Cycles in Chastity

[HerTDToy]

My Keyholder made a funny comment to me recently. "You don't seem to be very horny."

I've been locked for 6 weeks - it's a little bit of a record for us. By now I'd expect to be absolutely desperate for an orgasm, but I'm really not. It's odd. In the first few weeks all I could think of was sex. Now I think about it a lot, but the all-consuming need for it seems to have tapered.

I was wondering whether other people experience this, and whether it's just a cycle - or whether some degree of orgasms or ruined orgasms are necessary to keep up the intensity. She's teased the heck out of me, and frequently releases me to play with her cock. The sex is amazing each and every time. But the desperation and horniness have waned.

Is this just part of a cycle. Is it just getting used to being locked up? I'm not complaining or anything, I'm just wondering whether others have experienced this as well.

Thanks in advance for any ideas...

[fuzzydunlop]

I've gone about 50 days a couple of times and experienced the exact same thing. Others have too. I don't know if its diminishing returns, hormonal cyles, or what. I enjoy the extra horny part of the first few months and eventually want to start over to experience that again. The hard part for me is starting over again after a very long stretch. Sometimes I've thought 3-4 weeks is a good period before starting over again. I'm at two weeks now and, against my instinct, have contemplated starting over with a ruined orgasm this time. I would like to pretend my wife alone makes these decisions but when things are going well we discuss the decisions.

[grubber]

I have been there also although at different times. However, what I have found is that when I rebound from these let downs, I am hornier than ever. My wife seems to know when this is happening to me and she instinctively does things to get my engine revving in high gear again. Sometimes I get re-aroused all over agin by myself. I have gone from 2 to 3 months even upwards of 6 straight months without being unlocked at all to being unlocked periodically with no orgasm allowed and there doesn't seem to be any kind of pattern of highs or lows.

I have posted something similar to your experience and posted recently where I was so horny especially around women that I felt like I was going to cum in my cage in my pants. My wife loved it. She loves seeing me aroused in front of other women. She gets off wondering if they notice it.

It sounds like you are not worried about your situation which is good. Just look forward to your wifedoing everything she can to keep you horny. Even the lows are better than the "Before Chastity" days.

[betheball]

For me, the cycles seem to run about the same as my wife (KH's) cycles. That is, she's at about 25 days or so, which equates to some high energy, horny times, and then some "day in the life" times. I find that I'm corresponding "up" when those times are approaching. If we miss a cycle, due to work, or life, or whatever, then I tend to settle down, ramping up again for the next cycle. What I have noticed is that day 30 is much like day 5 (crazy horny), while day 45 is much like day 20 (rather calm). I do think it takes about two weeks to begin this process, as the first two weeks is almost always very difficult.

[Tom Allen]

Came here thinking this was a question about road cycling.

[Len51]

I lose my urgent urge for an orgasm after 3-4 weeks. After that I only want one when my wife is edging me for a long time. Once she stops I am fine again.

[HerTDToy]

Thanks for the replies!

I think it's a natural cycle, but as it turns out my Queen decided to take matters into her own hands last night. Those four little magic words were uttered "You can cum tonight!". So the motor is reset.

It's good to know though, and I'll pass on the info to her and we'll talk about it.

Tom - here's some cycling porn for you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6CTm0juqmmA Sorry if this causes you any discomfort.

Thanks Guys!

[TwistedMister]

I've gone for some long periods, and for me the downs didn't seem to be related to 'chastity'. Usually a lack of arousal was more properly accounted for by outside stress factors- work, 'life', etc.

[Tom Allen]

I've gone for some long periods, and for me the downs didn't seem to be related to 'chastity'. Usually a lack of arousal was more properly accounted for by outside stress factors- work, 'life', etc.

Yeah, I agree. I mean, when it's new to you, then you're probably having larger mood swings, but after a while you kind of settle down and the cycles have more to do with what's going on in your life.

[fuzzydunlop]

I've gone for some long periods, and for me the downs didn't seem to be related to 'chastity'. Usually a lack of arousal was more properly accounted for by outside stress factors- work, 'life', etc.

Yeah, I agree. I mean, when it's new to you, then you're probably having larger mood swings, but after a while you kind of settle down and the cycles have more to do with what's going on in your life.

It's occurred to me that the longest I ever have gone, about 50-60 days twice, it was very, very hard to get motivated to resume denial afterwards. I couldn't match the intensity or motivation. But both times, breaking our strict orgasm "diet" coincided with some major life events, and we had a lot going on.

When denial works for us, it is like taking the intensity of sex and spreading it out over an extended period of time. It's not sex, but it is a sexual practice. I guess it shouldn't be that surprising that the same things that dampen a sex drive would dampen my appetite for denial.

I have a little apprehension right now because after 16 days (whose counting?), things feel pretty ideal---all the stuff we talk about on denial seems to be working on the moment. Not surprisingly, I am both intensely excited and a little apprehensive about the roller coaster of eventually coming. I want to get right back on the ride, but can't always predict how things will turn.