In my mind, just because you put a saddle and reigns on a horse and make him go where you want him to go, does not make him less of a horse.
I feel there are just a lot more "resources" available than when you and I got into it. When I got into it, there was no Reddit, Tumblr, Twitter, or even MySpace. Some of my first exposure to "Kinks" was the alternate lifestyles section of Penthouse Letters.kink-cultural thing that has developed along the lines which puts being locked into the same drawer as humiliation.
Now, a ton of information, stories, and fantasies are being presented as fact. Tom Allen seems to be the only person I know that has a successful blog containing interesting information about NOT having sex. Telling stories about chastity being used to control someone into emasculation and sissy and cuckolding and everything else is much more exciting to read about. So, the perception is propagated that you can't have one without the other as that's the majority of the data being published (even if it is 99% fantasy).