Should release be planned?

[Linus]

He should never know his release date
Else, he spends too much time counting days and planning what he will do when released
He should be released all of a sudden and before he realizes that he's free, she should have her pleasure to the fullest and lock him up immediately
He should never get a chance to plan his after-released activities
That's what he is meant for
Use him when and only when YOU want

[Tame Lion]

He should never know his release date
Else, he spends too much time counting days and planning what he will do when released
He should be released all of a sudden and before he realizes that he's free, she should have her pleasure to the fullest and lock him up immediately
He should never get a chance to plan his after-released activities
That's what he is meant for
Use him when and only when YOU want

Really?????? On this forum?

[reeve]

I don't know when I'll have a release and I think it's best that way cause now she can let me think I'm about to have one when I'm not. Like when she unlocks the cage and starts to wank my cock really hard and stops when I almost have an orgasm and locks me up. Or maybe just a bit over the edge to give me a ruined one.

That wouldn't be possible with planned release

[sherulestherooster]

When we are playing with male orgasm denial, I really do NOT want to know when she will release me. The suspense is a big part of the turn-on for me.

She has a few times "promised" she will let me come and then she changes her mind and keeps me denied? I think changing her mind is a potent weapon in her arsenal.

[Tame Lion]

When we are playing with male orgasm denial, I really do NOT want to know when she will release me. The suspense is a big part of the turn-on for me.

She has a few times "promised" she will let me come and then she changes her mind and keeps me denied? I think changing her mind is a potent weapon in her arsenal.

Just cause it is scheduled doesn't mean Mrs. Lion will actually get me off on that date. She has extended my wait in the past. That's crushing to me.

[Grizzly228]

We don't use a cage but a lot of T&D and self discipline. We've never set a hard (no pun intended) date but I can usually tell when. Like next weekend or sometime next week. I just started, in her words, a record breaking streak, so I know I'm not cumming till the last week of the month, maybe later. She's really getting into this T&D stuff and enjoying the benefits. And I prefer not knowing the actual date. Keeps things interesting. I do like knowing if it's going to be a ruined O/denial/or full orgasm though. But sometimes I guess I don't deserve it as she doesn't always tell me. Really thought I was gonna get a ruined O last night but nope. Nothing. I'm still frustrated about it. Gotta love that woman!

[MrCage]

We debated many times on this subject. Mrs Cage wasn't sure at first what she wanted to do. All she kept saying,and still says is, "I will let you know when it's time." So it's been over a year now that I have been locked up. For the most part of the year I would keep track of my lock up and free dates. Then, as I realized that I was locked up more often than not, keeping track really didn't make a difference. So she has trained me to realize that I am always locked, so having a release date doesn't matter. It makes the release much more fun and exciting. I'm locked ALL THE TIME. She lets me know when she wants me. The dice game has always intrigued me though.

[kept4her]

We tried setting a date and using everything from long periods (6 months) to short periods (2 weeks) knowing the date didn't work for us. I found myself, knowing the date, I could just put off the thought till it got to the date. My wife found that, I seemed too comfortable in the device and almost forgot about it.

We use a "semi-known" date now. Once the things I need done for the release are completed, then she schedules a night and we enjoy that night released. It allows me to have that "need" to keep her happy and complete my task, and then the excitement I get once she sets the day - usually a few days later.

But for everyone, the idea of chastity can be completely different, there is no right or wrong way of doing it. Well unless you aren't enjoying it lol

[Tame Lion]

Now that we have "secret" release dates for me, I still feel the exact same desires as when i knew my next orgasm date. I think that Mrs. Lion is having more fun. When she started teasing me last night she said, "Too bad you aren't going to have an orgasm tonight. It's not time yet." Turned out I got an accidental ruined orgasm. Win-win.

[Caged55]

True chastity, in my opinion, is our dedication of our sexuality to our partner, and therefore not ours to "plan". We engaged in chastity for our own reasons, but not knowing "when" helps to not only focus, but also remain constant in our devotion and attention to our KH's needs, and pleasure.
I don't even know when I will be allowed to orgasm again, and the suspense (and frustration) drives me crazy, but channeled into absolute attention to keeping my KH happy.
I love the fact that its out of my hands, I dno't even have a spare or emergency key, and being totally dependant on your partner to unlock you and permit you, even an erection, is wonderful. She loves the control and the fact that sex, in whatever form is up to her, and keeps me totally focused on keeping her happy. I thinh knowing or planning release would ruin it, knowing that she is obliged or committed to my release doesn't work for us.. instead her absolute control of my sexuality is a "mind-fuck", and afterall our brains are the biggest sex organs we have.... caged and loving it