Well, I've been dabbling with this whole thing for all of about 3 weeks now. I'm past the "OMG, this makes me so horny, I can't even get this thing on" stage, and well into the "man, something just feels nice about being caged" stage. Mrs. Wolf, however, has been "up and down" on the whole idea.
When I first approached her, I got the "that's weird" look, eventually got her to agree to let me buy an HTv2, and even got her a bit interested in playing the T&D game. At times, I weird her out, then she comes around and has a bit of fun with it, then I push too much again, and we're back to her not really liking this.
So last week, we were in the zone, but she was "unavailable". She's not comfortable doing anything during those days, which I respect. This week, though, we hit another bump.
I have an HTv2 with the 50mm ring, and the standard tube. The tube is too small for me, and I tried to sleep with it on last night, but it was total agony. About 5:00AM, I was rock hard, and there was more of it behind the cage than in it. The bit that was inside was burning and I had to take it off.
So I've been really eager to acquire a custom fit device. The problem is that I asked her to look at the options (MM & Steelworxx) and give me her input. She said that they all looked "creepy", and then went cold on the idea again. So I suggested we back off a bit again. Maybe she'll come back around to it, maybe not.
Patience, grasshopper...
Too aggressive
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poptart1200
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Re: Too aggressive
I have the HTv2 and i have the same problem. It's so comfortable during the day, but at night i end up behind the tube and pushing away trying to rip my testicles off. I wish they would come out with one with a bigger tube. It seems like most of the off the shelf devices are about that same size. I guess maybe some of us are gifted and just too girthy for them.
Re: Too aggressive
I tried wearing it overnight again last night. About 4:30AM, I had to urinate, and it took a long time to get soft enough to make that possible. (It's a weird feeling when you release your bladder sphincter, and nothing comes out).rotten wrote:I have the HTv2 and i have the same problem. It's so comfortable during the day, but at night i end up behind the tube and pushing away trying to rip my testicles off. I wish they would come out with one with a bigger tube. It seems like most of the off the shelf devices are about that same size. I guess maybe some of us are gifted and just too girthy for them.
Then, at 6:30 this morning, I had one of my typical full-on AM erections, which resulted in a burning sensation near the base. This is probably how I bruised my lymph vessel last time, which required a week to heal. I just hope I don't have the same symptom this time.
I guess I just won't be able to wear the HTv2 overnight anymore. It's not worth the risk of damage. Upon reading other posts on this forum, I'm thinking about the MCN Contender, now. It's a bit less expensive than the MM JB, and it's apparently lighter. I don't think the ID of the HTv2 is really 1 3/8" as claimed, though I don't have a caliper to test. I used the MM sizing rings on my flaccid member, and the 1 3/8" ring fits "snug, but not tight", as suggested. The HTv2 feels tighter than the ring, though. Also, I've started to notice a major annoyance with the HTv2, as the top of the tube has a slight bend in it, which tends to dig into the top of the penis right at the base. I suspect that it's there for structural strength, but it is a real pain.
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In case anyone else stumbles upon this thread, I thought I'd give an update. 
It's now been about 2 months since my HTv2 arrived and I started on this weird journey.
In those two months, the "holy fuck this is hot" has simmered down into a "fuck this is hot". I no longer feel the urge to talk incessantly about this with Mrs. Wolf. In the past month, I had taken to locking myself up for a day or two here and there and just leaving the key on the bathroom counter for her to notice, or not, at her leisure. From time to time, she'd "check" to see if I was wearing it, but more out of a strange curiosity than any desire to "take charge".
On a couple of occasions over the past month, she'd take the key and give me one of her mischievous smirks (instant discomfort down below). She would then tease me throughout the day and ask if she was making me uncomfortable. ME: Yes, dear, but you know we both enjoy it when you do that. HER: I think I enjoy it more than you do *smirk* ME: I'm not so sure. At the end of the day, she'd give me back the key, so I could unlock to sleep.
I feel the need to point out there was a period of just over a week when I had completely denied myself. Holy hell, was the O after that intense. I accidentally gave myself a ruined O that time. And immediately followed it up with a massive real one. I told Mrs. Wolf about that, and she seemed intrigued by that. She said yesterday that she was curious about how long I could go. TBH, I'm a little curious, too.
I discovered that with some silicone lube, I can sleep comfortably in the HTv2. I think the burning I was experiencing from the nocturnal erections was a result of the skin trying to grow, but being stuck to the inside of the plastic. With the lube, I can sleep through the night with very little discomfort. That leads me to where things are today...
I locked myself up on the morning of the 30th. On the 31st, I asked Mrs. Wolf if she would hold the key for me, since I wanted to deny myself, and if I had easy access to the key, I probably wouldn't last very long. She agreed to take it. She offered it back to me that night for bed, but I suggested she keep it. I haven't had it since.
It's now been about 2 months since my HTv2 arrived and I started on this weird journey. In those two months, the "holy fuck this is hot" has simmered down into a "fuck this is hot".
I no longer feel the urge to talk incessantly about this with Mrs. Wolf. In the past month, I had taken to locking myself up for a day or two here and there and just leaving the key on the bathroom counter for her to notice, or not, at her leisure. From time to time, she'd "check" to see if I was wearing it, but more out of a strange curiosity than any desire to "take charge". On a couple of occasions over the past month, she'd take the key and give me one of her mischievous smirks (instant discomfort down below). She would then tease me throughout the day and ask if she was making me uncomfortable. ME: Yes, dear, but you know we both enjoy it when you do that. HER: I think I enjoy it more than you do *smirk* ME: I'm not so sure.
At the end of the day, she'd give me back the key, so I could unlock to sleep.I feel the need to point out there was a period of just over a week when I had completely denied myself. Holy hell, was the O after that intense. I accidentally gave myself a ruined O that time. And immediately followed it up with a massive real one. I told Mrs. Wolf about that, and she seemed intrigued by that. She said yesterday that she was curious about how long I could go. TBH, I'm a little curious, too.
I discovered that with some silicone lube, I can sleep comfortably in the HTv2. I think the burning I was experiencing from the nocturnal erections was a result of the skin trying to grow, but being stuck to the inside of the plastic. With the lube, I can sleep through the night with very little discomfort. That leads me to where things are today...
I locked myself up on the morning of the 30th. On the 31st, I asked Mrs. Wolf if she would hold the key for me, since I wanted to deny myself, and if I had easy access to the key, I probably wouldn't last very long. She agreed to take it. She offered it back to me that night for bed, but I suggested she keep it. I haven't had it since.
Re: Too aggressive
We started off with no chastity device. I promised that I would not masturbate and did not. My wife was enjoying my reaction to her teasings and just laying back and being pleasured without having to do anything to me. When she was hooked on teasing and denying me, I suggested that I could go longer and therefore react more to her teasing, if I bought a chastity device. She said that she did not see why I could not just stop masturbating so I had to explain how much men mastrubate and our hormonal drive to have sex. She told me to get it if I wanted to. At first, I just wore it while I was dressed, for a few hours. I had the keys. I always took it off before we had sex so my wife did not see it much.
Over time my wife really began to enjoy the T&D and I finally gave her the keys which she just put in a drawer in her night table. It took months and lots of reading about chastity. I bought her two ebooks and sent her links to realistic chastity articles and blogs. She learned the a chastity device made me more horny and deprived my penis of human human touch for the most part and therefore made it more sensitive to her touch. She enjoyed my sexual attention and slowly but surely came on board to the point where she wanted me to wear it every day. I did, but within the year the CB cage split and my ring snapped in half. That is when I asked her if I could buy a Jailbird and she said yes.
It took a lot of baby steps to get my wife interested in chastity and now she cannot go back to the way it used to be. I made sure that my wife saw the benefits to chastity. Perhaps I was a little too attentive and eager to volunteer to do things around the house. Perhaps I was a little more grouchier after my orgasm than I normally was. I do not know if it was me thinking that I should be that way or the orgasm denial making me that way. In any event, I made sure that my wife enjoyed things more than when I was not locked in chastity, so she saw the advantages of locking me in chastity.
However, if she is not into it, I would give up after a few attempts. I have never been successful in convincing my wife to do something she did not want to do. At best she did it to either shut me up or to please me but when her heart is not into it, it is no fun for me. I have tried a few sex games and I had to just forget about most of them and move on to something else until we found something we both like. I think it is easier for us long married people because our wives are happy to have less sex and have us treat them like we did when we were dating. I swear, that when we have sex, my heart is beating a mile a minute and my skin gets hot. I feel like I did when I was a teenager ready to have sex and that is what my wife likes.
Good luck. We started and and stopped several times and it took a long time for my wife to fully embrace being a Key Holder. It also helps if you make key holding less of a chore for your wife. If you expect her to stand and watch you shower or handcuff you every time you remove your device and then peg you, that may overwhelm your wife. We do none of that. I just promised to not masturbate and always lock up without having to be told. My wife's only duties as a KH is to give me the key when I want to wash my penis before my shower and to tease me twice a week. Mostly edging. I made it as easy as it can be for her. I do not try to escape, although I easily can. I do not try to make myself cum which I can do without much of a problem. I follow the rules of a sex game that I want my wife to play rather than making her my jailer. I do not guilt her to make me cum when I want to. I stopped manipulating her feelings to feel sorry for me and let me cum before she wanted to. I have given up any say in my chastity now and it is all up to her. It has become her sex game more than mine, now.
Over time my wife really began to enjoy the T&D and I finally gave her the keys which she just put in a drawer in her night table. It took months and lots of reading about chastity. I bought her two ebooks and sent her links to realistic chastity articles and blogs. She learned the a chastity device made me more horny and deprived my penis of human human touch for the most part and therefore made it more sensitive to her touch. She enjoyed my sexual attention and slowly but surely came on board to the point where she wanted me to wear it every day. I did, but within the year the CB cage split and my ring snapped in half. That is when I asked her if I could buy a Jailbird and she said yes.
It took a lot of baby steps to get my wife interested in chastity and now she cannot go back to the way it used to be. I made sure that my wife saw the benefits to chastity. Perhaps I was a little too attentive and eager to volunteer to do things around the house. Perhaps I was a little more grouchier after my orgasm than I normally was. I do not know if it was me thinking that I should be that way or the orgasm denial making me that way. In any event, I made sure that my wife enjoyed things more than when I was not locked in chastity, so she saw the advantages of locking me in chastity.
However, if she is not into it, I would give up after a few attempts. I have never been successful in convincing my wife to do something she did not want to do. At best she did it to either shut me up or to please me but when her heart is not into it, it is no fun for me. I have tried a few sex games and I had to just forget about most of them and move on to something else until we found something we both like. I think it is easier for us long married people because our wives are happy to have less sex and have us treat them like we did when we were dating. I swear, that when we have sex, my heart is beating a mile a minute and my skin gets hot. I feel like I did when I was a teenager ready to have sex and that is what my wife likes.
Good luck. We started and and stopped several times and it took a long time for my wife to fully embrace being a Key Holder. It also helps if you make key holding less of a chore for your wife. If you expect her to stand and watch you shower or handcuff you every time you remove your device and then peg you, that may overwhelm your wife. We do none of that. I just promised to not masturbate and always lock up without having to be told. My wife's only duties as a KH is to give me the key when I want to wash my penis before my shower and to tease me twice a week. Mostly edging. I made it as easy as it can be for her. I do not try to escape, although I easily can. I do not try to make myself cum which I can do without much of a problem. I follow the rules of a sex game that I want my wife to play rather than making her my jailer. I do not guilt her to make me cum when I want to. I stopped manipulating her feelings to feel sorry for me and let me cum before she wanted to. I have given up any say in my chastity now and it is all up to her. It has become her sex game more than mine, now.