Everyone's journey is different, I get that!
To each his own ...
Yet I yearn for my wife to like the strap on, but she says it's not the same and can't get into it...
Cunnilingus doesn't happen very often as she's aging, and UTI'S are an issue! She loves them but doesn't want a UTI so it doesn't happen too often.
Envious and jealous of you guys
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Red and I have grown to love the strap on, but it’s all about the way we use it. When I use it on her I don’t pound her pornstar style.
I’m laying close to her, embracing her and thrusting slowly and deeply. I don’t think she ever sees it while we use it. It’s not that she’s put off on seeing it, but she says it’s all about the fact that I’m the one using it on her. It wouldn’t be so intimate and pleasurable if you remove the the way I’m close to her from the equation.
Maybe your wife could get into it if you explain that it can be extremely intimate?
I’m laying close to her, embracing her and thrusting slowly and deeply. I don’t think she ever sees it while we use it. It’s not that she’s put off on seeing it, but she says it’s all about the fact that I’m the one using it on her. It wouldn’t be so intimate and pleasurable if you remove the the way I’m close to her from the equation.
Maybe your wife could get into it if you explain that it can be extremely intimate?
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FWIW my wife likes nothing artificial. It’s tongue, fingers or cock nothing else is of interest to her. I don’t bring it up anymore. Yes we all have our unique journeys so don’t be envious of anyone.
We have some friends who are in your same shoes. Intimacy equals a uti or yeast infection for her. If I had the answer I would be a rich man. I can’t imagine what you all go through.
I guess we all have some limitations somewhere. I could see pegging in our future one day but it’s not physically possible for me anymore. It is what it is.
The only words of encouragement that I can personally offer is to keep in mind how much more creative the two of you must be than the rest of us in order to enjoy each other.
Stay positive for her.
We have some friends who are in your same shoes. Intimacy equals a uti or yeast infection for her. If I had the answer I would be a rich man. I can’t imagine what you all go through.
I guess we all have some limitations somewhere. I could see pegging in our future one day but it’s not physically possible for me anymore. It is what it is.
The only words of encouragement that I can personally offer is to keep in mind how much more creative the two of you must be than the rest of us in order to enjoy each other.
Stay positive for her.
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She says that it doesn't feel the same, not warm, not skin on skin... (yes I've read to warm up the dong)
I guess she just likes real d!ck
I guess she just likes real d!ck
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Vaginal estrogen has been a lifesaver for me and eliminating UTI’s. Crucially, it helps bring back natural lubrication, the lack of which is a major cause of pain and infections. It also helps with any atrophy which often accompanies menopause. It’s applied locally and the hormones are not systemic which can be a concern for some.
Of course, her preference is the rule. I am just an unashamed evangelizer for peri and post menopausal women getting the right medical care that is poorly understood by most in health care.
Of course, her preference is the rule. I am just an unashamed evangelizer for peri and post menopausal women getting the right medical care that is poorly understood by most in health care.
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We had to try a couple of different dildos before we found one that really did it for her. I recommend the SHIJI vibrating dildo. It's on Amazon.
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Have you tried discussing with her how it makes you feel? Sometimes just getting a better understanding of why you are keen to do it can help kick-off some mutual exploration...gggxthree wrote: ↑Thu Feb 13, 2025 2:27 pm Everyone's journey is different, I get that!
To each his own ...
Yet I yearn for my wife to like the strap on, but she says it's not the same and can't get into it...
Cunnilingus doesn't happen very often as she's aging, and UTI'S are an issue! She loves them but doesn't want a UTI so it doesn't happen too often.
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Absolutely this. @MrsLockNkey and I are very communicative especially with chastity and She is very open to my giving teasing ideas.Therainking wrote: ↑Tue Feb 18, 2025 12:47 pmHave you tried discussing with her how it makes you feel? Sometimes just getting a better understanding of why you are keen to do it can help kick-off some mutual exploration...gggxthree wrote: ↑Thu Feb 13, 2025 2:27 pm Everyone's journey is different, I get that!
To each his own ...
Yet I yearn for my wife to like the strap on, but she says it's not the same and can't get into it...
Cunnilingus doesn't happen very often as she's aging, and UTI'S are an issue! She loves them but doesn't want a UTI so it doesn't happen too often.
It actually helps get Her own creative process going, in fact
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My wife pee's immediately after any intimacy. I think in our many years she's only gotten a UTI a couple times.
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I’m always listening for my wife peeing. I love to listen. I love even more to witness and taste. She says I’m Related to our bull. Bovine bull. Not cuck bull. He washes his nose every chance he gets. I too love her scent.
She says ‘it’s cute’ in the nub. 
