesting.

First thing that pops into my head is spontaneity, and then dominance.

Sometimes, just being “taken”, even if you don't particularly want it, is sexy and the feeling of being dominated is a powerful thing.

When our males can only have sex when we allow it, obviously the spontaneity disappears. Then, even though Herbi is eager to please (and does so), it does feel different knowing that it was me, rather than him, that instigated sex. It shouldn't make a difference knowing that he's doing it because I've allowed (or instructed?) him to, but it does.

[Tom Allen]

Honestly, Mrs Edge and I have more sex now, and it's better.

We may have traded some spontaneity, but is it a sacrifice if you get back more than you gave up?

[Chosen_Jackal]

Honestly, Mrs Edge and I have more sex now, and it's better.

We may have traded some spontaneity, but is it a sacrifice if you get back more than you gave up?

I’d say the net gain greatly outweighs the sacrifice. We wouldn’t keep doing this if it didn’t, but there is an element of sacrifice still.
At least in my opinion and also Reds.

I spoke to Red about this and she mentioned the same things as KHEmmi.
She sometimes missed the spontaneity and feeling of being claimed by a lover that can’t help himself.
We still have elements of this as I’m allowed to make sexual advances toward her, but there’s always an element of her having to make a conscious decision that introduces a tiny bit of artificiality to it.

There’s also the fact that the way we have sex has changed. I think us men place more importance on piv sex (please correct me if I’m wrong) than women in general, but when I spoke to Red about this she told me she occasionally misses it just because there’s a level of intimacy that can’t be fully replaced by toys or other acts.
There’s no reason we can’t have piv sex whenever she want, but I’m not exactly improving in that department after weeks and months in the cage, so it’ll require more than the occasional release to get me back into form.
And that’s not something we deem worth it at this stage.

[KHEmmi]

Honestly, Mrs Edge and I have more sex now, and it's better.

We may have traded some spontaneity, but is it a sacrifice if you get back more than you gave up?

"a tiny bit of artificiality"

Yes, those are good words.
I can relate to that.

[Tongue+groove]

“Being taken”, being claimed or owned “, “being bred”. These are all phases that Mrs. G used in the early days. Things she had to adjust her attitude about. These actions were her initial sacrifices.

The difference now is that after her being pleased she will some times say things like, “you can have me now”, or “it’s your turn, use me if you need to”. One time she even said something like, “Fuck me like you own me.” So sometimes the old ways return in the heat of the moment.

The empowered part for her is that she can now stop me at any point and I obey.

[KHEmmi]

" ... after her being pleased ... "

I like your post and those words that I've left in quote make sense.
They give me an idea.

Herbi won't get a chance until July now, but I now know what I will do. Thanks you T+G !

[Tongue+groove]

. Herbi won't get a chance until July now, but I now know what I will do. Thanks you T+G !

Oh my. I’m not sure what to think of this. You never cease to amaze all of us with your creativity.

I hope that whatever you have planned will be wonderful for you both. Keep us posted.

Now I feel a bit like herbi. Giddy with anticipation, eager to see what’s coming and duly frustrated also.

[Chosen_Jackal]

I just hope whatever we inspired KHEmmie to do is to Herbies liking…