"Hello world" thread

[Tom Allen]

So my first question -

How about if you ask this with a little more detail in the main forum or on the Device forum, where more people will notice it?

[Snowman]

Well, here's me "hello world" post.

Canadian male in my mid 30's...man that feels weird to say...and have been messing around with chastity for the past 5 years or so with my wife. We don't lead a FLR or anything...but I wear chastity off and on for her and its slowly grown to being worn more than not. I started off like most in a CB-X and have tried a couple different devices including a Holy Trainer and now a metal Chinese device. I think other than the first month or two in which we were just seeing how chastity was...my wife has held the key to my device exclusively.

I really enjoy chastity as it puts the physical focus on my wife for pleasure and we are definitely not as hard core as most, as she really loves penetrative sex so I do get out now and then. It all started because she doesn't like sex while on her period...so I was locked up when Aunt Ruby came for a visit and then when she left I was let out. Now...I still get locked up when she arrives, but its usually two or three weeks on lockdown before I get let out...then before you know it a week or so later I'm back in. Wife loves my attitude and behavior way more when on lockdown so its becoming more and more fun for her and she realizes the actual power she really holds. I don't think she fully understood for the first year or so what power she had...but she's clued in and although she has a hard time "abusing" the power...she enjoys it and pushes my limits in spurts here or there when she thinks of something crazy or has a particularly frisky day(s).

Just a hard working prairie boy from Canada enjoying the journey.

[ToM]

Hello everyone, I have been toying with chastity for about a year. My wife is skeptical about it and my traveling every week does not facilitate. But I am working on it and keep developing my proofs of love to my wife in all the areas of our life together.

[Forherdesire]

Here is my hello world thread. My wife and I have been married for 18 years and have been together since high school. Are sex life has been pretty good for a good number of those years, as well as are normal day to day marriage.like most couple we have slightly conflicting sex styles. She is vanilla but is willing to try different things as a gift to me. As to me I am much kinkier then here. I learned about charity as a way to honor here with curbing my self pleasuring as well as trying to even the playing field sexually speaking. I ordered a Chinese knockoff while my wife was gone for a week. I wore it around here when I went to visit for a couple of hours and she never knew it. I wore it to work, jogging and threw the night. When she got home I made sure she was relaxed and then I let her know it. Totally surprised her. She never knew anything about chastity. After that we tried a 24/7 lockup for a couple of months. She did alright. We took a break after Christmas during the same time my Chinese cb 6000s broke, twice. Since then I tried three others devices and finally landed on a jailbird. It just came in last week but had to send it back out for a gap adjustment. Should get it back in this upcoming week. After that we have plans in starting again but at her timing. She is much more ready for it this time and it will be interesting.

[shrop]

hi all

60 year old been interested in chastity since I was a teenager. Time to be a bit more adventures I thonk.

[Zero-Blade]

Hi to all. I just found this place a few days ago and decided to join. Male, in mid 20's, addicted to edging and orgasm control & denial, so naturally, chastity is right up my alley. I love strong and strict women d/s, FLR, where I can focus on Her pleasure.

[SissyCD_Mika]

Hi everyone. I'm a 27 year old make who is looking to get in to chastity. I joined here mainly to ask people advice about devices.

[voltage regulated]

Hello all, Im a single 31 yo man and ive been fascinated with chastity for 6 years and bought my first device in 2010. I currently have 3 devices may purchase another someday. Ive never had a key holder but ive had relationships were ive felt comfortable telling the women about it, and surprisingly none of them thought it was weird or freaked out. However none of them got into playing with it, which is fine, sometimes I think its more for me lol. I look forward to chatting with others and enjoying others posts.

[DarkGlass]

Hello World!

My wife has known of my Chastity interest for some time, but just recently I've lost enough weight to fit into the CS500 I bought a couple years back. Moreover, she's gone from "Oh my gosh that must hurt, sorry, no I'm not going to play with you like that" to actually being okay with me buying myself a shock collar.

All that being said, I've been in it for three days straight now, and she's even willing to consider dropping the safe word if this goes on successfully for a few months. (That is, if I use it, I'd get tied down and better have visible problems/sores/chaffing or face some serious sexual denial)....which is pretty much my ultimate fantasy. If I could end up like mobico on CM did, I'd think I'd died and gone to heaven.

Outside of my extreme kinkiness in the bedroom, we're a totally "normal" couple. In fact you'd probably bet we're more 1950s style household than a slowly becoming FLR relationship.

Anyway, I actually have a lot more to post about our journey, but I'll post that in the appropriate forums section. I came up with a bunch of ideas that I've acted on so far that I think really add to the experience 8)

[nervous newb]

I am not currently in chastity and never have been. But I soon will be.

My wife and I have never explored sexual fantasies at all, but the last few months I've had chastity fantasies. She seems amused by the fantasy. I seemed amused by the fantasy, and I didn't really know anything about chastity (still don't, really.) But since we've been talking about it for a couple months now and we recently hit a milestone with our professional lives, we were excited and got swept up in a moment and ordered a CB6000s off the internet. I can't wait for it to arrive. And, I wish we had never ordered it.

I have such mixed emotions about the thought of chastity now. I've been reading a few blogs since we ordered it, I've been reading posts on this forum, and there's a lot of stuff that makes me excited and want that thing to be there when I get home today and have her lock me in it right away. But in my fantasies we're either putting the kids to bed and then she makes me put it on and we make dinner, watch tv, have drinks, then she teases me a little, makes me get her off, then she takes off the cd and we have sex and I have an amazing orgasm.

From what I've been reading most of people's experience with chastity is pretty dramatically different from my fantasy. The reality of my situation so far seems pretty common: husband fantasizes about it, somehow convinces wife to indulge the fantasy. When it arrives he's a weekend warrior with it. Gets to put it on Saturday Morning, take it off for the evening, put it back on Sunday morning, take it off for bed, then it's back to work sans-cd Monday-Friday. It appears that some people have this routine and it's as far as they get. I'm already willing to give the "weekend warrior" routine a shot.

But what scares me is that most couples seem to grow out of the "weekend warrior" routine. Maybe it's wearing for an evening out during the week (gasp, in PUBLIC!?) Then it turns into 1 day during the week at work, then 2, then one day the wife decides she's not playing anymore, she likes the attention she gets from a caged husband and the long-term lock is on. Here's the crazy part: her husband loves it. Then not only is the long-term lock happening (day and night ever day) but she reduces the orgasms he's allowed to have, even if he gets to be uncaged for awhile. AND...HUBBY LOVES IT?!?! Guys really go weeks, months, even a year or more without an orgasm?!?! I wanted to order this thing for something to spice up a sexual experience, now I'm worried that by this time next year I'll be wearing it 24/7, being denied orgasms, and loving it. Since we ordered it and I started reading blogs and this forum, my masturbation has quadrupled. Partly because I'm realizing that my fantasy is about to come true in a few days and that makes me horny as hell, but partly because something inside my brain is saying "better get your O now while you can." The issue is, I LOVE having orgasms, I LOVE having sex, and I LOVE getting erections if the wind so much as changes speed. I've got a fear that I'm going to LOVE not having those things even more, and I can't imagine the possibility that that could be real for any male. But, it seems to be real for a growing number of guys/husbands.

Here's a real-life scenario we're dealing with right now: My mother-in-law and I don't get along super great. We're generally courteous to each other. But I know she doesn't respect me because I have a profession in manufacturing and services instead of a suit and tie job. My income doesn't pay all the bills. My wife has to work too, and she recently lost her job. My mother-in-law makes comments that to most people seems like harmless comments, maybe even compliments. But I see them as the insults they're intended to be. "Wow, I just can't believe that you stuck with putting the kids to bed like that instead of having __________ (we'll leave her name out of it for now) do it. That was really helpful of you!" Interpretation: "I don't respect you and I have such low expectations for you that I'm actually extremely surprised that you did ANYTHING to support your wife!" While on vacation with her family recently, my mother-in-law made so many comments that one day I almost blew up at her and left. It was all I could do to keep it in my head. But I did make eye contact with my wife and she knew her mother had said something extremely insulting that would have seemed like nothing to most people. But my wife and I both knew that the insult may not have been intentional, but it was definitely insulating. I told my wife after that trip I'm never going on another one of those trips with her family. We had been doing these trips each year for the last 3 or 4 years. Now I'm ready to be done because I'm sick of the disrespect from my mother-in-law.

So here's my biggest fear: My wife and I play with the CB6000s for awhile just for fun. Then (also just for fun) it becomes a weekend warrior thing, then a once or twice a weekday thing to go with the weekend, and then one day she realizes "I can keep him locked up until he sits down with my mother and they get things hashed out." We'll get to the end of the weekend or the week-day and I'll find her because I'll be expecting to be unlocked as normal and instead I'm going to hear "I'm going to keep you in there until you talk to my mom and work out your differences, and you ARE coming on the vacation next year with us, and just to make sure you're on your best behavior, I'm going to start keeping you locked up for longer intervals and shorten the intervals you're unlocked so that I can keep you locked for the week before and the week of the vacation next summer." From there, orgasm denial seems like a short bridge to cross.

I didn't think of any of that when we ordered the thing. So now I'm nervous. Heck, I'm almost downright scared. I'm not scared of my wife, she loves me unconditionally (she is indulging my chastity fantasy.) I don't doubt that at all. And if I told her I hated the thing and wanted to throw it away (or sell it used on eBay? yuck!) she would be ok with it. I'm scared that we're both going to go down the long-term path with chastity and we'll both enjoy it immensely and I currently really really like my orgasms, hard-ons, and being able to touch myself at will. But in a few days, our CB6000s is going to show up on the doorstep and I'm not sure how I feel about potentially reaching a point where I won't miss the orgasms, hard-ons, and touching myself, perhaps even wanting to NOT have those things. It's something I never considered in my fantasy.

So I'm not sure how I feel about this anymore. I'm excited, I can't wait for it to show up. But it also scares me a little.