Spanking

noid51 · Post by **noid51** » Sun Jul 05, 2015 8:53 pm

My wife and KH has incorporated a spanking into most all of our sessions lately and I must say I really do enjoy them. She's pretty good at finding something that I've done to displease her. Trouble is, I really want her to step it up on the severity of her swats. She uses her hand half the time and a large wooden ladle the other times. I've thought about trying to find something to really piss her off while she's working on me but about the only thing I've come up with is how hot I think her best friend is, but I don't think that's a good idea for many reasons. I think she really doesn't want to hurt me. I Want her to. I'm thinking the next time she is using the paddle I'll reach up and grab her hand and help her deliver the blows. I'm thinking that might enlighten her to how hard I really want her to spank me.

slave d · Post by **slave d** » Mon Jul 06, 2015 2:37 am

MsM was similar as She didn't want to hurt me, now i get bruising !! my suggestion is that initially you count each stroke AND ask for more as in "one thankyou Miss, may i have more please". The other thing i did was tell MsM (i write Her a weekly report !!) to please remember i had safe words and i would use them if needed (do you have safe words ??). She then took it to the next level and i explained how i wanted to be pushed, to show Her that i will take pain FOR HER, to shiw Her how much i care and how much i love Her total control over me !!

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Caged55 · Post by **Caged55** » Mon Jul 06, 2015 2:00 pm

Spanking and getting a hiding is not a "game" or play, living in a FLR/WLM domestic discipline is a fact of life I submit to, initially it was play and she didn't want to hurt me, but this all changed as she took more and more control of our/her marriage, now I recieve a spanking for light corrections, and a full hiding, locked in a spreader bar, for more serious "attitude adjustments" or behavior improvements. hidings normally go hand in hand with extended chastity with NO T&D and no orgasms (usually pushed out by a month, if even permitted)...
Safe words work to a point, during hidings they are ignored, and there is NO TOPPING from the bottom anymore - its her way, and for the large part it has improved me and our marriage. Her implements range from paddles and hairbrush for spankings, leather tawse and the dreaded cane for hidings - plus some liberal application of BenGay on my ass afterwards (as after-care)....

noid51 · Post by **noid51** » Mon Jul 06, 2015 8:46 pm

Wow, Caged55. Maybe I should rethink this before I go any further. Not sure I want to get into spankings quite that heavy. Having a safe word might be a good idea. I hadn't thought of that as I never needed one so far. That might reassure her that she's not really doing something that I don't want more of. Kind of like a green light for her. I'll try it and see what happens.

locked4now · Post by **locked4now** » Mon Jul 06, 2015 9:39 pm

Cage55. I am sure you have said somewhere, but I wonder how long did it take your KH to move from the playing stage with spankings to this level of control?

Post by **GoddessRhea** » Mon Jul 06, 2015 11:32 pm

As was stated, there is a difference between play spanks, and punishment spanks. I think you could just tell your KH you want harder swats, and she will be willing to oblige.

However, if you want her to spank you, for corrections then I don't personally think that should be done when you're playing. Corrections should be taken seriously, and not seen as kinky play.

Different toys can give you different feelings when being spanked, as well. So you should experiment with them to see what you like for play.

Aarkey · Post by **Aarkey** » Wed Jul 08, 2015 7:58 am

Agreed GoddessRhea, the terms that I hear around here a lot are "Funishment" and "Punishment" - they are two totally different things. Some enjoy a spanking as symbolic and fun, others think that the "real" spanking only happens when the receiver wants it to end.

LOCKED HUSBAND · Post by **LOCKED HUSBAND** » Tue Jul 14, 2015 10:27 am

After shaving this morning as I bent forward to put things away she swatted my ass several times with the back of her hair brush , it was very stimulating . It was our first experience with me being spanked I immediately swelled in my age and am looking forward to this happening again . Can't say I wish to be abused but the tingling sting was very arousing along with the fact that it was spontaneous and her idea .
I am enjoying the ride as she becomes more controlling and takes the liberty to do new things .

carolina cyclist · Post by **carolina cyclist** » Tue Jul 14, 2015 10:45 am

GoddessRhea wrote:As was stated, there is a difference between play spanks, and punishment spanks. I think you could just tell your KH you want harder swats, and she will be willing to oblige.

However, if you want her to spank you, for corrections then I don't personally think that should be done when you're playing. Corrections should be taken seriously, and not seen as kinky play.

Different toys can give you different feelings when being spanked, as well. So you should experiment with them to see what you like for play.

Thank you GoddessRhea for your comments. MrsL has used playful spanking in the past and we have now introduced disciplinary spankings. The discipline spankings never happen in our bedroom and have to be administered in the garage. It is very effective at keeping the two separate. I can tell the difference as well as MrsL is much more firm with the discipline spankings!

Caged55 · Post by **Caged55** » Tue Jul 14, 2015 2:05 pm

locked4now wrote:Cage55. I am sure you have said somewhere, but I wonder how long did it take your KH to move from the playing stage with spankings to this level of control?

We moved from spanking to a hiding really from one day to another, she spanked me playfully, but as she gained more confidence in her control and authority, largely brought about by permanent chastity and the control over my orgasms and erections, she changed, all of a sudden she realized the authority she has... (about 6 months into permanent chastity - while we have "played for about 2 years before chastity came into "play")

At that point you don't want to go back because of all the progress you have made, so you initially take it, in a way that is what you wnated, but then it stops being a game and she WANTS to be in a WLM/FLR and disciplne becomes a corner stone of her dominance, not just the play, T&D, and she orders a cane and a leather tawse... you know she is into "spanking".
We have spoken about this at length, and her changes to more discilpinarian style, her opinion, and I must agree, is based on behavioral improvement, not pain or dominace. She considers that she has the right, now that we entered a FLR, to discipline me, keep me in permanent chastity etc, and she exerts this "right"...

Again, you don't really go backwards to vanilla, but the saying we hear all to often, be careful what you wish for and communicate to a point, but once you have passed the point of no-return, its your choice to accept it, suck it up, or risk going backwards... afterall that is what I wanted/fantasized about, now its real... personally I accepted it, it made me a better husband, we virtually never argue anymore, and if I do, I do so respectfully always aware of teh consequences

I dont consider getting a well deserved hiding - abuse, not at all I'd rather be disciplined than have her in a bad mood or disconnected from me, this way its over and done with, and we get on with life

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